What should I do if I am too careless?

First of all, carelessness is related to motivation intensity and emotional congestion.

Psychological research shows that moderate-intensity motivation and emotion provide the best background for cognitive activities. Too high or too low intensity will have a negative impact on cognitive activities. Lack of motivation and depression often lead to inattention and listlessness. The child watched TV in high spirits, but his mother forced him into the room to study. At this time, the child has no intention to study at all, so he is absent-minded and full of mistakes. Many primary school students are prone to make mistakes in the four operations, taking' 3' as' 8' and'+'as'-'. If you point it out to him, he will not care and say, what's the big deal? I did it a long time ago. The reason is that the topic is too simple to stimulate motivation. In this case, children should know that the problems we often encounter are not difficult. The difference between you and others lies in whether you can do simple things well. If the motivation is too strong and the emotion is too excited, it will lead to narrow consciousness, confused thinking and even a blank mind. Some children are usually cautious and diligent, and are good students in the eyes of parents and teachers. You won't do well in the exam, and you will make mistakes in the simple questions you usually do, or even miss the whole test paper. The reason is that he cares too much about the exam and wants to do well. For such children, parents should not talk to their children before the exam, nor should they show too high expectations. Let the children take the exam as part of their study, take the exam while learning, and go into battle easily.

Second, carelessness is due to not sorting out.

Teacher Zhang came face to face. A classmate is nearsighted. Isn't this Miss Li? Classmate B said that this was clearly Teacher Zhang. The two teachers are similar in stature, but far from each other in facial features. A student only saw the outline clearly and didn't pay attention to the details, so he made a mistake in judgment. Similarly, carelessness in learning is often due to the lack of accurate processing of cognitive stimuli. Sorting is often carried out through comparison and discrimination. Children and their mothers went to the vegetable market and met leeks. A few days later, the school organized an outing, and the child pointed to the wheat seedling and said, this is leek, which I have seen before. The teacher dragged him to a vegetable shed not far away and said it was leek. The child said that wheat is so similar to leek. Because before he saw the wheat, he only had a general impression of leeks. After that, he will carry out fine processing to separate the two. In order to prevent carelessness, it is very important to consciously guide children to compare and distinguish. For example, primary school students often can't distinguish the words "decline", "longing" and "sadness". Teachers teach them' horizontal failure, vertical yearning, and oral anxiety', and students can write and use correctly. It is difficult for children who have just learned pinyin to distinguish' b' from' d'. Teachers can remind children that' d' and' a' are similar. Or let the children copy the larger letters written on the cards, which can also deepen the impression. Because big letters form a bigger image in the mind, they actually magnify the details.

Third, carelessness is due to vague concepts.

Sometimes, behind the seemingly simple carelessness is a conceptual mistake. For example, children's exercise books say,' 0×6=0',' 0 ÷ 6 = 0',' 0+6=0',' 0+6=0'. When you pointed out his mistake, his explanation was: 0 is meaningless, so the result of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division of any number and 0 is zero. The reason for the mistake is that the child did not understand the meaning of the four operations of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division. For another example, when a child calculates the circumference of a semi-circle, he only calculates the length of the arc, not the length of the chord. In fact, it's not that he neglected, but that he didn't understand the concept of perimeter and didn't know that perimeter should be a closed curve. Therefore, parents and teachers should also ask their children the reasons behind their mistakes, and don't let carelessness cover up the truth of the problem and miss the opportunity of education. Many times, parents will also say that their children are too careless, so just remind them a little. Then why can't he do it without our "little reminder"? In fact, many problems are made wrong because of vague concepts. This is not simple carelessness.

Fourth, carelessness is related to personality and living habits.

A thoughtful teacher will find that the children in a class always have very different personalities. Some are careless, some are cautious; Have a plenty of whim, have a plenty of methodical; Some are happy and sad, and some are gentle and calm. The former is more likely to make careless mistakes than the latter. Because non-intellectual factors will have a wide impact on cognitive activities, so that cognitive activities bring personal characteristics and styles. The children's room is in a mess, and the shoes are east and west. His exercise books are often scribbled and the pages are irregular. A child often forgets things, does things according to his own interests, often observes without order and thinks without order. Therefore, starting from the little things in life and cultivating children's good habits and personality can reduce carelessness in learning. Tidying up your wardrobe, drawers and rooms can make children careful and organized; Arranging one's spare time and reviewing the class schedule can make children have a plan and order; A harmonious and democratic family atmosphere can cultivate a happy and peaceful mentality and make children do things without arrogance and rashness. This requires parents to be patient and not accommodating and rude. In this way, you can change your child's habits by changing his behavior, and finally change his personality. Over time, you will find that children's carelessness is gradually decreasing.

In addition, there are four reasons why children are careless:

Because children's visual memory and recognition ability are weak;

Parents did not correct their children's carelessness in time, and formed a habit over time;

Children lack a sense of responsibility and are absent-minded in everything they do;

Children have too much homework and often lose things and make mistakes in their busy work.

Parents of careless children should avoid turning on the TV too loud when their children are studying, and don't play mahjong or cards, because their children's attention is easily disturbed, and your actions can only make them unable to concentrate on their studies. After a long time, children will develop this bad habit of multitasking.

Careless children don't pay attention to their homework and don't check it after finishing it, because they are used to the help of their parents. Parents should let their children check and correct their mistakes to help them overcome carelessness and develop good nursing habits. If the child's homework or exam is not ideal because of carelessness, then you can punish him appropriately.

Children's carelessness was not developed in a day. That's because children have lived in a disorderly family since childhood, and have no certain schedule and good living habits. Therefore, parents should improve the family environment and cultivate their children's good and regular living habits. Pay attention to cultivating children's sense of responsibility, because with a sense of responsibility, he can naturally take everything seriously and avoid carelessness. Parents can let their children do what they can (sweep the floor, wash dishes, clean up toys, etc.). ). Parents should praise and encourage those who have done well; If he doesn't do well, he should be criticized and made to do it again. Parents should let their children face up to the disadvantages of carelessness, let them experience the benefits of carefulness in life, and let them bear the consequences of carelessness when necessary.

In addition, we can also use the method of behavior correction. But we don't use punishment, but use positive reinforcement methods. Because positive reinforcement is a more effective method.

What is the key to strengthening. We beat the child for his carelessness. We say that he is careless over and over again, but we are actually reinforcing his carelessness (equivalent to reminding him of carelessness, because the subconscious only accepts meaningful information, such as: "Don't be so careless in the future!" " "The subconscious mind accepts carelessness, and those" no … "subconscious minds will not accept it. )。 If we do it the other way around, we ignore him when he is careless. Dilute his carelessness, then praise him immediately when he is not careless occasionally, and strengthen his carefulness, so that he will gradually develop into carefulness. Do you believe it or not? I hope you have a try! This is an intensive exercise.

Another thing parents should pay attention to is that they should never label their children. Even if the child has a careless problem, he can't always say that he is like this. Under normal circumstances, he will think that he is like this. People still have the psychology of verification and often make mistakes, which just proves that they are like this. In this way, the child's carelessness will really become more and more serious.

Try to find out when the child is careful, and seize the opportunity to affirm him, wake up the child and make him feel that he can actually be very careful. Take your time.

To correct carelessness, parents can also let their children do more "fine work", such as writing brush characters and sewing buttons, which can exercise their carefulness.

References:

Ruifang parents education network xingfu education