What if children don't go to the toilet at school?

How can you not know that you go to the bathroom during recess? Isn't it uncomfortable to hold your urine? The mother of a first-grade child raised such a distressed and angry question. I believe that there are also parents of lower grade children who have encountered similar problems in front of the video, but they have been told several times that they have not been effectively corrected. Why?

In fact, such troubles are often encountered in the process of children's growth, and it is normal, but as parents, they should not be ignored as trivial matters, because they may suffer from gastrointestinal diseases, so the key to the problem lies in how to solve them.

First of all, as parents, we need to establish an idea that we can't judge children's behavior simply by adults' thinking. We can't simply judge right and wrong by adults' existing thinking habits and standards of right and wrong for some problems and confusing behaviors encountered in children's growth. Take it for granted that what children should do is right. If they don't do this, they can't do it. They even blame their children by venting their emotions. Ask the child what he thinks and what is the motivation behind his behavior, and you will find that the child has his simple and simple reasons for doing so.

Then the next step is to find out the reason through communication. Why do children prefer to hold stools at school rather than go to the toilet? Through calm communication, children usually tell you the following reasons:

First, I am not used to the toilet environment. Toilets at home are all separate rooms, usually toilets, but toilets at school are often squat toilets or grooved toilets, which is very different from the environment of toilets at home. Some children will be uncomfortable and insecure, which leads to their reluctance to defecate at school.

Second, I am afraid of being criticized and laughed at. Some children are timid, worried that going to the toilet will delay time, and being late for class will be criticized by the teacher. Some boys are afraid of being teased by their classmates when they urinate because their pants are not properly arranged. Such children have strong self-esteem and will also make them unwilling to defecate at school.

Third, the defecation time is irregular. Some children have irregular defecation habits and feel uncomfortable between classes. Dare not raise your hand to report to the toilet in class, which will also lead to defecation. Even in order not to go to the toilet, I don't drink water or defecate at school.

Finally, I will give you some suggestions based on my experience of growing up with my children and my communication with other parents and teachers.

First, don't blame the children blindly. Parents should not rush to ask questions when they find their children defecating at school, let alone vent their emotional criticism. They should communicate with their children calmly and find out their real reasons and thoughts. And tell children that this is normal, and parents will encounter these problems when they are young, so as to alleviate their inner anxiety.

The second is to tell children the dangers of defecation. Parents should tell their children that defecation anywhere will endanger our health, and let them understand with simple reasons. For example, a small balloon is used to compare the bladder of human body to store urine. The storage capacity of the balloon is limited. If it is too much, it will expand and there is a danger of rupture. The same is true of human bladder. If you hold your urine too much, it will hurt, and you may even get sick and be hospitalized.

The third is to help children develop the good habit of regular defecation. Under normal circumstances, children defecate 1~2 times a day. Parents can let their children develop the habit of defecation in the morning and evening, usually urinating 3~4 times in class during the day. Parents can tell their children that recess and noon are used for drinking water, defecation and activities, and encourage their children to defecate during these periods. If there is something urgent during class, you should also report to the toilet in time, so that you will not be criticized by the teacher.

Fourth, parents communicate with the class teacher and do both. For those children who are timid and especially abide by classroom discipline, in addition to parents doing work for their children at home, it is best to communicate with the head teacher, so that the teacher can emphasize to the children in the class on collective occasions that they should go to the toilet in time during recess, and if they really have something urgent in class, they should report it in time to eliminate their concerns. Remember, communicate with the teacher in advance, and don't tell the children one by one first, so as to take care of the children's self-esteem.

Today, I will share with you how to solve the problem that children are unwilling to go to the toilet when they are bored at school. I am the father of a first-grade child born in the 1980s, and I would like to share with you some happy little troubles when the child grows up.