How to get rid of impetuous character?

1. Accept yourself and like yourself, from the outside to the inside.

The first step to like yourself is to accept your appearance.

Internally, on the one hand, consciously improve, learn to have ideas in everything and not follow the crowd; Learn to have the "courage to be hated" and be born a human being. I have to be happy first.

Knowing yourself is a lifelong practice. If you can constantly know yourself and yourself, the less things from outside will interfere with you.

Don't waste time on people and things that have nothing to do with yourself.

3. Block the circle of friends you don't like.

Not all friends are worth seeing. Those who advertise, show off their wealth and kidnap morally can be banned. Keep the people you like and those who are taller than you, and expand your horizons through them to understand their life experiences and ways of thinking.

Don't let the internet overdraw our energy.

Don't live on social platforms every day, which will only exhaust our energy. For example, if new content appears in the circle of friends, it will be opened at the first time; There are new gossip in Weibo, so we should quickly move the bench to eat melons and return the time we spent online to life, so that we can face other problems energetically.

5. Do everything first.

Think about everything, 99% are problems;

Do everything, 99% can be solved;

Think too much and do too little to get things done.

6. Say no to all the requirements that make you uncomfortable.

In interpersonal communication, don't be indecisive when you encounter things that need to be handled and decided. Looking ahead and looking back will make others think you are unreliable. If you can't ask others directly, it will only increase your anxiety.

7. Live a "slow-paced life" for a day.

Learn to control the pace of life and reduce the original speed 1.5 times to 0.8 times. On this day, don't brush your mobile phone, don't watch TV, stay away from the internet, make a pot of tea, read a paper book, write a letter by hand, and shoot a cat in the kitchen next time. This is called stealing for a long time.

8. Pursue pragmatism.

Every time you buy something, ask yourself if you need it. You don't pursue beauty or comparison. Everything is practical (easy to use) In this way, your room will not be full of bottles and cans, and it will be useful to pick them up casually.

9. Reject perfectionism

Some people can't do a thing because they are not competent enough, or their thoughts are a little lazy. And more people can't do it because they always want to be perfect and flawless.

This is a very simple truth. We have been in contact with people without money since childhood, and no one is perfect. But you can't deny that human beings are quite crazy about perfection, otherwise there wouldn't be so many myths circulating in this world.

To some extent, perfectionism, like lust, is to show you an empty future and then drag you into the bottomless abyss.

10. Reduce expectations appropriately.

Lower your expectations of yourself and learn to accept your own ordinary.

Lower expectations of others and take the initiative to accept their imperfections.

Stop comparing and accept the ordinary, and you will live a happier life than 90% people around you.

1 1. Storage and classification. The living and working areas are neat and orderly.

Maybe some people like to be orderly in the chaos and find out what they want from a pile of things. But for me, in a messy environment, the mood will be a little manic.

Tidy up the room, tidy the wardrobe, wash clothes, rearrange the books on the shelf according to your own preferences and other small things. , can adjust the irritable mood.

Enjoy being alone.

In fact, many people confuse the concepts of loneliness and loneliness. Lonely people are sensible and independent, and lonely people are unhappy. It should be normal to enjoy solitude, but it takes different time for everyone to accept it.

13. Read quality books and improve your soft power.

People who often read books will think more comprehensively and often have different ways of thinking about the same thing. They can see the good and bad sides of things. It will not be blindly influenced by one thing, not to mention Mao Mao's impatience.

On the other hand, the quality of input determines the level of cognition, which will affect your judgment, your judgment will affect your choice, and your choice will determine the final result.

14. Deep recovery.

Regular resumption, reviewing and summarizing the actions for a period of time, re-planning the goals for the next stage, finding our own problems as soon as possible, and avoiding repeating the same mistakes will definitely make us less detours.

15. Keep normal.

Accept people who hold different views from themselves, don't bind others with your own views, and don't dominate others' lives. Maybe your job is something others like but can't get, and your life is envied by others. Keep a normal mind and nip arrogance in the bud.

16. Accounting.

Where did all my money go?

There is a word called "muddled account", which means everything is in a mess.

Just like when I first started working, I was in a hurry and felt very busy and tired every day. It doesn't seem to have worked yet. When messy things pile up together, it seems that there will be many unfinished tasks, which are easy to be impetuous and anxious.

But after learning to organize, arrange the work content and focus, it will be clear and not impetuous.

This is true of work, life and even emotions.

