Will the psychology of single-parent families without fathers be affected?

Obama also grew up in a single-parent family. Born less than a year ago, my father ran away from home because of his studies. He divorced his mother a few years later. After that, until his death, Obama only met his father once. My father is not with me.

However, in such a growing environment, Obama can still grow into such an excellent person.

Instead of worrying about the influence of single-parent families without fathers on children, it is better to study how to cultivate children under such realistic conditions.

There will definitely be an impact, but what kind of impact and degree depends on this single mother.

If the mother complains, accuses and even vents her resentment against her husband on her child because of divorce, then the growth of this child is definitely a disaster.

If mom keeps stressing: Dad doesn't want us, Dad doesn't love you. Then the child will feel inferior and miserable. He doesn't understand what he did wrong, and his father doesn't want himself.

These behaviors should be avoided by single mothers.

Divorce only ends the relationship between husband and wife and should not sever the relationship between father and son. Although my father is not around, my mother can always tell my father's story, some advantages of my father (since I chose to marry him at the beginning, he must have some abilities and charm), and tell my children that my father loves him very much, so that even if my father is not around, my children will feel that I am still loved and he can become a confident and sunny child.

There is a kind of pygmalion effect in psychology, also called Rosenthal effect, which is our expectation and will have an impact on children. If we always have positive expectations for the child and believe in this child, this child will develop in a good direction; On the contrary, the result is also the opposite.

If the mother has been worried about the lack of single parents and fathers and thinks that the child can't grow up normally, will there be psychological shadows, then such an idea may also bring negative psychological hints to the child.

Maybe the child thought it was not a disaster to have no father. Under such worries, it is normal for him to feel that he has some problems.

A single-parent child may be asked "Why doesn't he have a father" when he grows up. His mother can teach him how to answer, normalize this matter and teach him calmly. It is not shameful to have no father, nor is it because of his own fault. Don't make your child feel inferior because of this.

A self-reliant, self-confident and self-loving single mother can raise a healthy and happy child even without the help of her father.

Let's talk about some manifestations of the lack of fatherly love.

1. Emphasize independence very much. I like a person, and I can't get along with another person. On the surface, I may have many friends, but my heart is always in an independent state. There is a thick wall around me, and there is little or no intimacy with anyone in my heart. Some girls hate men. They are unmarried and very independent.

2. Lack of self-identity. Maybe it's because my father denied her at an early age and didn't get a positive response for a little progress, but greed is always asking for it. Many times I find that she can't fully understand herself, don't know her strengths and weaknesses, don't know what her strengths are, and don't know what she wants.

3. No self-confidence. I always feel that although I am excellent, I will be at a loss in a big environment, especially in a strange environment (such as a group face), and then I will easily blame myself if I encounter setbacks. In fact, this sometimes has a great impact on my enthusiasm.

4. Understanding tolerance and other feelings, poor perception and understanding. No empathy. Get along with her for a long time, and you will feel her indifference, even cold-blooded. For example, if others treat her well for a long time, her inner feelings for you will stay where they are, and will not deepen or develop. Besides, I think it's normal. Compassion, gratitude, tolerance and gratitude will be missing.

5. Lack of ability to love others. Usually very selfish. Unwilling to take the initiative to love others. I don't think anyone can be trusted except myself. There is no need to love others at all or I can't feel the idea of loving others inside.

6. Rebellious personality, many behaviors and thoughts do not follow the crowd, and their thoughts are maverick. There are even some strange ideas.

7. I am stubborn and go my own way. Because I am stubborn and selfish, I am unlikely to change because of anyone.

8. Usually, the ability to resist pressure is poor, and emotions are easy to get out of control under pressure, and you will regret it afterwards. A sense of oppression and discomfort can easily lead to great stress in a relationship. The ability to resist pressure is poor, and some girls will voluntarily give up their relationship under pressure. Not because I don't like each other, but because I can't fall in love. They resisted all kinds of troubles brought by love and finally returned to a single state. The pressure disappears. So many of these girls are single all the year round.

A complete family is very important, and a complete family can create an environment conducive to the healthy growth of children.