In the face of verbal violence, gracefully shut the other person up.

In the face of verbal violence, gracefully shut the other person up.

Perhaps, you still remember what your parents, friends or teachers once said to you, which deeply hurt you and made you unforgettable.

These are all verbal violence.

"You can't do such a simple topic!" "Why can others do it well and you can't?" "You see that you are so fat, don't you lose weight?" "You have a bad personality and you will never get married!" "Your level is not as good as that of fresh graduates!" "I don't play with losers."

Pay attention to four pits in the face of "verbal violence"

1. Don't deny yourself.

If we lose control of our emotions before hitting back at each other, you have already lost. Therefore, we should control our emotions, stay awake, accept ourselves, enhance our sense of self-identity, and gradually fill our empty buckets, so that it is difficult to cut you off no matter how mean you are.

2. Don't swear.

Not swearing is a person's basic education, and scolding others reflects himself. The purpose of counterattack is to keep the other side quiet while defending themselves.

Avoid quarreling with each other

Behind the high EQ is the education of "seeing through without breaking, knowing people without arguing". You use your own ability to determine your own value, so you don't need to prove anything to them. Just be yourself.

4. Don't hurt yourself by mistake

The weak have a great feature, bullying each other without knowing it. Only when we know ourselves correctly, accept ourselves and agree with ourselves can we have the confidence to fight back.

How to make the other person shut up gracefully?

1. Retreat for progress

The so-called retreat, first agree with the other side's point of view, let the other side succeed temporarily, and then point out the other side's shortcomings that are more fatal than the shortcomings you just admitted.

For example, some people say "you are so stupid", but I didn't even think of this question! Then we can reply: Yes, I am stupid, but I am educated. dream

Pretend to care

Pretending to care refers to helping the other person find out the symptoms according to his performance and suggesting him to go to treatment. We don't swear, but we are more powerful than swearing.

For example, "Dear", I suggest you brush your teeth before coming out. Your mouth is so smelly that we really can't communicate. "

3. Deal with a man as he deals with you.

For example, if the other party jokes about our figure, appearance or other defects, we can fight back like this. I am more modest than you, at least I won't scare a group of children around like you.

In this way, people who can fight back without insulting language will be speechless.

The sooner you see clearly the unhappiness in this world, the sooner you can mature and grow up. In the face of verbal violence, you have inner strength, know how to defend yourself, and fight back gracefully to shut the other person up.