Please don't play jokes on children casually.

Please don't joke with children casually, they will take it seriously!

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There is always a large group of people who like to make children happy, based on hurting their self-esteem, and they do it just for fun.

If the child cries, it will be considered delicate, even parents don't understand the child, only the child's grievances have nowhere to release;

If the child laughs, there will be more jokes next time;

If children resist, will they live in peace? No, adults who tease children will feel humiliated and then attack with words. How can you be so ignorant? Not good at all.

Someone always tells children that your mother doesn't want you when she has a little brother or sister. And the people who say these words are not only neighbors, but also their own. This kind of verbal violence is like a knife, which directly sticks to the child's heart and has no sense of security!

According to news reports, the child refused to have a second child from his parents and threatened to commit suicide. When we see the headlines, we will habitually complain about what happened to our children and why they are so indifferent. Will such a selfish child grow up to be a bad person?

But when we look at it ourselves, we will find that the reason why children reject the second child is because of the jokes made by neighbors. Their original intention is Doby children, casually saying that your mother doesn't want you when she has a younger brother.

It is this sentence that makes children feel the crisis. A child can know what is true and what is false. We adults sometimes can't tell what others say, let alone children.

So, we are too strict with children! Moreover, our subjective consciousness does not consider the problem from the perspective of children. We habitually hurt children, because children are the weakest and most helpless! We won't feel guilty!

When I was a child, my neighbors liked to make jokes and always asked me whether I was a good father or a good mother. If I say dad, will the neighbors ask my mother if she is not good? So repeatedly!

I thought it was strange at the time. My answer actually made everyone laugh. When I was young, I thought people laughed because they liked me. I started to fight back when I got to primary school. And the result? The neighbor said angrily, I am still a college student, and the more I learn, the more I live!

This is a language attack. But my parents were honest and said nothing. In other words, my parents didn't take it seriously at all, which really hurt me! I feel very hurt. How can my neighbors call me a child?

Until now, I am also extremely disgusted with making fun of other people's self-esteem. You are happy, but where is the client! How painful!

Often at this time, parents also feel that their children are not sensible. Isn't it a joke? However, this is not just a joke, it really hurts the child's self-esteem and will also affect the child's future growth!

At this time, children need the support of their parents most. Unfortunately, most parents don't realize this. Instead, they criticize their children and indulge the jokers.

Adults always think that the relationship between adults is more important, so they choose to ignore it numbly. It is precisely because the problem is not formalized that children are hurt more.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, which is more important, family or outsiders? Is it the child or the clown's face that matters? It's their own fault, so why indulge it?

Don't think that children don't know anything just because they are young. Over time, you will forget yourself. We forget that psychological trauma will not be perfectly repaired with the passage of time, and some even have to follow people for a lifetime.

Ask the child's ability to fight back. Other people's relationships are not worth sacrificing children's self-esteem, not to mention their original intention is to sacrifice children's self-esteem as a prerequisite for joking!

There are some jokes, especially for children!

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I used to think there was no harm in joking with children. I could just joke about anything.

But seeing news events and the opinions of many parenting experts, I think this is really an adult's mistake, a conceptual mistake!

So how can we prevent this problem?

I once saw a nanny in a community, which was very powerful. When grandma told her children that your mother didn't want you. The child's eyes were firm and he replied, Mom won't abandon me. Mom loves me the most. Ma Bao was moved at that time.

Looking back carefully, it turns out that mothers often instill such an idea in their children that mothers will never abandon you and love you forever. What others say is nonsense, just don't believe it! Repeat it many times, and the child will know that his mother will not want him. I also know that others are joking.

Then, we can do the same!

First of all, we often instill some concepts of right and wrong into our children, express our love for them with words and actions, and then let them realize that we love him and will never abandon him.

Secondly, for those neighbors who like to joke, stay away from them. You can also fight back appropriately when you find an opportunity. I think I'd better not be a neighbor, and I can't cast a shadow over my child's young mind for the so-called neighborhood relationship.

When children encounter such problems, it is time for them to ask innocently, according to what you say, is it true that children don't want you when you are old?

Don't let children immerse themselves in verbal violence, but we stay out of it and become accomplices! Always remember: we not only have the custody of children, but also should shoulder the psychological growth of children!