Why do more and more people not want to date each other now?

First of all, they were introduced by parents and elders, and they felt really stressed after staring at them

Mainly because the elders introduced people who were also acquaintances of acquaintances, and they had at least a basic understanding of the people they introduced. Then you and your blind date are still in a state of confusion, and your parents hope that the two of you will get along well. Most people can't bear this pressure, so it often creates the opposite effect.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is fundamentally different from that of young people. What parents see is a stable job, a car and a house. Their aesthetic standards are even more different. Young people hope to gradually understand each other as they get along. , it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Third, stage fright, or maybe feeling embarrassed

Everyone’s personality is different, and not everyone can talk eloquently when facing a stranger. He was as calm as a normal person, like he was facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, who have been introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers since childhood, so they have a heartfelt resistance to contact with strangers. Just like a person who is afraid of heights cannot see heights; it is the same as a person with trypophobia who cannot see dense things.

That kind of fear comes from the deepest part of the heart and cannot be controlled or changed. Many parents don't understand it very well. They think that blind date is just a trivial matter. Is it necessary to be so exclusive?

There are also some people who are not good at words. Although they are usually carefree, when they meet strangers, they immediately become timid and unnatural. They don’t know what to say or what to talk about. What. As a result, the atmosphere became very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape. After experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different. What you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

The fourth and most important reason is that both men and women will feel very shameless. Sometimes vanity is at play. When facing a blind date, many people will have this mentality: "It's not like no one wants me, so why do I have to go on a blind date?" Therefore, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date. Why can't the object be found? It means that you are not good enough, so everyone will think that going on a blind date proves that you are not good enough. Then I worry that if my relatives and friends know about it, they will laugh at me, and I will feel very embarrassed if the news is spread. Even though blind dates have become very common, and even if many people can accept it, deep down in their hearts, they still have such scruples and worries.

Especially among young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger. Everyone is so proud of themselves, so no one wants to lose face.

Fifth, I feel that blind dates are unreliable

There is a kind of people who have been full of expectations and fantasies about love since childhood. The love and marriage in their hearts should be like fairy tales It's so beautiful and romantic inside. Therefore, when it comes to blind dates, I am very unwilling to do so. I feel that my marriage should not be so casual and realistic. Deep down in their hearts, they feel that a blind date is just about finding someone to make do with, and has nothing to do with love or romance.

There is another kind of person who may have left a shadow in his heart because of the misfortune around him. For example, there are couples around who got married through blind dates, but their lives are not happy after marriage; for example, there are couples around who got together through blind dates, but in the end their relationship was toyed with. Because of these examples, they directly believe that all blind dates are unreliable.

It is said that once bitten by a snake, you will be afraid of well ropes for ten years. Although you may not have experienced it yourself, because of the experiences of people around you, you will subconsciously regard it as a wake-up call for yourself. Everyone is serious about relationships, and no one wants their true feelings to be wasted or played with, so we all become cautious.

As there is a saying on the Internet, people nowadays can’t get anything because they live too clearly. We avoid the possibility of being hurt, but at the same time we may also miss the really right person.

To put it in another easy-to-understand way, dating is actually very similar to finding a job. It is impossible to say that you will be satisfied with your first job. You need to constantly coordinate, explore and talk. For example, a man is a job applicant. If you have the ability, major companies are rushing to get you. There is no need for a trial period or several rounds of interviews. It has been done for you a long time ago and is waiting for you to come to your door. On the other hand, if you don't have the ability, just stay there wherever it's cool. Cold words and sarcastic remarks are commonplace.

Women are in poor condition, old and ugly, just like a company that is so poor that it is about to close down. No one cares about it. Still want to recruit people? Some people who dare to apply for jobs are old, weak, sick or disabled.

Society is reality, and reality is society.