17. Do things, don't rush for success.

This era is impetuous, when we try to get everything, in fact, in the end we will get nothing.

Only by doing useful things for a long time can we get the greatest harvest.

Whether at school or at work, it is actually worthwhile to spend at least 1 hour a day focusing on learning, because concentration is the foundation of a person's long-term progress.

Impetuous, simply speaking, is impetuous, impatient and restless.

Why a person is impetuous has a lot to do with the growing environment of TA, that is, people often say that "personality can be inherited". Of course, the inheritance here is not genetic inheritance, but refers to the influence of the behavior style of the breeder on the child, because the child first learned how to deal with problems and how to get along with society from the breeder. If the nurturer has an impetuous personality and is always impatient when encountering things, then the child will gradually inherit the nurturer's personality in such a growing environment. So people often say, "Like father, like son, like mother, like daughter".

Moreover, impetuous people often lack some patience and appear impatient, which makes people feel impatient. And this impatience often has a lot to do with the lack of confidence in the bones. This kind of self-distrust may be influenced by the personality of the nurturer, or it may be caused by being often belittled, denied and attacked by education in the process of growing up, or it may be that the nurturer himself always has disastrous thinking, which affects the healthy growth of individual psychology.

For example, Xiao Ming went to apply for a temporary residence permit, but he didn't get it for several days. As soon as my parents heard it, they didn't understand the problem, and began to think that "there is something wrong with you", "your life is over", "you may be blacklisted if you can't get a temporary residence permit" and so on.

The idea is that

A typical feature of catastrophic thinking is that you never know the cause and effect of everything. As long as things don't go well and encounter some minor obstacles or episodes, you will imagine things to be extremely bad and think that things are irreparable. This is a wrong cognition, which not only affects the individual's judgment of things, but also affects the individual's confidence in self-worth and ability. Individuals who have grown up in this disastrous thinking environment for a long time can easily form impetuous, inferiority, anxiety, anxiety, depression and other bad emotions and personalities, and even serious emotional disorders.

Individuals with catastrophic thinking are seriously insecure, feel that danger is about to happen, and feel that they have no way out. Although they hope that things will turn around, they think there are too many uncontrollable factors to control themselves. In this case, the degree of inner anxiety of TA is different from that of ordinary people, and it is extremely out of harmony with the surrounding environment. Correspondingly, there are manifestations such as impatience and irritability. You have no patience in doing things, and you should solve them as soon as possible after washing things, because you are worried that you can't control the direction of things and that things won't work out as you wish. The most important thing is that once things don't go as expected, TA is easily hit and starts to laugh at itself and deny itself.

In other words,

Impetuous people are inferior in their bones. Everyone has a little inferiority complex. The advantage of this inferiority complex is that people find their own shortcomings, strive to improve themselves and become the driving force for growth. However, excessive inferiority often makes people doubt their abilities, vacillate, fall into extreme anxiety and panic, and show great impatience for fear of failure and frustration.

Some people are jealous of those who are capable or look better than themselves because of their excessive inferiority, and they will do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.

Impetuous people are also inferior in nature, and they are extremely inferior, but they don't realize it and think they are impatient and impatient. In fact, impetuous people are impetuous because they are not sure whether something beyond their control will happen if things are not solved quickly. Under the influence of this psychology, impetuous people tend to be eager for quick success, eager for success in many things, and lack of overall consideration, which leads to some unexpected setbacks.

So,

How to solve your own impetuosity? First of all, know yourself correctly.

If you want to change yourself, you must first learn to face your true self. This means that we should learn to face our strengths and weaknesses, not just one side. Only looking at one's own advantages is easy to make people complacent and become more impetuous and arrogant; Just looking at your own shortcomings makes people feel inferior, makes people who are already impatient even more impatient, and does things without considering the consequences.

Therefore, if you want to change yourself, you must see clearly your own advantages and disadvantages and try to change your own shortcomings. Give yourself a small task every day and cheer yourself up at all times. Then start from small things and accumulate confidence for yourself bit by bit.

Secondly, find the reason for your impetuousness.

A person's personality, behavior, etc. There is always its origin and influencing factors. For those who are impetuous and want to change themselves, it is of great benefit to find out the reasons for their impetuousness.

Some people's impetuousness stems from the words and deeds of caregivers, which requires individuals to reflect on themselves every day, recall their words and deeds that day, find out inappropriate places, record them, and remind themselves to change.

