If even women discriminate against women, how can we talk about gender equality?

If even women discriminate against women, how can we talk about gender equality? Once I took my daughter to attend the tail teeth of Mr. Wang's company and met a mother-to-be, who was pregnant with her daughter. The first time I saw her, I said, "Oh, she looks like my father. It doesn't matter. Tell my father to work hard to make money and grow up to be plastic. " No matter how unhappy I am when I hear it, how rude the other person is. However, a woman, pregnant with her daughter at the same time, looks at her gender and her unborn daughter, but she is so frivolous and ignorant that she doesn't even know herself. "Thank you, everyone says my daughter looks like me, and I'm afraid she can't get married. I have to try to save my dowry. My wife has a caesarean section and is still resting. I'll tell you the location when we get to the moon center! 」

I turned on my mobile phone this morning, and there was good news from the group of students in the institute. The birth of a new life and a long list of copied and pasted blessings. Of course, the novice dad was happy, but the jokes he replied made me more stingy and gave me a copy and paste blessing.

Afraid she won't get married? ! So as soon as she was born, you thought that her ultimate goal in life was to get married! Therefore, dad wants to "make money to save dowry". Since he is not beautiful enough, at least someone will be willing to marry if he has a generous dowry! Therefore, the other party got married only for money. Is it okay? Anyway, at least you can afford to get married, right ! Is it? !

I really think too much. In fact, this kind of joke has never been less. If the daughter looks like her mother, her father will say, "It's a good thing she doesn't look like me, she looks as beautiful as her mother, so don't worry about not getting married." In all fairness, this is indeed a compliment to the child's appearance, but in other words, it is only gender discrimination. Even as a woman, it was only when I was nearly 40 years old that I gradually realized how little "women's self-esteem" we were taught from childhood. We don't even know how to respect our gender except "protect our bodies from being touched by others", but we have to defend many language and behavior discrimination in daily life, because even women themselves don't know that this is an unequal treatment, and they often follow the trend and make noises.

For example, when my daughter was born, people often said, "Fortunately, she is as beautiful as her mother." At that time, even I thought, "It's a good thing she looks like me." I feel that the other party praised both our mother and daughter. In retrospect, the word "can" is so unnecessary, necessary, necessary! In this case, there are more women than men. At the moment I agreed, I originally agreed from my bones that "the prerequisite for girls is to be beautiful." If she is beautiful, her troubles will be reduced by half; What if you are not beautiful? Many people will say, "Then study hard!" Isn't that right? ! No matter what sex, even if you get a lot of convenience and benefits because of your appearance, you should study, work and do everything conscientiously, right? ! Do not pursue inner enrichment, but only adhere to the beauty of appearance. How can such values live the true glory of life?

Another time, I took my daughter to attend the tail teeth of Mr. Wang's company. I met an expectant mother who was pregnant with her daughter. The first time I saw her, I said, "Oh, she looks like my father. It doesn't matter. Tell my father to work hard to make money and grow up to be plastic. " No matter how unhappy I am when I hear it, how rude the other person is. However, a woman, pregnant with her daughter at the same time, looks at her gender and her unborn daughter, but she is so frivolous and ignorant that she doesn't even know herself.

Today, while denouncing men's gender discrimination against women and striving for women's equal rights, I find that even women themselves discriminate against women, which is easy to understand, because we have been taught too little. I have never seriously thought about how deeply rooted and distorted the values implied by these words in life before. Women themselves are unconscious, not to mention that when men are born, most of them are "great".

Perhaps, when women truly identify with their own gender from the heart, gender equality can take another big step.