Why are today’s children so difficult to manage?

Because the social environment in which children live has changed and their thinking has changed, we are still using the same old methods to manage children. Of course, we cannot control them well. In order to adapt to the changing society and changing children, our education methods must also change.

The way of "controlling" children as before is completely unworkable. The child may resent, talk back, or simply protest silently. This requires us to change from simply asking children to "obey" to "respecting" children and stimulating children's inner motivation. In other words, it turns out that when we talk to children, it is imperative: "You should do this." Now I have to change it to a heuristic: "How do you think you can avoid similar troubles?"

In the past, my parents always banned me from watching TV and books that they thought were "harmful". It is very difficult to ban them now. . Because the channels for children to obtain information are too diverse. Rather than prohibiting it, it is better to "guide" it reasonably. So now parents should stop focusing on their children's learning. They need to talk more about "values" at home and tell their children what is good for society, the family, and themselves.

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Some parents do not condone their children and know that they should set rules for their children. However, unfortunately, the elderly at home are too doting on their children and they will discipline them themselves. Will intervene to prevent myself from scolding the child. As a result, children feel confident that they can do whatever they want and are not afraid of doing something wrong. They feel that there are people to support them, so they become lawless and their parents cannot control them.

The elderly in the family generally dote on their children. As parents, when it is time to discipline their children, they must not give in and let their children go their own way just because the elderly are protecting them. It is necessary to clearly explain to the elderly the importance of disciplining children and the serious consequences of doting on children, and try to let them understand and support themselves in disciplining their children. This way the child will not be delayed.