Some people's impetuousness stems from serious inferiority complex, and they are eager to gain affirmation and prove themselves. This requires looking for the support of social resources and encouraging yourself. Therefore, if you feel lack of confidence, you can ask your close friends to encourage you from time to time, or learn to talk when you encounter problems.

Some people's impetuousness stems from a comparison psychology, mainly from distorted self-esteem, that is, serious vanity. In this case, we need to understand the simplest truth: "people are more angry than people." Everyone has his own value, his own advantages and disadvantages, his own role and ability. Excessive comparison with others will make individuals ignore their own advantages and become more inferior and jealous.

Furthermore, practice looking at problems from multiple angles.

One of the reasons why impetuous people are impetuous is that they always look at problems from a single line and lack multi-angle thinking. In other words, their thinking is linear, not divergent. The advantage of this kind of thinking is that it can make a person concentrate on the problem, but it also has the defect of narrow perspective.

Therefore, in the face of some problems, we should learn to analyze from multiple angles, that is, there are many possibilities for a problem. Analyzing and comparing each possibility and finding the best answer is helpful to cultivate one's thinking ability and problem-solving strategy ability, broaden one's horizons and exercise patience.

Finally, learn to manage emotions.

Easy to get emotional and be led by emotions is an important feature of impetuous personality. Therefore, it is a very important ability to learn emotional management if you want to change your impetuous personality.

This requires individuals to maintain self-awareness and observe their emotions at all times. Once you find that you have negative emotions, you should take a deep breath first, or repeatedly clench your fists and stretch to calm your emotions temporarily. Instead of expressing your views emotionally, it is easy to aggravate contradictions and even lead to tragedy.

After emotional stability, if you are still flustered, you can find a suitable time to vent your emotions, such as shopping, twisting towels, and exercising. In recent years, some psychological counseling rooms have emotional walls and emotional dummies, which can be vented through boxing.

After emotional catharsis, I will look back at the previous questions and analyze the causes of emotions, my psychological needs at that time, and the possible psychological needs of the other party. Try to analyze the problem and express your views to the other party, instead of accusing the other party's behavior, and find the best solution together.

Repeated practice can gradually develop your ability to manage your emotions.

In addition, practicing Tai Ji Chuan, Baduanjin, yoga and Pilates, doing meditation and other slow activities will help to cultivate personal patience and change impetuous personality.

Don't tell others too much about yourself. Many of my own secrets were told to others from my own mouth, and then I mostly blamed myself and regretted it. The prime minister can punt in his heart, and he will certainly be able to support things in his heart. Some things really don't tell others, one is that others don't care, and the other is that they may be spread.

4. Don't count on others. If you expect someone, you will be disappointed in the end. What's more, you will be more desperate and easily excited. From now on, don't expect anything from anyone.

Don't care about anyone's opinion, no matter how well you do, people will talk about you behind your back, even if you do nothing, others will comment on others. It's not that you're not good, it's just that everyone's position is different and others say it's normal. If someone tells you who speaks ill of you behind your back, don't ask what he said. You are more likely to get excited and unhappy when you say it. Look down on all this, let others talk and go their own way.

6. Accept yourself. No one is perfect, and so are we as ordinary people. A person has both advantages and disadvantages. Accept your imperfections and your shortcomings.

7. Read more books. Reading can make us quiet, and it can also broaden our horizons and broaden our own pattern. Exercise more, exercise can adjust our heart rate and enhance our psychological quality.

8. The world belongs to everyone, but life is your own after all. All the excitement will be repaid by loneliness, and life will eventually return to one person. To build your own small universe, one person is a team.

To overcome the impetuous psychology, we must first not have the psychology of keeping up with the joneses. Human nature often gains self-awareness in an important way, which often brings some irritability. There will be mental imbalance, and there will be no state of anxiety and confusion.

To overcome impetuous psychology, we must be down-to-earth, calm, not complaining, guard against arrogance and rashness, be pragmatic, control our desires, and live a good life now. This is also the basic truth of being a man. We should proceed from reality, don't aim too high, let nature take its course, and we can talk calmly. Can effectively overcome impetuousness, the mind will not be at a loss, can not be quiet.

Through long-term persistence, we can really be optimistic, calm down, study hard and do our job well, and then our impetuous psychology will gradually disappear and we can find a happy life.

To get rid of impetuous character, we should calm down and read more books, especially classical works. Combined with real life, I gradually realized it myself. Don't be materialistic, don't compare with others, and have a harmonious and friendly family. When you are in a peaceful environment, you will naturally not be impetuous. You can't change your mind overnight. You should think more and understand more, truly save three lives a day, correct your temper, make yourself comfortable and smile at life.

