Which hurts more, truth or joke?

How much truth is told in the joke and how much truth is expressed in the joke. When we tell our thoughts as jokes, people who don't want to understand won't understand anything. However, many times, there are many words you want to express sincerely, but you can't say them for various reasons.

I like a person very much, but I am afraid to tell her (him) my inner monologue, and I can't get the response I want from him. I'm afraid being friends is a good thing. Some things are easy to say once they are said, but it is impossible to be friends. How embarrassing it is to meet. However, there is a faint unwillingness in my heart. Some people don't want to be friends here. Maybe telling her (him) will have another result. With this mentality, many people choose to show their hearts to him/her on April Fool's Day. If rejected, they can also smile and say: I was joking with you, but you actually took it seriously. Then turn around and leave lost.

Are you one of those people? In front of the person you like, you always say something against your will, hurt him, praise him, and deliberately play the devil's advocate with the other person, so as not to let him know what he really thinks. However, those sweet words always can't find the right opportunity to express themselves, but they can't say what they care about. I'm afraid I won't get a response after I say it, but it will destroy the other party's previous good impression. Therefore, many truths are said in a joking tone, while expecting his response and laughing mercilessly. I am joking with you to cover up my loss.

A friend of mine, Stefanie, is a cheerful and frank girl who likes to be lively and play jokes on others. Xiaohui is one of them. She couldn't remember when she began to have feelings for him, and when she realized it, she found herself in love. I played all kinds of jokes because I was very close. I once said, if you can't find someone you love, just make do with it. It is also said that future boyfriends should be found according to Xiaohui's standards, with the same sunshine, handsome, considerate and caring, and humorous. Maybe from that time on, I felt more affection for him than my friends.

Later, they still maintained their previous relationship, eating, drinking and joking together, but the swallow knew that he liked him, and that feeling could not deceive herself. I pay more attention to his every move, and I can't help looking at him more, caring about his words and deeds and what I say. When a girl accosts him, he can't help feeling it. I would also like to find a suitable opportunity to express my thoughts, but I can't muster up the courage. Because she is too familiar with it, she always knows what kind of girl Xiaohui likes, and she also knows that she is not his type. She is afraid that her confession will make the distance between them far away and never return to the beginning.

People can control their emotions when they are awake, but they can't control them when they are drunk. It was my birthday, and then I invited a large group of friends to celebrate my birthday. I only remember drinking a lot and talking a lot that day, and then it broke. I didn't know what the swallow had been afraid to say until I heard from my friend the next day. I said it when I was drunk the other day. But they think you're just talking nonsense when you're drunk When you get up the courage and decide to have a complete showdown, what do you say if what I say is true? They all agree that you are not fully awake and are joking. See, people who are used to joking, the only time you are serious, will be considered joking. Then, in the noise, quietly leave.

You are such a person who is used to disguising his emotions and pretending that he doesn't care; You can speak a lot of WeChat words, but you never admit your weakness. Your surface is as cold as an iceberg, but you don't want to show your sadness outside and let others know your sadness. You'd rather deceive yourself and pretend you don't care. I really like him. So you have a soft spot for alcohol, because drinking will make you feel that you can stop thinking about him for a while, because only when you are drunk can you tell him the secret in your heart, express it in an unconscious way and give yourself a space to recover. Even if you fail, you can cover it up with drunken nonsense; That's why you added a sentence after what you said many times: haha, you are serious, I am joking. Only in this way can you keep the last bit of dignity and not be defeated.

But only you know the truth behind those jokes. Many times you say a lot of blurted words: for example, you don't like it, for example, you don't miss it, but these words that can be easily said are the most against your will. We always do. We are not good at expressing the softest parts of emotions, but we can easily express the hard parts. I often wonder, if we can all be less duplicitous and more honest, will our life be simpler? In fact, we have been looking for someone who understands you all our lives. He can see through all your duplicity and read the expression behind your jokes. Understand your silence and take care of your childishness.