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Mark Twain is a famous American writer. He is famous for his relaxed and humorous writing style. Not only that, Mark Twain was also an extremely humorous person in his life. He always uses humorous language to tactfully resolve embarrassment and conflict. Up to now, there are dozens of humorous anecdotes about him on the Internet.

There are three stories that fully reflect his wit and humor:

Obviously, even the cleverest person can hear Mark Twain's voice-over, but there is nothing he can do. No one can but be moved by his humorous and sarcastic way of speaking. In this way, Mark Twain expressed his dissatisfaction without causing a quarrel, which can be said to be extremely ingenious.

In the face of a barber who didn't know himself, Mark Twain didn't identify himself on the spot and accepted the barber's praise in a condescending way, but kept a modest posture through humorous self-mockery.

Mark Twain didn't ask for anything directly, but he achieved his goal through a humorous speech. This is the charm of language and the power of humor. If Mark Twain points it out directly, I'm afraid we'll both lose and have to endure being bitten by mosquitoes.

We all admire and admire Mark Twain's humor, but what can we do to learn from his humorous way of speaking and make ourselves humorous?

Some people think that humor is innate, some people are born with humor, and some people are doomed to "face hard." In fact, a sense of humor can be gradually acquired through cultivation, but everyone's sense of humor is different.

If you want to cultivate your sense of humor and make yourself humorous, you should first pay attention to the following two points to avoid two misunderstandings.

Many people think that humor is synonymous with humor, that is, telling jokes, but this view is wrong. Humor is more than just telling jokes.

Humor was originally quiet in ancient China. Later it was introduced by Mr. Lin Yutang, and humor in English was translated into humor. The word "humor" has today's meaning, humorous and meaningful. Mr. Lin Yutang pointed out that "humor can be divided into broad sense and narrow sense. In western usage, it often includes vulgar jokes ... In a narrow sense, humor is different from repression, satire and ridicule. These three or four styles all contain laughter ... among all styles, humor is the most emotional. " Obviously, humor is self-contained, not a collection of jokes. Although telling jokes is a kind of humor, humor is not just as simple as telling jokes.

In life, some people can always arouse their emotions and enliven the atmosphere through self-mockery, jokes and metaphors. It makes people feel relaxed; But when it's our turn to "perform", we always screw everything up. "All the tricks are used", but the atmosphere is often more embarrassing, and we are dubbed "the king of silence". Why is this happening?

This is because our performance is too deliberate. When we just hear a joke, we really feel funny, but this smile will only last for a few seconds. When we calm down and find that it has nothing to do with the topic of communication, we feel boring. Do we have to tell jokes all the time in the chat, in that case, there is no way to chat.

Humor is not an instantaneous action, but a lasting state. A truly humorous person will use local materials, create content that makes people smile according to the scene and what they have seen and heard, create a relaxed atmosphere, and use humorous language to make people feel happy and happy from the heart, instead of being blunt and confused.

Since humor is not cultivated by telling jokes, and since humor needs local materials, can you show your sense of humor by teasing or even making fun of others?

Some people just think so and apply it to chatting. In the chat environment of two or more people, they "do whatever it takes" to expose other people's shortcomings, mention other people's embarrassing things in public, and even make personal attacks. It seems to be imitating some variety shows, teasing each other, "spraying" each other and "embarrassing" each other. But don't forget that variety shows are all discussed in private. In reality, chatting is improvisation. If you don't play well, the chat will collapse.

Such behavior may make the third party as an audience feel fresh and interesting, but the parties will be embarrassed or even angry. Moreover, no matter who it is, no one will think such behavior is humorous. When we call a person a "poisonous tongue", it rarely means praise, but more is helplessness and disgust.

If you really can't find a place to learn from and want to show your sense of humor, then laugh at yourself, provided that it doesn't hurt the elegance, belittle yourself and hurt the innocent, then self-mockery is also a kind of humor.

If you want humor, you need to learn two steps: the first step: capture the atmosphere; Step 2: Create an atmosphere. So as not to embarrass each other.

About capturing the atmosphere. In chatting, the atmosphere is very important, which determines our speaking style and discretion. If it is in a stalemate, humor can play a mitigating role; If it is in a serious and solemn occasion, humor is out of place. Therefore, if you want to show your humor, you first need to determine whether the atmosphere is appropriate. In daily communication, only when we capture the atmosphere of the scene and make sure that this atmosphere is suitable for humor can we proceed to the next step: creating a humorous atmosphere.

About creating an atmosphere. Mark Twain is outstanding in that he is good at creating humorous atmosphere and relaxed atmosphere. Throughout his humorous stories and humorous words, we can find a main feature of the atmosphere he created: reverse thinking.

Mark Twain's words often break the fixed logic, give people unexpected answers, and make people feel novel, relaxed and humorous.

For example, someone played a trick on Mark Twain and published his death in the newspaper. Therefore, relatives, friends and readers flocked to offer their condolences. Faced with such a scene, Mark Twain was not angry, but said humorously, "It was true to report the death, but the date was a little early."

He didn't criticize directly and fairly, and didn't emphasize "life". Instead, he changed his perspective and started from the perspective of "death". Through this anti-thinking answer, not only people who come to mourn will feel relaxed, but Mark Twain and the rumor maker will also judge each other.

Therefore, if you want to chat humorously, you can try reverse thinking and use it to enliven the atmosphere and resolve the embarrassment. This way is a hundred times better than just telling jokes.

Humor is not someone's patent. We can learn from and even master this popular way of chatting and become a humorous person.

However, if some people really can't find the trick of humor and can't use it well, don't be forced. After all, "flowers are red, people are different", and there is only one Mark Twain. We can understand the basic methods of humor, master the basic communication etiquette, and ensure that we will not say the wrong thing and bear the psychological burden for humor.

We should remember that in chatting, we can be humorous, but please don't be artificial. Humor is not boring, but humorous affectation is often self-defeating.

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