Obviously it’s because I’m jealous, but I insist on saying it’s because others are showing off.

There has always been a popular saying among friends that "the more something is missing, the more it will show off." I have really been putting up with this statement for a long time. I think the more you lack something, the more you feel that others are showing off! It's obvious that he is jealous, but he insists on saying that he is showing off! Is it so difficult to recognize yourself?

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Once on a bus, an aunt in her fifties or sixties was talking on the phone with a loud voice. The content is probably that my younger brother is coming back from vacation in Sanya, and he and his family are going to Europe for vacation tomorrow. Countries such as France, Belgium, and Italy are mentioned. I was thinking that this aunt has a very fulfilling life, and started to recall the interesting things about her last trip to the Netherlands and France. At this time, I heard an extremely strange conversation between the two people behind. One said: "Oh, what's the point of showing off? If you go abroad for a vacation, the whole world will be shouting at you (in Sichuan dialect, it means making a fuss all over the city)." The other said, "That's right, why should you take a taxi if you have money? ?" I looked back and saw two aunties in their fifties and sixties, who were also very well-dressed. I didn't know why they were so mean or unhappy.

I admit that the voice of the aunt talking on the phone is a bit loud. In fact, this is also China's national condition. But as for the content of the conversation, she was about to go out for fun. She was talking to her friend on the phone about it. What's the point of showing off in front of a car full of strangers like you? At the same time, how come I don’t feel like she’s showing off? So, I thought viciously, in fact, I'm afraid it's obviously because you don't have as rich a life as others, otherwise you wouldn't be so sarcastic. Just imagine, if that aunt had told you that she went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and talked about which vegetable market had fresh and cheap vegetables, wouldn't you be so unhappy? If you have also been to Europe for vacation, wouldn’t you be so sensitive?

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Once I participated in a training in the Netherlands. The teachers were all people from different units, companies or research institutes hired by the school. After listening for a long time, I discovered a phenomenon, that is, almost every teacher will list their own experiences or cases in different countries when giving lectures. There are also teachers who are observing below. If they happen to be familiar with that country or that project, they will occasionally provide additional support. And for countries that I have never been to, I will ask some very curious questions. Later, I silently thought that if there was a professor in China who always used examples of his own affairs in this or that country in every class, there would be some sour words such as "showing off" and "advocating foreigners." words. Why is this phenomenon so rare in foreign countries, and the term "advocating foreigners and favoring foreigners" almost does not exist? Because most of them have rich international experience and culture, rich vision and high self-confidence.

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Therefore, there is a strange phenomenon in China. That is, you find that most students who have returned from studying abroad are very cautious when speaking. They have a principle that they must not use English words! Nor can we say "when I was in the United States", "when I was in the United Kingdom", "when I was in Denmark", "when I was in Pakistan". Because there are countless experiences and jokes that prove that such an approach will be labeled as "showing off one's overseas experience" and "foreign moons are rounder than Chinese ones."

But the question is, he did study abroad. That was a part of his life experience. Is it wrong for him to recall it? Ninety percent of the time I am talking about "when I am at home", "when I am in the office", "when I am eating at XX restaurant", why are you not so sensitive? After speaking English for several years, it is inevitable that words will pop up accidentally when speaking. Why do people have to take care of your glassy heart and forcefully swallow it back? When the turtles saw this, they felt like they were crying and their bodies were full of heat! Don't cry, let's make an appointment for hot pot when we have time, and while eating, we will talk about the trivial scenery and trivial things we experienced in "I am in England", "I am in America" ??and "I am in France".

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Therefore, in this world full of jealousy and jealousy, you cannot post well on WeChat Moments. You cry and complain that your IELTS score is not good, and people say how can you let us poor students live; you post a beautiful picture of drinking coffee in a cafe, and people say you don't work, why are you so free? If you say that Hollywood commercial films are better than domestic ones, people will say that you favor foreigners.

I have a friend whose life in her circle of friends is full of so-called luxuries, such as Wuliangye liquor, high-end red wine, high-end black tea, and high-end tea sets. So some people will say privately, hey, it’s still a bit showy! However, as far as I know, based on her family background, this is her daily life! Is it possible that people clearly only have Wuliangye at home, so in order to take care of your glassy heart, do they have to put a Jiangjin Laobaigan label on Wuliangye?

Having said that, of course everyone has the right and freedom to evaluate others. To some extent, everyone is a critic and is also commented upon by others. However, I think when we are sarcastic and sarcastic about other people's rich experiences in a disdainful and arrogant manner, can we first ask ourselves: Is it really that others are superficial and showing off, or are you jealous because of your own lack? ! People, it is important to recognize yourself. Only when you understand clearly can you face up to the strengths of others and improve yourself; only when you understand clearly can you find that you have shortcomings and strengths, and you also have many things that others admire and envy.