What's the difference between a mother-in-law and a mother? Will you treat your mother-in-law as your own mother?

If you want a happier marriage, then women must pay attention to the boundary between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Morphy, the host of emotional programs, once said, "What I hear most from my parents on this stage is that I will treat you as my own daughter. These words, I suggest that no one should take it to heart. " Only when a woman can "keep her distance and be polite to others" can the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be truly healthy and the family can live in harmony.

Lan Jie is a famous daughter-in-law in the village. When Lan Jie and her husband got married, they not only didn't ask for a penny as a bride price, but also specially brought tens of thousands of dowry, while Lan Jie took out all these tens of thousands of dowry money to fill the debt of her husband's family. It can be seen that Lanjie really regards her in-laws as her own biological parents.

Every time Sister Lan buys something for her parents, she will bring one to her parents-in-law. I've been married for three years, and it's the same. Almost every month, she sends money to her in-laws. Every time Lan Jie goes back, she will buy clothes and gifts for her in-laws.

In fact, in-laws were very kind to her in those three years. When she quarreled with her husband, her in-laws also sided with Lan Jie. She went back to her in-laws' house, and they took care of her with delicious food. In this way, Sister Lan felt that she was the happiest woman and married a good husband's family.

But Sister Lan was pregnant, and everything changed.

Sister Lan simply resigned because she was pregnant, and her in-laws opposed her not going to work. Mother-in-law said to her, "It would be better if you went to work, exercised and made money. If you don't go to work, you are always bored at home, but it is not good for your children. "

Sister Lan listened to her mother-in-law and continued to work for a month. As a result, one day, Sister Lan began to bleed and was frightened. Later, she went to the hospital, and the doctor gave her advice: "If you want to keep this child, you must stay in bed."

Since Lan Jie resigned and stayed in bed at home, until Lan Jie gave birth to a baby, her mother-in-law never came to visit her again, and only called several times. There are many reasons why my mother-in-law doesn't come to visit. She has too much work at home and is in poor health, so she can't take care of her when she goes.

Sister Lan really can't understand why she can be so cruel when she is so kind to her in-laws. It was not until Lan Jie gave birth to a child that her mother-in-law took care of her confinement, and it was then that Lanjie understood her mother-in-law's real thoughts.

Mother-in-law thinks that Lan Jie is pregnant and doesn't go to work, but she has to rely on her son to support her, and his son has only a little salary. After paying the rent, there is not much left. She didn't want to come because she had to buy food and eat at her own expense. Besides, my mother-in-law also thinks that if Lan Jie doesn't go to work to make money, she still has to take care of her alone. My mother-in-law didn't want to spoil Lan Jie's problems, so she didn't go.

So Sister Lan was pregnant for more than nine months, and her mother-in-law never came to see her. This makes Lan Jie a little sad. When Lan Jie gave birth, Lan Jie called her mother-in-law in advance, but unfortunately her mother-in-law just had a fever and couldn't go. If the bill is passed, Lan Jie's husband will be distracted to take care of her, and her mother-in-law will be unable to make trouble.

My mother-in-law said the same thing: "I don't want to see my daughter-in-law give birth to a child, for fear that I will feel distressed."

Lan Jie sometimes really didn't expect her mother-in-law to be so cruel and hypocritical. Mother-in-law treats her like an outsider, and even her grandchildren don't feel bad. Every time she does something, she can find a high-sounding reason.

On the sixth day of Lan Jie's birth, her mother-in-law arrived late, and Lan Jie couldn't give her a good look. She felt very wronged. When her mother-in-law saw Lan Jie's cold eyes, she shouted to her son, "Look, I'd better not come. I'm also suspected of coming. Your wife doesn't even look at me. "

After Sister Lan's mother-in-law came, her husband went to work. Mother-in-law doesn't cook for Lan Jie at home, and she doesn't take care of the children. My mother-in-law can still find many reasons to say, "I'm afraid my cooking is not to your taste, and I won't take care of people." Besides, I am the elder and you are the younger generation. I am here. You should take care of me. Now that I have just given birth to a child, no one should care about anyone, just care about anyone. "

My mother-in-law is at home, doing nothing all day. She doesn't care if the child cries. She is either sitting in the living room watching TV or chatting with her aunt next door. When her husband came back soon, Lan Jie cooked some rice for her son to eat at home.

Angry with her mother-in-law, Sister Lan quarreled with her husband: "Is your mother here to take care of my confinement or to enjoy family happiness?"

After listening to her mother-in-law, Sister Lan said directly to Sister Lan, "I just came to see if you and your children are all right. You still have to cook and take care of the children by yourself. You are not at work, and you can't move. Just do what you have to do! "

Sister Lan asked her mother-in-law to go, but she refused to go. She said, "Everyone in the village knows that I am here to take care of your confinement. Don't you obviously let me go back now? "

Lan Jie and her mother-in-law have reached the point of incompatibility. When Lan Jie saw her mother-in-law, she wanted to cry, and she felt wronged. She thought she had been as kind to her mother-in-law as her own mother, but now she is so heartless.

Sister Lan and her mother-in-law often quarrel over trifles, and one time it is even worse. Sister Lan was so angry that she immediately called her husband back. The husband is just an ignorant summation, hoping that the mother and his wife can live in harmony. The more the two women talk, the angrier they get. Lan Jie's husband was afraid that two people would do it, so he prevented Lan Jie from approaching his mother.

Sister Lan was stopped by her husband, and her mother-in-law hated her guts. She seized the opportunity and slapped Sister Alan: "I made you so rebellious that even my mother-in-law dared to refute me. I am teaching you a lesson for your parents! "

Mother-in-law exhausted all her strength, making Lan Jie and her husband blind. In addition to being angry, her mother-in-law was afraid that Lan Jie's parents would come to her, so she packed up and left, while Lan Jie stood there, completely dazed. She wanted to fight back, but her mother-in-law moved quickly. She packed her things three times and five times and left. Sister Lan severely beat her husband, but her anger did not decrease.

Sister Lan said with emotion, "I took my mother-in-law as my own mother, but in the end she was so cruel to me."

In fact, women should never treat their mother-in-law as their own mother. After all, mother-in-law and mother-in-law are completely different. Your mother-in-law is good to you, you should be grateful, and you should accept that her mother-in-law is not good to you. There is a good saying: "I haven't seen my grandmother for ten years, and I haven't seen my daughter-in-law for ten years." The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is reincarnation. How to look at it depends on how the other person treats you.

A woman should not regard her mother-in-law as her own mother, but as an outsider from the beginning of marriage. It is the last thing for a daughter-in-law to keep a certain distance from her mother-in-law. She can't hurt you, and you can't involve her. There is a distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but they can always get along as guests without too many contradictions. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a kind of social relationship, and there should be an appropriate distance.