Freedom of love, autonomy of marriage, to put it mildly, is it a joke in front of the secular?

Of course, this is not a joke, but the parties, trapped by secular things and limited by their own conditions, have doubts. For example, in love, people always say that the other party doesn't give them freedom, and in marriage, they can't meet each other's basic requirements, or they are empty-handed and even want two (like the new and hate the old). If not, they complain that marriage is involuntary. Therefore, many things are based on self-consideration, forgetting the law and formulating rural rules and regulations.