Which is easier, complaining or changing?

0 1 As the ancients said, "Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory." ?

In life, we will inevitably encounter unsatisfactory people and things, but we are too concerned about gains and losses and full of complaints. In the end, it is not good for others and for yourself.

? Instead of being busy venting and always complaining seriously, it is better to change your mind, mentality and pattern. ?

Out of the bottleneck period of life, the road will get wider and wider.

02. Change your mind

Last year, I worked in a supermarket and met a little sister, Xiaofeng. Xiaofeng always has some opinions about the work assigned by the leader every time. ?

The person in charge works overtime on Saturday and Sunday, and has a rest from Monday to Friday. ? She said, "I hate working on weekends. This is a public holiday. Why do we have to work without overtime pay? Tired of it! " ?

When she got off work a little late at night, she began to fidget again: "What's this called? What time is it when you get home? I can't be with my children. This job can't be done. " ? Later, she resigned.

? After that, the road to job hunting was not smooth, and jobs changed one after another, and it never lasted long. ?

Until some time ago, she asked me to meet and told me that she was working two jobs now, which really surprised me!

? Only after asking did I know that she only worked for a few days in each job. When she felt unhappy, she jumped ship and changed jobs frequently, but she didn't make any money. ?

Later, she began to reflect on her behavior, only to find that she had many minor faults: nagging, lip service and "dissatisfaction".

? So she made up her mind to make a change. ? She made a rule for herself. Once she couldn't help complaining, she took a deep breath and forced herself to think differently. Or do something unimportant to distract you. ...

Every day after work, she will re-screen the big and small things that happened on this day and reflect on "punching in".

? After a period of persistence, I unconsciously got rid of some minor problems and found a satisfactory job. ?

Find the reason from yourself first, try to change a way of thinking, stop complaining calmly when things happen, insist on talking less and doing more, but work steadily. ?

A bad mood is contagious. If you complain about everything, there will be resentment and you will be in negative energy for a long time. Not only will you be in a bad mood and have no motivation to work, but it will also affect your health. ?

When you encounter resistance ahead, you can change your thinking and direction, and you can walk out of a new world without complaining or being discouraged. ?

Argue about everything, and all you see is bad things; Let go of complaining, and all you perceive in your heart is beauty. ? Don't get entangled in things, change your mind and find another way.

0 3. Change your mind.

Liu Tong, a writer, said, "The lower the valley, the more you can see the essence of a person. Mind is everyone's own light. You are devastated, you are tenacious. " ?

My friend is quiet and a workaholic. She was too busy to have a rest every day, but she persisted and stopped complaining.

? Working silently in the police station in the jurisdiction. Go to work during the day and at night, and you can rest for two days after you finish. ?

In order to support the study and life of her two children, she works part-time in the oxygen hair salon during the break, just to earn more money. ?

Work hard quietly, because the husband is unwilling to pay for the education and life of his children. The two have many contradictions for this, and their lives are completely out of step. ?

In calm words: "It is a kind of pain to live with people with different views." I don't want to argue any more. I'd rather work hard by myself than struggle too much. " ?

Suffering from marriage and fatigue, she once called me: "Sister, I am too hard! There are really many times when I feel that I can't live. But what should the children do if they think of falling? Complaining is meaningless and cannot be turned into money for children to eat and go to school. It is better to calm down and work hard to make money. "

She said:

People must overcome it by themselves. Sorrow is also a day, and joy is also a day. Only by putting a correct attitude can we live a good life. If you think you can't live, then you really can't live.

Since you can't change the embarrassing situation, change your mind and accept the facts frankly. As long as a person is not crushed by his own will, there is no hurdle to cross. ?

Excellent people are not without tears, but people who dry their tears and continue to run. ?

When encountering setbacks and difficulties, don't deal with them passively, put your mind right and try to solve them.

Because complaining is meaningless, and problems will not disappear with your chatter. ?

Don't complain when you encounter suffering; Change your mind and move forward bravely. ? Only with the right attitude can there be a bright future.

04. