A person's details often reflect a person's true upbringing.

Some people say that education can't be hidden and can't be faked.

As the writer Dian wrote in the novel Xi Jue:

"Education is like a blood vessel, which can grow intricately and grow in the deepest part of your flesh and blood."

And a person's truest upbringing is often reflected in the details.

I still remember the first etiquette class of college elective courses. The teacher talked about getting along with people. The most basic etiquette is not to make people feel embarrassed, not to expose other people's shortcomings, not to talk about other people's private affairs, and to respect other people's feelings. In fact, it is to respect yourself.

I believe many people have encountered this situation in their lives. Some people clearly expose other people's shortcomings, but they always think it's a joke and others don't need to care at all.

But in fact, the familiar relationship, revealing people and joking are two different things.

Similarly, when others laugh at themselves, they are often not joking.

Think of a sentence I read before: "When others laugh at themselves, don't go along with it."

Everyone in this world has their own weaknesses and scars. Others laugh at themselves by offering their fragile hearts with their hands. All you have to do is stop pinching them hard.

Everyone knows that not exposing other people's shortcomings, but keeping silent about other people's weaknesses, is the beginning of the greatest kindness in life.

Writer Kerouac once said: "Education is a self-evident beauty."

In fact, you and I are mortal, and we are not qualified to despise others. Looking at people is like looking in the mirror, you see yourself. The world sees you the way you see the world. Your world is you.

Kant, a German classical philosopher, once said, "I respect any independent soul. Although I don't know some of them, I can try my best to understand them. "

A truly literate person will not poke people's scars regardless of privacy. I will put myself in the other's shoes and have the literacy to see through and not tell the truth.

In the adult world, no one wants others to see their fragile side.

What he sees through is to understand others to the greatest extent.

Know how to put yourself in the other person's shoes, look at yourself and others from different angles, look at the problem from the other person's point of view, not be aggressive, not self-righteous, and not put others in an awkward position.

"The Weakness of Human Nature" says: People who only think of themselves are hopeless. They are uneducated people, no matter what education they have.

Hu Shizhi makes friends all over the world because he knows how to put himself in other people's shoes, not to embarrass others, and to think of others.

Hu Shi said: "Between people, we must be careful not to offend or disturb." .

When Lin Yutang was young, there was nowhere to raise tuition fees. Hu Shi deliberately gave him financial aid in the name of Peking University, leaving Lin Yutang with face.

After Hu Shi's death, Lin Yutang went to pay his respects and said that he would remember Mr. Hu Shi's kindness all his life.

People who know how to put themselves in others' shoes can understand the difficulties of others, which can not only reduce contradictions in interpersonal communication, but also easily win the appreciation and respect of others.

Life is sometimes difficult. Don't embarrass yourself and others. It is the most precious embodiment of a warm person and the highest performance of an educated person to be able to observe others' unspeakable difficulties with your heart and then sincerely resolve each other's difficulties.

The way a person treats others is to hide his cultivation and knowledge. The higher his self-cultivation, the more he understands that everyone has his own experiences and difficulties, and the more he respects different lifestyles.

Everyone has sensitive and fragile self-esteem, such as a tiny flame, which needs the cultivation and care of the people.

Education is not overlooking, but inner warmth.