Survival is the most important thing. Living is as simple as that.

V is alive, everyone has ups and downs, no matter how big the twists and turns, looking back is still dull. A recent unfortunate suicide case of an American and Canadian doctor in Toronto has aroused anxiety in Chinese society. How to treat suicide and mainstream society's views on it? Two years ago, this newspaper made a special report (see www.cctimes.ca, newspaper reading area, a 1, a4 edition on July 3, 2004, The Crossroads of Confidence and Despair, and Unfair Accusations to the Mainstream Media). This incident has caused more shocks from the aura of "doctors". To this end, this newspaper interviewed some local doctors in China, who told the feelings of immigrants from their personal experiences, so that readers can have a deeper understanding of the meaning of survival.

Last Saturday, Dr. Jiang, a Ph.D. student from the United States and Canada and the top science student in the 1979 college entrance examination in Hubei Province, committed suicide by jumping off a bridge in Toronto, causing great repercussions in the Chinese community. All parties are discussing the survival of immigrants, and even the "Ontario Employment Forum for New Immigrants" organized by Chinese groups has also discussed the case in a high profile. Mike Colle, director of the Immigration Bureau of Ontario, also said that he would negotiate with Chinese organizations to set up an emergency assistance plan.

However, no matter how hard the social follow-up assistance is, it can't save a precious life and a happy family. Many doctors who were in the same situation did not choose to escape, but took every step in a down-to-earth manner. Even if they lose their former dignity, they will still live in tears and live better.

It's a joke to say that you can't survive in Canada.

Jin Ping, who obtained a master's degree in chemical engineering in China, then transferred to Australia to study for a doctorate and finally settled in Toronto. Like many new immigrants, he adapted to the living environment, gave up his original major and opened his own Xinkang furniture store. For more than six years, his business has been very big. His most classic sentence is "survival is the most important and simple."

Although I studied chemical engineering before, Jinping's speech was full of philosophical flavor. For survival, he concluded: from the animal nature of human beings, survival is living, nothing else; In terms of social responsibility, survival means accepting various challenges; From a human point of view, I was born to be useful.

Jinping believes that the happiness of survival depends on the mentality, and it is precisely in this respect that there are problems in China's traditional education and culture. "We ignore the concept of self-cultivation and lack self-control regardless of family or university education. Suicide is a lack of responsibility and optimism. "

Is there a psychological gap from one occupation to another? Jinping said happily, "I will do anything as long as I can survive." It's a joke to say that you can't survive in Canada. Occupation is only a small part of life. Your ability depends on your personal understanding of life. I have no psychological gap from Australia because I know what I have to face. "

Jin Ping developed from a simple life. When he first came to Toronto, he tried every means to survive, from opening restaurants, running food companies and trading. But he first started to make wine, because there was no fresh wine on the market at that time, and he was very proud of his creativity.

It is the wealth of life to suffer hardships in the big waves and wash the sand.

It is a businessman who invested in the local tourism industry earlier in the mainland immigrant circle, which is similar to Jiang. Wang Qiang is a "prodigy" in China and the most outstanding college student in China. /kloc-graduated from university at the age of 0/8, got a master's degree at the age of 2 1, and then transferred to the United States to study for a doctorate in economics.

His experience is that no matter how highly educated you are, the boss with too high qualifications in the past came to Canada from scratch. "No matter how great you used to be, you should forget it."

He said that there was no suicide, which was extremely irresponsible. "Life always has ups and downs, and it is normal for Deng Xiaoping to have three ups and downs. Suffering is the wealth of life. How many big companies on Wall Street have experienced the crisis of bankruptcy many times before they grew up? Big waves wash sand and don't believe in tears. If you can't even do small things well, even a business with 10 thousand yuan can't be done well, how can you do a big thing with 100 thousand yuan? Everything is proved by yourself, not your education. People want to see what you can do now. It is useless to complain and fantasize too much. "

But is Wang Qiang one of the lucky immigrants? Some doctors may not have such a good chance. Wang Qiang strongly refuted this. "All luck is not accidental. Success has experienced many failures, but everyone has a different attitude towards it. Things in the world are actually very simple. We don't know how many people are richer than us, and countless people are more knowledgeable than doctors. We just don't fantasize about living. I went to sell flowers with my wife when I first came. I remember I sold 13 yuan on the first day, and there was only one yuan left except for my own food and bus fare. When I first started my tourism business, I only had 1 10,000 dollars in my pocket, and I didn't have any business for half a year, so I came down. "

Wang Qiang doesn't want to talk more about personal adversity, but his most honest words are always on his lips, starting from little things and starting from small things.

Complaining and sighing hurt one's spirit.

Jeff, who received her Ph.D. in physics from China University, immigrated to Toronto three years ago because of his wife and children's studies, but she has never found a professional counterpart. He used to work as an assembler in an electronics factory. Last year, he was recommended by a friend, valued by an American boss, and transferred to the United States to do medical commodity trade between China and North America.

He learned the news of Jiang's suicide from the Internet. He said that the main reason why Jiang's suicide case caused such a sensation in China society was that he saw his doctorate. If only laborers or stowaways commit suicide, will there be such a reaction? I believe everyone has the answer. This is a misunderstanding of China's social psychology. In fact, a doctor's degree does not mean that he is better than others. In the countryside, he may not be as good as a tenth of a farmer. Why do some people think that the doctor's experience is particularly sympathetic? On the other hand, should doctors be discriminated against by society if they can't find a good job? This is a misconception that China society values academic qualifications.

Jeff himself has experienced setbacks. He once got a professional job and lost it because of discrimination in the company. He is also disheartened at times. Looking back, he sighed, "I am afraid of losing my value when I look at my age. Sometimes I get nervous, but the more I sigh, the more gray I am. Thanks to the guidance and help of a group of former classmates and friends, I have a chance to get rid of it. So now I see a lot of online comments, full of complaints, scolding this and that. What's the difference between them and those who are desperate? Those who complain, if you give them another chance, they will accomplish nothing, because they will not do things down to earth, and they will not be willing to make more friends. In the end, they will sigh alone and can't get out of society. China people are superstitious, and it is not unreasonable to say no to sigh casually. "

Jeff believes that although the employment environment in Canada is not as good as that in economically developed areas such as the United States, people can still find their own way out as long as they are flexible.

The contrast of the doctor's aura is embarrassing.

In fact, in China's immigrant circle, there are many people who change careers with doctoral degrees. Some of them run trading companies, service industries, convenience stores and so on. They have the courage to face the reality and challenge their viability again. But the doctor's aura is still in their hearts, which often makes them afraid to show it to others.

The reporter interviewed several doctors by phone or face to face. Perhaps it is because they feel that their current jobs are "inferior". Some people are very worried about the exposure of their identity and are unwilling to talk about their personal experiences and feelings. Some people are willing to share their personal experiences, but they are sharply reprimanded by their families and repeatedly wave their hands and shake their heads to stop the interview.

It is understandable to protect personal privacy, but we can still feel the pressure of the doctorate in their hearts and families, as well as the nostalgia for the past glory. There are doctors and masters in Eastern Europe who can stand in the mainstream society and shout "Can't find a professional job, drive a taxi." However, for highly educated people in China, few people can speak their minds bravely. Different cultural backgrounds also lead to different expressions. Even if many people have countless complaints or sulks in private, they will not be known to the public, let alone understood by the mainstream society. Getting out of the dilemma of thinking is often more difficult than starting a business.