First, find the reason. Once people are anxious, their hearts will easily become impetuous. Impetuous reasons:

1, eyes only staring at the aura of others, but did not see the efforts behind. If you look back at yourself, you will feel unbalanced and lost. Usually, you want more and give too little.

2, quick success, always want to take shortcuts, always want to succeed quickly, want to get rich overnight, do not want to pay too much effort. Everything has a process. Once born, she should be pregnant in October. Haste makes waste.

Second, the solution: 1, take action, don't just think.

Rather than fishing in the forest, it is better to retreat and build a net. There are thousands of roads, and action is the first. The success of anything will not be based on fantasy. If you want it, you have to pay. Down-to-earth, set yourself a small goal and complete it step by step.

2. Stay away from impetuous circles. Think more when things happen, don't blindly follow the trend, have your own opinions, and don't follow the trend. Circles are very important. Leave those circles full of negative energy, re-evaluate yourself and stick to your duties.

3. Improve yourself. Find your hobbies and try to cultivate a sideline.

I believe that when you know how to precipitate yourself more and more, you will have more and more opportunities and gradually you will get better and better. This is a virtuous circle. You said, right? 1, take action, don't be afraid of wolves and tigers.

Many people's anxiety and impetuousness come from the anti-corruption delusion beforehand.

If you really start doing it, you will fall down.

2, in-depth reading of several high-scoring masterpieces.

After reading it, you will find that the world is big and there are many talents, but you are too young.

Sorry to be impetuous.

3, don't take marketing copy seriously.

Merchants will never tell you the whole truth in order to promote their products.

Just because you can't afford luxury goods doesn't mean you are not expensive.

If you want to understand each other's purpose, you will be much more transparent.

4. Keep the habit of independent thinking.

Merchants have their own positions, authorities have their own positions, and Big V has their own positions.

The world is bustling, all for profit; The world is bustling for profit.

See through these, it is not easy to be led by the nose.

After learning knowledge, you must leave something of your own.

Only by exporting your own views can you truly integrate knowledge with yourself.

Otherwise, listening to more classes and reading more books are just so-so.

Learning in this way can only make you more impetuous.

6. Accept the fact that you are an ordinary person.

Ordinary people do not have strong financial resources, outstanding looks and the ability to destroy Conan.

So, just give up those abnormal fantasies and do what ordinary people can do.

Because of unrealistic fantasies, it is easy to make people impetuous.

7, less staring at other people's achievements, don't look at the mountain.

Others can get honors and achievements because of the addition of resources, efforts, talent and luck.

We may not have these conditions, so there is no need to look at another mountain from this mountain.

Do what you are doing.

8. Stay away from impetuous and lazy circles.

In the internet age, we don't have to stick to the circles around us, we can choose people who are close to each other.

The majority are impetuous and lazy people, and the minority are down-to-earth and self-disciplined.

In ancient times, Meng Mu moved three times. Now you can also choose your own circle and get a better growth atmosphere.

9. Abandon perfectionism.

Perfectionism is the sequela of student days and the muscle memory left by "pursuing 100".

But in a fast-paced society, we pay attention to "shoot first and then aim". Blind pursuit of perfection will only "die before he conquers".

Over time, people will be anxious and impetuous. If you move first, your heart will collapse.

10, strive to make money, do the main business in a down-to-earth manner, and insist on doing sideline business.

Cang Li is full of manners, all elegant, calm and carefree after eating and drinking.

Don't be fooled and lame by a lofty scholar-bureaucrat. Since you are a layman, you should embrace this secular world.

Because people with empty pockets are very easy to fall into impetuousness and are doomed in the end.

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Focus on the present, return to yourself and the present, do not need earth-shattering rhetoric, what is needed is a pragmatic and feasible action plan, and do it in a down-to-earth manner!

Impetuousness itself, because you think too much, think too much, do too little, think too much and pay too little, you will have anxiety and become impetuous!

Things are divided into two levels, one is subjective consciousness and the other is methodology. Subjectively, many people will advise you to accept your heart and keep silent. I think this kind of repression will make you lose your desires one after another. Conversely, I think you need a clear goal, find what you want and keep asking yourself how much you want. Desire will be your motivation and your way to resist impetuousness and anxiety!

