What if friends have nothing in common?

Social relations between people are like a jigsaw puzzle. Sometimes you will find that adjusting the angle can't put it in one place. There is a simple reason. This jigsaw puzzle is in the wrong place. There are two ways to deal with it. The first is to change the shape of the puzzle and force it to become this position. The second is to find your correct position in another place, but this search may take a certain process.

Since ancient times, birds of a feather flock together. If the people around you have nothing to talk about with you, you may be a minority and have nothing in common with everyone, which means that you haven't found your friends yet. It's like a joke in the refrigerator. Some eggs laugh at a kiwi fruit, saying that its long hair is an egg, but in fact it is not an egg.

I used to feel this way for a while. When I first arrived at the university, I didn't get along well with my roommates. Although I am a northerner, I am generous and enthusiastic, but I have nothing in common with them. I am the only northerner, and everyone else is from the south. It is no exaggeration to say that they can understand what I said, but I may not understand what they said. Language has also become the boundary separating each other. I've been trying to find common ground between us, and finally I found a breakthrough. I found that these roommates all like to play the same game. Later, I downloaded the same game on my mobile phone, asked them to take me to play, worshipped them as big brothers and bought them something to eat. In fact, this is not a sign of weakness, but a way to find common ground between us. After a long time, we became acquainted and became good friends.

When you find that there is no topic between you and your friends, you have two choices. The first is that you are still yourself and find your friends. The second is to change yourself, blend in with them and find more common ground.

If you can't integrate into the collective, it means that there are some problems in social skills, and you may eventually be marginalized and become a different person in the eyes of others.