What are the consequences of unscientific parent-child communication?

In parent-child communication, bad parent-child communication patterns can be divided into four categories. I will introduce these four bad communication modes and their influences.

1. This type of communication, including accusations, criticisms, orders and even insults, will cause children's resistance and anxiety.

Such parents hope to control their children's behavior through accusations and insults. Their mantra is: "Why are you so lazy that you can't even finish this homework?" .

Why are you dawdling? I have told you several times, but you still dawdle. What's the big deal about such a trivial matter? You can't talk back when mom and dad criticize you. "Hit the child when you are angry. ?

Children educated by this kind of parents generally have two manifestations. One is to resist after puberty, not listening to parents, starting to resist parents, and even fighting back against parents.

Now many parents can feel that their children are not as obedient and rebellious as before from the fifth and sixth grades. In fact, the child's resistance is not adolescence, but he has been dissatisfied with it. The outbreak of adolescence requires resistance. At this time, parents can't control their children at all, and the parent-child relationship is also very bad. (family).

Secondly, the strict discipline of parents may make you look kind, or have excellent academic performance, but you lack self-confidence and security in your heart, which is very unfavorable to the career success and happiness of adult children.

2, super reasonable, the truth that the public understands.

As a result of this kind of communication, parents' words go in one ear and out the other, regardless of whether it is important or not, the children will filter it themselves.

Once, I saw a father and son on the train. The father has been telling his son about success, telling his son about Wang Jianlin in Ma Yun Ren Zheng Fei and telling him to study hard. Otherwise, nothing will be achieved.

My son started playing mobile games, and then he simply pretended to sleep. As we all know, he put obstacles in front of his father and they were isolated. The father is anxious like a fireball, and the son is as cold as ice. (family). ?

Parents tell their children too much truth, which usually ends like this. Children will automatically close their ears. He knows that it is impossible to reason with children. This is the final result of super-rational communication.

3. Love Zhangge, this kind of communication will cause children's conceit and inferiority.

In the process of educating children, as long as children have feelings, parents will immediately become gentle and please their children. In other words, it's all mom and dad's fault, mom and dad are wrong, and mom and dad don't understand you.

I completely lost my principle and position as a parent. Children educated by their parents will be extremely conceited at home and extremely inferior outside. Arrogance is because his parents make him feel that everything is right. Inferiority is because no one outside loves her as much as mom and dad. Her behavior was frustrated, leading to self-doubt and inferiority.