The cruelty of the adult world: others are waiting to see your jokes

Recently, the average salary of major universities has also attracted a lot of attention. Many people envy and hate, and they can get such a salary as soon as they graduate. But have you noticed that there are many comments: How many years have you studied hard at the cold window, and you are still studying at Tsinghua Peking University, and your salary is only 10,000 yuan. Being a courier is not just your money. What is there to envy? What's the use of studying?

There is a saying that "others only care about whether you fly high or not, and no one cares whether you are tired or not". Now no one cares whether you fly high or not, only people are waiting to see your jokes. The cruelty in the adult world, no matter how hard you try, there are many people waiting to see your jokes.

One of my classmates got to know love rat, and she was also violently abused by love rat when she was pregnant. After giving birth to the baby, love rat cheated on her and her life could not go on. After several entanglements, she successfully divorced and obtained custody of the children. Occasionally talk to a male friend about it. He said coldly without expression: 30 years old, divorced with a little boy, read so many books, and still live like this. He must be crazy. I was speechless and didn't know how to get back. I always thought they were good friends, but I didn't know it would be him who said such a thing at this moment. I can understand what others say. The word friend was shattered in an instant. I think I graduated from college and didn't do well. Is it just a big joke in his mind?

The cruelty in the adult world, you think that you are a friend, and the people you think you can rely on and trust may just regard you as a slogan, a slogan that you can make fun of and despise at will. Be a man, don't be naive to believe that someone will give you timely help when you are in danger. Humans will not only add icing on the cake, but also throw stones into wells.

University friend B suddenly sent a greeting to WeChat, and suddenly felt that he was still a close friend. I'm really in a bad mood recently, so I nagged my friends about the difficulties of life, and suddenly I felt smooth after talking. A few days later, I chatted with another college friend C. She tactfully asked me: Did you have a miscarriage? Does the boyfriend owe a lot of money? I was shocked. I told someone about it. How did she know? I asked her directly. She said what classmate D said, and she said how you get along so badly! What a surprise!

Most people ask you what's wrong, they don't really care about you, they just want to know how unfortunate you are. Find some comfort from your unhappy life and get some pleasure from licking the bleeding wound, because from a psychological point of view, the simpler people need embellishment and filling, while people with complex minds have special psychological needs for simplicity.

Some netizens said: "I pursue the depth of people's hearts, but I see the shallowness of people's hearts."

Friend e said to friend f, "you know that our class flower's husband is cheating." I heard that San Xiao is not good-looking and has an average figure, but she is fascinated. It's really miserable. " F said, "What a tragedy! Deserve it! " ! Look at Ban Hua's smug appearance before, thinking that all men love her! "In fact, Banhua is a hardworking and kind girl. The reason why she is unattractive may be that she can get a scholarship every year, and she is very beautiful, and boys often pursue her. But after all, this is your friend. She never hurt you. Why didn't anyone show a little pity in such a difficult time, but let her become the object of leisure for everyone, and there is nothing to laugh at?

People often say why women should embarrass women, not just women. Everyone likes to get pleasure from the misfortunes of others. The greatest sin of human nature is that you like to embarrass each other, gloat, and take the pain in your life as a topic to kill a boring life, without any sympathy or humanity. But what can we do? Maybe we can only comfort ourselves in this way and leave gossip to ordinary people. We only care about elegance and calmness.

The more you care, the more you get hurt, and people will be unlucky. Only people born in cool thin need to suck other people's wounds to fill their inner emptiness. Life needs us to be optimistic. If you don't care, what others think won't affect your mood. As Mr. Qian Zhongshu said, "If you look at the world from another angle, you will have different gains, and the world will be presented to you in another way.

Some people are like vampires, they need to suck the blood from other people's wounds to survive.

Remember Liu Zai's rape case? Sister milk tea has changed from the object envied by millions of people to the talk of teasing after a meal. The helplessness of the adult world is that no matter how hard you work, people are just waiting to see when you are unlucky and when you become a joke in the eyes of the entertainment industry. Your tears, your bitterness, your sadness and your pain are nothing but the greatest happiness in the eyes of others, and schadenfreude is rooted in the human body like a moral cancer.

In life, it is more convenient than trying to make yourself better and happier, and stepping on other people's wounds and pains to be happy. As Nietzsche said, schadenfreude provides a dark happiness for the public, a sense of satisfaction that can be obtained without effort.

Nowadays, many people no longer send friends, write Weibo or update QQ messages. We are no longer willing to share your happiness and sadness, record the ups and downs of life in the eyes of the public, and completely lock ourselves in a safe space to prevent others from prying into our lives. Some netizens said, "Don't try to pry into my life, all you can see is what I want you to see." Keep those misfortunes to yourself and let time slowly bury them. You'll never have a chance to lick my wound for fun again.

The worst feature of human nature is to gloat over the misfortunes of others, which is a feeling very close to cruelty. Laughter brought by schadenfreude is simply laughter from hell. -Schopenhauer

Some pains in life are beyond others' understanding. If you can't understand, please don't pretend to care about me, and then make up a few more knives behind me. You can treat each other coldly, you can ignore it, but please don't make irresponsible remarks, please don't make things worse, leave a little kindness and let me heal slowly.

The pleasure of licking other people's wounds is temporary, because one day misfortune will find you and you will become the person in the joke. People need to put themselves in others' shoes. If you can't, please forget other people's misfortunes. People should turn themselves into a better person and get happiness by their own efforts. This kind of happiness can be a long-term happiness, which can make you fall asleep with a smile.