Chapter 1004~Women’s wealth and emotional intelligence

July 13, 2020? Monday Shenzhen Sunny

I recently finished reading "What is Emotional Intelligence" by Li Xiaoyi, and I like the chapter on women's wealth and emotional intelligence the most. As the saying goes, I like it the most That’s what needs supplies the most, so I’ve sorted out the chapters that had the greatest impact on me and shared them!

Women’s wealth and emotional intelligence

A woman’s greatest luxury is not a bag or a house, but independence.

Li Yifei once said: There are three ways for a woman to achieve financial freedom: one is inheritance, the other is marriage, and the third is self-struggle.

1. Women who make money have at least one excellent skill. 2. Women who make money have controllable emotions. 3. You can endure hardship. 4. Try your best to make it look nice. Aristotle said: Beauty is more recommendable than a letter of introduction.

There was once a joke that satirized the rich: The rich went to the beach for vacation and lamented that after working hard to make money, they could finally lie in the scenery and do nothing. After hearing this, the fishermen said: I lie in the scenery every day, doing nothing. ah. We all think it is a satire that the rich are busy making money and forget to enjoy life. However, the older I get, the more I feel that this story is not finished: For a fisherman, it is easy to lie on the beach and bask in the sun, but if he wants to go to Belgium Go skiing at Nius Mountain and want to see an art exhibition in Paris? Can he still get there easily? So when you want to see the bigger world, the role of money is revealed: it can bring independence and freedom, and people love an independent and free life.

May we have less vain illusions and more solid skills. The heart can be soaring, but the feet must always be steady on the road.

David Shipler, the author of the book "Business Poor" said: Various causes of poverty do not exist in isolation but are interconnected. For almost every family: various poverty-causing factors do not exist in isolation but are interconnected. For almost every family, the causes of poverty are partly economic, partly psychological; partly personal, partly social; partly the influence of the past, and partly the current situation. Each problem increases the impact of other problems, and the connection between all problems is so close that a reversal can cause a chain reaction, making the results run counter to the original intention.

What is it that widens the gap between women?

1. The gap between people starts from details, but then expands to thousands of miles. Only by doing small things well can you have the opportunity to do big things; only by living well today can you have the ability to live well tomorrow. Things we don't care about and don't know silently affect other people's opinions on us. Don't underestimate any small opportunity, small person, or small development

2. Don't buy it at the age when you should see the world the most. Bags; girls, don’t buy bags and clothes at the age when you should see the world the most, but you don’t know that when you have a good figure, you will look good in anything. Your professionalism is your figure and internal strength; don’t choose comfort when you should work hard the most, all skills are good. It takes practice to become clever; don't choose a man who doesn't respect you between yourself and so-called love, he will break your wings in the future. What widens the gap between women is not face and weight, but vision.

3. Where there is a door, there is a back door. If you don’t have the ability to go through the front door, you have to go through the back door. You need to practice your skills first before you ask for anything. No one is born with eyesight, and by seeing other people's eyes and faces too much, one develops one's eyesight; no one is born with the ability to eat, and by swallowing too much bitter water, one learns to look good when drinking soup; no one is born with good manners, and makes mistakes. If you make a few mistakes, you will know when to speak and when to shut up. The most unpleasant words should be said in the most beautiful tone. A woman's complexion is never as good as her beauty. Therefore, the most valuable thing for a girl or woman is not the external appearance such as clothes, bags, and watches, but her ability to learn and her motivation to perform.

Does a good woman = a woman who doesn’t spend money?

1. Is there any relationship between love and money? The book mentions that there are three types of men who are afraid of women spending money: First, he advocates frugality and is as frugal about himself as he is about you. He and you have different consumption concepts. It doesn't matter whether you are right or wrong, but you are destined not to get together.

Second, he is not afraid that you will spend money, he is afraid that you will overdraw his ability. "Money" is his control over the future. He is worried that he does not have the ability to support you and will live too tiredly. Third, he is really stingy.

Therefore, women should spend money when they should spend money, but do not waste it. The money spent and the experiences bought are not wasted - it is the things that do not seem to be necessities of life, let women understand What are truly good things, good people, and a good life. Be frugal when you should be frugal, but don’t be stingy, do it in moderation, don’t be vain, and don’t just rely on external things to express that you are living a good life.

2. Money is a tool to help you realize your wishes.

3. Women do not need to be ashamed of their reasonable consumption needs. We admire frugality and do not believe that money can buy everything in the world, but we must not admit that some experiences and experiences must be paid for. For example, you must at least have seen the world before you can form a "world view."

Dreaming about having real good things is a huge motivation for women to make money.

Why do I still look like a passerby after buying the same clothes from all the celebrities?

1. Women who dress well have good vision. Do those women who dress well just have good-looking clothes?

In fact, dressing comes from aesthetics, and aesthetics comes from vision. To develop vision, you have to see the real world - your family education, the books you read, the music you listen to, The places you travel to will eventually become your vision in choosing clothes and your temperament in wearing them.

2. "Choose one" between using money to dress yourself up and get married, or using money to study. Zhang Ailing said: Yesterday I sold myself to study; and tomorrow, I will marry to make a living.

Those women who dress stylishly or look good do not buy more, but they use their own experience and vision to support the style of their clothes. Clothes are just another way of expressing their values.

3. Give all clothes your unique temperament. What a woman needs is not just a piece of clothing, but the job behind the clothing, the trip, the book, the conversation, the music.

The highest praise for a woman’s taste and aesthetics is: My dear, you look so good in what you wear!

Instead of talking about others earning 100 million, it is better to earn 1,000 yuan yourself

1. Many women like to talk too much and can’t stop talking.

2. Focus your energy and time on "making money". If a woman really wants to do something, she will always find a way to squeeze out time and energy, unless her determination is not big enough and her will is not strong enough. The same goes for making money. No woman doesn’t want to make money, but why is the final time and decision to make money taken up by gossiping, shopping, playing cards, and falling in love? Because making money is usually hard work, who doesn’t like to do things that are easy, comfortable and enjoyable? What kind of woman can overcome innate laziness and make money diligently? First, a woman who likes to plan in advance; second, a woman who has the ability to act and execute; third, a woman who is attentive; fourth, an independent woman.

3. Only by talking less nonsense can you make more money. If you spend a lot of energy on things like chatting on WeChat, online shopping, watching TV shows, eating, drinking and having fun, it means you are enjoying yourself in a timely manner - there is nothing wrong or bad about this, but the possibility of making money is destined to be low. In which aspect of life we ??spend time, we will get corresponding feedback; if we exercise for two hours a day, we will have an enviable good body; if we read for two hours a day, we will have rich knowledge and soul; if we focus on studying and making money every day, In two hours, the number in your bank card will slowly increase.

Of course we need the right time to spend time with relatives and friends, but not everything has to be done with others. Independence is the prerequisite for completing plans efficiently, improving abilities quickly, and making money quickly.

The ability to make money, the ability to solve problems independently, and the awareness and motivation for self-growth are what today’s women need to have. May we all in middle age be young ladies who ride the wind and waves.

Today’s golden verses will be heard in the morning, and you will die in the evening