Who needs to burn the first seven, the last seven, the fifth seven and the seventh seven respectively? I don't know. It's easy to joke

The seventh day, the third day and the fifth day are important festivals in China's traditional funeral etiquette. During these festivals, people will burn paper and incense and pray for their deceased relatives to express their thoughts and nostalgia. The first seven or seven paper burning ceremonies are generally presided over by the son of the deceased, and the last seven or five seven are generally presided over by female members.

1, top seven

The first seven days, as the name implies, refer to the seventh day after death. In the traditional culture of China, people believe that the spirits of the dead will visit their homes during the first seven days. Therefore, this day is also regarded as a very important festival.

In many places, the paper-burning ceremony of the first seven is usually presided over by the son of the deceased, who often prepares offerings such as incense sticks, paper money and so on to pay homage in front of the cemetery. In some places, chicken, fish, meat and other dishes will be prepared to sacrifice to the deceased to show respect and nostalgia for the deceased.

On the seventh day, in addition to paying homage to the deceased at the grave, some areas will also pay homage at the memorial tablet of the deceased. The way to pay homage to the deceased is usually to hang flags and lanterns at home and present photos and sacrifices to the deceased to show their nostalgia and memory.

2, Sanqi and Fifty-seven

Similar to the first seven days, Sanqi and May 7th are also important festivals in China's traditional funeral etiquette. Sanqi usually refers to the 2nd1day after the death of the deceased, and May 7th usually refers to the 35th day after the death of the deceased.

In many places, during these two festivals, memorial ceremonies are generally presided over by female members. On March 7, in many places, it is usually the daughter of the deceased who prepares offerings such as incense sticks, paper money and so on to go to the cemetery to pay homage. On May 7th, it is usually the granddaughter of the deceased who presides over the paper burning ceremony to express the memory of the deceased ancestors.

3.7 July

On July 7th, many places are usually hosted by the son of the deceased, because this custom is called "beginning and ending" in traditional culture. For the "Sanqi" hosted by the daughter of the deceased, its significance is also very far-reaching. Because in the traditional culture of China, women are generally regarded as the weak, and they are often regarded as the "married" party in marriage.

And "Sanqi" is to remind people that in the family, women also bear important responsibilities and roles and should receive equal respect and attention. My daughter presided over "March 7th", in fact, in order to express her gratitude to her parents, as well as her gratitude to her parents for her upbringing.

In modern society, due to the change of family structure and people's concept, the status of women is constantly improving, and it is no longer an absolute traditional rule whether a daughter can only preside over the "Sanqi". However, as a part of the patriarchal clan system, "Sanqi" still carries certain significance, reminding people of the importance of family culture and the necessity of inheritance.

As for the granddaughter who got married on May 7th to preside over this issue, this traditional practice actually entrusted people with their wishes and expectations for the continuation of the family. Because in the traditional family structure, the daughter will leave the family to set up her own family when she is an adult, but the grandchildren can continue the family tradition.

Therefore, it is also a symbol of family continuity to let grandson preside over May 7th, but this custom is not constant. After all, each local custom is different, and the specific memorial method should be decided according to local customs.

Conclusion: As traditional funeral customs in China, "Touqi", "Sanqi" and "May 7th" are not only the reflection of traditional culture, but also people's thoughts and memories of their loved ones, as well as their care and inheritance for their families.

Although these traditional customs have gradually lost their importance and significance in modern society, we still need to pay enough attention to the preservation and inheritance of traditional culture. Because these traditional customs are not only a form, but also represent the Chinese nation's emphasis on filial piety.