Life is like a number axis

I have nothing to do, sitting on a wicker chair, bathing in the bright sunshine, drinking black tea, listening to classic guzheng music, and watching children playing alone. At this moment, it is comfortable, comfortable and happy.

I have heard many people lament: There are so few blessings in life! There are so many worries in life! In fact, blessings and troubles are personal opinions. A good life depends on your mentality. Just like a number axis, a straight line, an origin, and an arrow form a number axis. The right side of the origin is a positive number. The further to the right and farther from the origin, the larger the value. On the contrary, the left side of the origin is a negative number, and the further away from the origin, the smaller the value.

Life is like a number line. At any time, anything can be regarded as being at the origin. Then it depends on how you think and look at it. How to go? To the left, it is a negative number, which is negative and pessimistic; to the right, it is a positive number, and it is positive. And the most important point is: no matter where the origin is, there is always a number larger or smaller than it.

Some time ago, I saw "Don't disturb other people's happiness" forwarded in Moments.

It was said that a middle-aged woman was setting up a street stall, and a middle-aged man came over on a bicycle to deliver food. As soon as he got off the car, he smiled humbly and said, "Sorry, I'm late. Are you hungry?" The woman raised her head and saw the man. A flash of light flashed in her eyes and she smiled, "Don't worry, it's still early." The man smiled naively, took out the lunch box from the bicycle basket, sat next to the woman, and said, eat quickly, don't let it get cold, I will eat with you.

A man’s caring and caring greeting, a woman’s understanding and considerate reply. The originally warm and romantic scene of eating together was interrupted by a middle-aged fat woman passing by: she put her head into the woman's lunch box and cried out in surprise: "Hey, my big sister, you are so miserable." Ah! What kind of food are you eating? There is no oil or water at all. How can you eat it?" Then he twisted his fat body and walked away.

The woman held the lunch box in her hand and stared blankly at the fat woman's back. Her eyes were filled with tears, and the tears dripped down into the lunch box in her hand. The man next to him also had red eyes, and he no longer had the interest to take a bite of the lunch box in his hand. The surrounding atmosphere seemed to freeze suddenly, making people breathless.

Here, the author mainly advocates not to disturb other people’s happiness. Happiness is one's privacy. What you see in your eyes is a kind of suffering, but in others' hearts it may be a kind of happiness.

Today, what I want to say is that in addition to not disturbing the happiness of others, the person involved should also have the ability to analyze and adjust his own mentality. Don't be disturbed by outsiders, and don't follow what others say. Everyone's cultural level, living environment, and ideological concepts are different, and they view problems differently. Some people even deliberately mock others to gain a sense of superiority. As everyone knows, she also has some unsatisfactory aspects, but you just didn't notice it and thought about it. Her fat body, walking alone, and harsh words... At this time, when it comes to happiness, is the middle-aged woman setting up the stall better than her? If she has this idea, will the woman feel aggrieved and cry, causing the man to be embarrassed and bored, and will the atmosphere be solidified? Maybe you will smile as brightly as a flower. At this moment, I thought of Bian Zhilin's "Fragmented Chapter": You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people watching the scenery are watching you upstairs. The bright moon decorates your windows, and you decorate other people's dreams.

Life is like a number line. No matter how bad things or moods are, there are always people or things in a worse situation than you. Everyone is an independent individual. You are not me. How do you know that I am not happy?

For me, when I unexpectedly became pregnant with my third child, my initial thought was not to give up. We already have two children. If we want a third child, wouldn’t we become a laughingstock and make people laugh out loud?

Unexpectedly, after my parents tried their best to persuade me, my mother-in-law was bedridden for two days and one night. She tortured and protested silently, and I was old and had no respect for life. I kept thinking: If it were aborted, I would spend the rest of my life in condemnation and repentance from time to time. If you are born, although life will be more difficult and life will be extremely miserable, your heart will be calm and peaceful.

Therefore, after making an appointment with the hospital's director-level anesthesiologist and taking anti-inflammatory drugs, I decided to give birth regardless of gender. I would rather live a difficult life, and would rather be laughed at by others, but seek peace of mind.

In the second trimester, an enthusiastic and helpful aunt arranged for me to go to an authoritative gynecological hospital for a four-dimensional color ultrasound. That means you can save the long queue and wait time, pay less, and check more carefully. Later, she quietly told me that she was a girl. If we don't want it and give birth to it, she will give her the child to have. I knew that my aunt's family situation was much better than ours. I said to her: "Since I am pregnant now, even though she is still a girl, we will still raise her by ourselves."

In the third trimester of pregnancy, some people also They taunted in person: "Have a baby, keep having a baby, until you have a son...", and some people said euphemistically: "I want to have a son!" Faced with these words, I was speechless, sometimes very angry, and silently protested: I No matter how many children I have, no matter how poor I am, I will raise them on my own, not on you, and I won’t beg you for food!

After the child was born, some elders and close classmates suggested that my husband or I find a good family for the child. Of course, I know that they are doing it for my own good and considering me. Raising children is too tiring. However, neither her husband nor her mother-in-law disliked her. After the child was born, she was hospitalized for nine days due to high jaundice and hemolysis of the blood. Her husband had made mental preparations for her to undergo a blood transfusion. Neither of them agreed to give it away on the advice of others, but instead cared for it like a rare treasure. I am a biological mother, so how can I take the initiative to ask for it to be given away when it is too late to be happy?

Later, my husband’s boss accidentally learned that we had three children, and he was shocked. Three? How to raise it? It’s hard for one, let alone you are still in Xi’an! Faced with the surprise and incomprehension of others, we enjoy ourselves in it. Occasionally, I joke with my husband: When others have children, we have the eldest child; when others have luxury houses, we have the second child; when others have luxury private cars, we have the third child. Twenty years later, the mansion is obsolete, the luxury private car is scrapped, and my three children have grown up!

Sometimes, when people don’t understand my situation and see me pushing the younger child and sending the older child to kindergarten, or taking two children to play in the community, they will ask me: Do you have two children? child? At first, I laughed without saying a word. If you say yes, then my boss will be wronged. If I say no and tell the truth, will it make people laugh? Where can I put my old face? The three children, no matter who they are, were all born to me and they are all babies. Then I thought about it, I didn’t steal or rob, what should I be afraid of!

Later, when someone asked, I told her without hesitation and confidently: I have three children, all girls. Solve his or her inner doubts in advance. Even an old classmate who I had not contacted for several years recently learned about my situation and said with a smile: "You have three cotton-padded jackets, don't you feel too hot?" I proudly told him: I am not ashamed, but proud!

I often think that life is like a number axis. When I feel miserable and tired, stand at the starting point and look to the left. There are many people who live a more difficult life. Look to the right, have a positive attitude, be good at discovering the beauty in life, and have a grateful heart! A glass of milk and an egg are both delicious breakfasts given to me by God. A pot of self-grown vegetables and a bottle of self-cultivated bonsai are both a beautiful mood. In a quiet and clean environment, a cup of tea, a table, a chair, a book, and soothing and beautiful music are my happy time!