Are good people more likely to be looked down upon?

The so-called "good old man", as its name implies, is a person who pursues the philosophy of life that no one recruits and no one provokes. No matter what others say or do, they are "good" and "right", and their principles are not strong, and their positions are unclear or even unprincipled.

Then, I think it's easy to look down on nice people. Subconsciously, I feel humble and worthless, and I have been numb and avoiding myself.

To tell the truth, I really know that good guy too well. Let me share my views on good people with my personal experience.

Why am I so clear about the concept of "good man"? Because that's what I did in college. When I was in college, because I was introverted and afraid of society, my long-term inferiority complex led me to choose such an attitude of being a "good person" in the aggressive dormitory. There are four people in the dormitory. I will help them if they need anything. Everything they eat and drink is mine, but I don't think my food is delicious. I sweep the garbage on the floor, but I pour it. I borrow money and bring food. I just give it to them.

I serve others like a servant. Because I feel weak in other aspects, I can impress others with my sincerity, so that sometimes when I need help, someone will lend a helping hand. But is this the case? Listen to me slowly.

On one occasion, I most obviously felt how despised this way of life was. The thing is, I was sick in the dormitory once and my stomach hurt. I was also stubborn at that time, and thought it might be better to drink some hot water. After lying in the dormitory for a long time, the people in the dormitory probably asked and went to class. Because I usually go to the dormitory to fetch water, I complained that there was no water in the dormitory when I came back. I told them, "I don't feel well today, so I won't fetch water." These people began to plausibly say, "Isn't it all you!" I felt terrible at that time, so there was nothing I could do. I'm used to being old people, and I'm afraid of making them angry, so I put up with the pain and went to fetch water. When I came back, I heard those people talking about me, saying that I was "pretending to be sick and didn't want to fetch water", "She is a chicken thief with a bad mind" and "Who do I show this face to every day?" My god, I really want to kick the door and ask them, I give you so much every day, are you blind!

After that incident, I didn't care about them as much as before, and I was isolated from my college life after that. Then I moved out of another dormitory and changed my previous life and work. Because "good people" have no good results.

From then on, until I graduated from college and went to the workplace, my outlook on life and values were certain. I will not be a "good person". Now I live a relaxed, free and full life.

We should be good people, but we can't be good people

The first step out of the psychological trap is to learn to refuse, and the second step is to learn to be strong inside.

First, there are principles? Learn to refuse

Now, no matter in the workplace or in my life, the values I set for myself are "If you are good to me, I will be good to you". People respect each other. An flatterer who has no bottom line and principles will have no good results, and will also be despised and looked down upon by others. I won't put myself through this pain again. Doing things is doing things. When you hurt your own interests, you should say "no". If you have principles and stand, then others will not despise you very much.

Second, independence, self-confidence and inner strength.

In fact, I have been summing up my own problems and reasons for the university incident. I know I felt inferior because I was not confident. Dare not provoke others, dare not speak easily, dare not express easily. This is all a sign of my inferiority, so I began to exercise my self-confidence from then on, because I know that only when I am independent and tenacious will I not be afraid. Strong personality, not attached to others, is a dazzling star.

Good man is not a good title. We shouldn't be good people. We must have our own personality, our own principles, our own independence and our own perseverance, so that you can have the confidence to get the life you want.