I wake my child up in the morning, but I can’t afford to wake him up twice. If he wakes me too much, I’m worried about you. What can I do?

This was also the case when my daughter was in the first grade of elementary school. I made an agreement with her to call her twice every morning, with an interval of five minutes between the first and second times. If she doesn't get up yet, let her sleep all the time. When she wakes up, she can go to school by herself without being sent off by adults.

When I was in second grade, once she went to bed too late at night and couldn't get up the next day, so I let her sleep without any interference. She woke up around 8:30, and when she looked at the time, she started crying in a panic. While crying, she washed her face, and then she was so busy that she didn't even bother to eat breakfast. She looked at me pitifully, hoping that I would send her to school. I calmed down and said calmly, "Follow our rules." She rushed out of the door with her schoolbag on her back, and I followed far behind. She trotted along the sidewalk, looking back from time to time. She must have I hope I can’t bear it anymore and will catch up with her on an electric bike and take her to school. When she was completely disappointed and determined that I would not appear again, she ran faster, and I speeded up to keep up. After running for about 20 minutes, she finally arrived at the school gate. She didn't notice me following her from beginning to end.

I am a teacher in a cram school. I went to class in the afternoon. My grandpa went to pick me up and said that she came out half an hour later than others and was punished by the teacher for being late in the morning. From then on, whenever I was at home, she would get up as required.

Once, I went to study abroad for more than ten days. During this period, I was picked up and dropped off by her grandfather and her father. After I came back, they complained to me, saying that your daughter didn't get up for a long time in the morning and was late three or four times in the past ten days.

But after I came back, I didn’t mention any lessons or reminders, and everything returned to normal. Isn't this obvious bullying?

There is no rule without rules, and this is also true when educating children.

We started taking dance classes when we were four years old. The class started at 8:00 in the morning. We were late almost every morning because our children didn’t get up in the morning.

The reasons after analysis are:

1. Going to bed too late at night, because the adults get off work late, which disturbs the children’s rest. The children wait energetically for the adults to come back at night, and then go to bed when the adults come back. I was even more excited, so I didn't sleep for a while. I definitely won’t be able to get up in the morning.

2. Feeling stiff when getting up.

My mother usually calls him a few times when she gets up, and then goes to cook while he is still sleeping. Usually my father wakes him up because he doesn't want to get up, and his father will complain. He is in a bad mood and is picky about dressing up, wearing socks, etc.

This is not advisable for a long time.

How did I solve it?

First of all, the child was unwilling to get up in the morning because her biological clock was not set properly. I adjusted her biological clock.

Start coaxing him to sleep at 21:00. Usually the father will fall asleep after get off work, so it will naturally be easier to get up in the morning.

Secondly, let the child bear the consequences of getting up late. There were several times when he got up late and there was no food to eat. Tell him to go to class hungry!

Third, get vaccinated in advance.

Telling your children not to be late for class tomorrow will make their classmates and teachers laugh. Communicate well with her. Especially on the details of dressing, we need to communicate well, which will save a lot of time!

The reason why children can’t get out of bed is largely due to us parents. As long as we are prepared ourselves, our children can get up early!

Don’t bark, let alone bark over and over again. Teach them how to read the watch, tell them what time it is, and where the watch hand should go. If the child is still annoyed, go downstairs first and let him know what time it is. It will last longer.

Regarding the matter of children getting up, I see that many parents are anxious, but the children are not anxious. The fundamental reason is that parents are too anxious. When we see that our children don’t pay attention to their studies at all and are struggling to get up every day, we get very angry.

Is it the children’s business or the parents’ business to get up? Why did what was originally a matter for the children end up being a matter for the parents? How to change children from passive to active?

Parents must dare to let go

Although countless parents know that it is their children’s business to get up and go to school, they cannot really let go and can’t help but Urging the child to get up over and over again. I have said countless times that the child should get up by himself, but never once did he actually let the child get up by himself. It is the parents who take care of things and dare not really let go, causing the children to lose their sense of control and initiative under their parents' arrangements. Therefore, the children feel like they are fighting when they get up every day.

Let the child have the final say

When people clearly feel that they can control their lives, they will be full of fun, more optimistic about life, and can feel More happiness, if you feel that you have lost control of your life, you will become very pessimistic, lose self-confidence, and lose most of the happiness in life.

Use the result experience method to let the child learn lessons, let him truly understand that getting up and going to school is his own business, and let him learn to master this matter. Some things need to be borne by children, and if their parents do it for them, the children will naturally feel that it is not their own business. Therefore, wise parents make it their children's business to go to school in the morning and let them control it themselves.

You must know that everyone does not like to be controlled by others. When they are controlled by others, they feel terrified and very resistant. However, they are young and cannot accurately express their helplessness in words, so, They took it for granted that it was their parents' business. In the end, in order for children to change, parents must first change.

What wakes up a child is not the alarm clock, nor the parents, but the dream rooted in the heart. The child is still young. After all, he is just a child. His mind is not yet very mature, and his personality is not yet sound. At this time, parents must set a good example by going to bed early, getting up early, doing everything early, and always being early. Consciously let children develop regular work and rest habits and establish a sense of time. You can develop a small habit in 21 days. If you have time, insist on taking your children for a run in the morning, watch the sunrise together, go to the vegetable market together, make a hot breakfast together, seize the early morning time together, and discover life. More surprises and beauty in the world, plant the seed of a beautiful dream in the child's heart, and let the dream wake him (her) up every morning, open the curtains, or the sun will fill the ground, or the wind, rain, or snowflakes Piaopiao can make him (her) full of joy and strength. If you can set an example and guide, it will be almost impossible for your children to stay in bed, let alone quarrel with their parents because of staying in bed. Maybe, when you get up, a sensible and self-disciplined child will have squeezed toothpaste and prepared breakfast for you. Looking at each other with a knowing smile, it is another beautiful day for the family.

I’m happy to answer your question

I don’t care, just let nature take its course. My children know the consequences of being late and getting up late, so they will definitely be early next time!

I don’t think I need to bark too much. When I have breakfast, I hold a bowl and eat next to him. It’s so sweet for the child. Hehehe

Caused by doting. It is rare to see people sleeping in during military training.

If we want children to be more obedient, we need to strengthen them in two aspects.

On the one hand, we need to understand our child’s personality and what type he is. Do you need encouragement or companionship and supervision? Only by using methods that suit him and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude will he get good results.

On the one hand: be kind and powerful at the same time. How?

1. Communicate frequently so that children can see and be grateful for our efforts. Of course, we also need to see our children’s efforts and strengths. In this way, children will like and respect us more and more.

2. Appropriate anger and rejection. This allows children to know what is a principled issue, which parents are more concerned about.

When I was in junior high school and adolescence, I wanted to imitate celebrities and skip meals like my classmates. I wanted to lose weight and maintain a better figure. My father spent a lot of time at that time, saying that no matter what, I would eat three meals a day. You must eat on time, otherwise you will easily get stomach problems and be unhealthy. Thanks to my father's anger, even when I entered the society and joined the work, when the work intensity was very strong, I tried my best to have three meals on time. Many of my colleagues had stomach problems at one time or another. In this regard, I It's always been good.

First of all, I will play wake-up music 5 minutes in advance to wake up the child and wake him up from sleep.

Secondly, I will pick up the phone and say, baby, your teacher just sent a WeChat message asking which baby will arrive at school first?

Third, I will go on to say, baby, let’s compete today to see who gets dressed first.

In this way, the child will get up happily [laughing and crying]