The real image that a marriage can't go on

Marriage, some people say it is the grave of love, and Qian Zhongshu says it is a besieged city.

It can be seen that marriage has been a hot topic since ancient times.

Throughout the marriage problem, people are keen to find reasons from women.

Whether it's "Thirty for Nothing", which is a hit at this stage, or "My First Half of Life" before, marriage will be ruined. We all focus on women and ignore the reasons of men.

Although there are many reasons for destroying a marriage, in a marriage, men have these shortcomings and will definitely destroy a marriage.

Entering the palace of marriage, whether because of romantic love or for the sake of carrying on the family line, the maintenance in marriage must respect each other.

Because of historical factors, men's inferiority complex is deeply rooted in some men.

In these men's marriages, women don't get the respect they deserve. A woman is not a lover, but an old maid, and worse, a nanny or a slave.

In this marriage, women have no right to speak, but the silent majority.

In this kind of marriage, the autonomy is entirely in the hands of the man, who regards himself as the emperor and can have three wives and four concubines, without respect for women and regardless of their feelings.

A woman who has been in this kind of marriage for a long time may get sick unless she finds a window to vent her emotions.

Aunt (a pseudonym) once told me a secret, and she was impatient with her nominal marriage.

Her husband's disrespect for her almost made a big mistake.

However, due to natural timidity, I have the heart but no guts. At the last straw, Ayi scratched a new dress and threw it into the trash can, as if her man had been eradicated from her heart.

02 stingy

Men are stingy and the killers of marriage.

The mentality of such men is to maximize value and minimize cost; Even if such a man is rich, he will certainly make a woman's life miserable and heartless.

Some time ago, I received a talk from a friend who wanted to get rid of the shackles of marriage.

The reason is that her husband is a stingy person. I've heard some stories about her stingy people. After all, we live in a small circle and people in the circle basically know everything.

Husband and wife run small family workshops and processing plants, and the economic power is in the hands of the man. It is a problem for her to live.

Every time I ask a man for living expenses, the man's face is covered with dark clouds, throwing her three or five hundred dollars, and the man still feels that he has been very generous.

But when the goods couldn't catch up, the male customer didn't answer the phone, forcing the customer to call her. She wants to catch the goods. Think about the uncertain expression on a man's face when he asks him for living expenses, and she will be unhappy.

Last night, she sent a circle of friends to the effect that she went out to play with friends for the first time in more than 20 years, lamenting that this life is not worth it.

Imagine, woman, if you meet such a stingy man who maximizes value and minimizes cost, do you want to get rid of the shackles of marriage?

Pickiness and selfishness are easily confused and have a certain connection.

If you dig at everyone around you, it shows that he is a selfish person.

When it comes to selfishness, everyone is more or less selfish. After all, every man for himself and the devil take the hindmost.

But men are extremely selfish. In marriage, it is sick, and it is very sick. It's cancer. It will ruin the marriage.

Marriage is an ecological chain of win-win cooperation. Whether you admit it or not, it exists.

In this chain, the lady was originally an outsider. She endured the discomfort of unfamiliar environment, the pressure of getting along with relatives and friends of the man's family, and married the man hand in hand. It's not easy. If you meet an extremely self-righteous man, this marriage will not go to the grave.

When I was chatting with my cousin, she told me a joke that happened in her village.

A couple in her village divorced because of five pieces of bacon.

Restore the true image of the event.

It turns out that women work in the fields early in the morning and men cook at home.

At noon, the woman came back from work and the couple had dinner together.

"Your life is so bitter." The man said to the woman.

"When cooking, I put five pieces of bacon. You didn't pinch any of them, but I pinched all five. " In the face of a woman with a stubborn face, the man told what he called a woman's hard life. (Popularize common sense: bacon is heavy, it sinks to the bottom of the pot, and food is light, but it floats on the surface. )

After listening to the man telling the reason why women are miserable, the woman was silent and then chose to divorce.

This also makes divorce for five pieces of bacon a joke.

Behind the joke, it is not as simple as these five pieces of bacon. However, these five pieces of bacon are the last straw to crush the marriage.

In marriage, if you meet a gangster, you will not go far.

In life, an occasional quarrel may be a condiment.

But in marriage, long-term wrangling is not necessarily a good thing.

Marriage is like a Mercedes-Benz carriage.

The two horses pulling the cart must exert their strength in the same direction, so that they can reach further places.

Everyone understands this truth, but it may not be possible. In particular, I met a bar spirit, but it was "a scholar met a soldier, so I can't tell."

When telling me her husband's skills, Chen Jie seemed to want to cry, which was really worrying.

For more than 20 years, Jie Chen was unhappy. Because that is a incompetent husband and a herdsman.

As an ordinary person, Jie Chen doesn't want anything, just family and health.

But the quality of marriage is not only controlled by the thoughts of one party, but also by the thoughts of the other party.

Jie Chen and her husband's ideas (her husband's three views are worrying) can't be synchronized. Jie Chen tried to move in the right direction, but her husband was determined to move in the opposite direction. There are so many contradictions that Jie Chen's current marital status is "inseparable, better than bad".

It is impossible for a carriage and two horses to pull it to the finish line.

To sum up, whether a marriage can come to an end is not entirely a woman's fault. Men also have many problems. If these bad roots are not eradicated in men, finding more reasons in women is often a permanent cure rather than a permanent cure.