In terms of methods, we need to focus on the present, make a good plan and do it pragmatically on the premise of desperately wanting it! Going deep into the matter itself, you will find that only if you do it, everything will be smooth, the burden will be reduced, the anxiety will be reduced, and you will become impetuous! The pragmatic harvest fills the heart, and the sense of practicality will follow. Come on, we don't need empty chicken soup, we need real positive energy!

The process of trying to get rid of impetuous character is actually a process of "cultivating the mind"

But character is partly brought by innate genes and partly cultivated by the social environment and background in which it is acquired.

If you want to be impetuous and hot, you need a lot of cultivation and restraint to do it.

So, how can we get rid of impetuousness the day after tomorrow and make ourselves gentler and calmer?

1, people will get older and their temperament will become gentler than when they were young. Look at the man around you who is a grandfather. Why do they all feel that they are much better-tempered than when they were fathers?

This is partly due to age, and there is also the reason why parents are separated. When people are older and have more experience, they will not be so extreme and impetuous as before, but will settle down and feel that there is no need to be angry or care about many things. Not as important as happiness.

Some people think that reading will make a person sink, but in fact, it is unrealistic for an impetuous person to mention reading. Most of them can't settle down and study hard. What can they do with reading? I thought I could watch many people's favorite videos and TV series, but I can't just watch them casually, but I should watch them purposefully and thoughtfully.

Choose some movies, movies or TV series that can edify your temperament, find their goodness and beauty from their characters, then examine your own temperament, make comparisons and make corresponding corrections.

The characters on TV are alive, which shows the inner changes and feelings of the characters more intuitively. This is actually a good way to cultivate one's mind, not just reading.

Each method is the best method for talents with different personalities.

3, this point, that is, starting from one's own heart, is the foundation of cultivating one's mind.

Learn to think more about everything. This kind of thinking is not short-term thinking, but deep thinking. But many people can't. It doesn't matter. Step by step, from the short thinking time at the beginning to the habit of thinking for a long time, you will have a conditioned mind to think about the feasibility and its advantages and disadvantages.

With the long-term changes, people will gradually find that this impetuous character in their own personality will be less and less, and more and more calm.

Summary: "cultivating the mind" is a long-term process, which should not be rushed for success or interrupted. Once a habit is formed, it becomes a part of life and everything will change with it.

I am an impatient person. After often saying something, I find my words inappropriate and offensive. After several lessons, I finally made up my mind to get rid of my faults. Let me introduce some of my own dry goods practices, which are effective in personal testing:

First, speak slowly. I am an impatient person. Even when I eat, I like to eat cold jiaozi, so I speak quickly. The disadvantage of speaking fast is that what you say doesn't go through your head.

It may be a joke, but the target and occasion of the speech are wrong, and people are offended unintentionally. So I consciously slow down my speech and give my brain time to react. Many big leaders speak very slowly. Because everything they say is a rule that ordinary servants follow. So they speak slowly when answering questions, because they need to give their brains time to think.

Second, ensure adequate sleep. If a person can't sleep well, the whole person will be very anxious. If I don't sleep well, maybe I can't concentrate on doing things this day. So ensuring a good sleep will make you feel happy and the whole person will not be impatient.

Third, try slower exercise, such as yoga. Many people meditate while doing yoga. Slowly, the whole person will calm down and feel relieved. Over time, this state becomes a habit, and the impetuous character will be much better. It doesn't matter if you don't have time to do yoga. Now there are many books that teach you to meditate, such as Meditation 10 Minutes is equivalent to sleeping for an hour, which is very popular. You can buy it and have a look.

Fourth, read more good books. If a person reads a lot of poems, you will find that this person is very temperament from his attitude and speech. Just like Mr. Jiang Yang, who has read a lot of poetry books, she once said that she does not compete with the world because she disdains to compete with anyone. So she has maintained a calm and calm style all her life.

Fifth, preset the scene in advance. What we often face in life is usually repetitive. We can recover every day. What scenes are easy to make us lose control of our emotions? For example, if someone wronged me or misunderstood my thoughts, I would be very impatient. When I think of a solution in advance, I will calmly deal with myself and control my emotions.

When you disagree with others, please say the number 10 in your mind before you speak. When we have differences with colleagues because of work, we often blurt out our own opinions, and this shortcoming is that it may make people feel stiff at that time. If I can slow down the number 10, I will find that my tone and attitude are much softer. So whenever I disagree with my colleagues, I will say the number 10 first, and then speak.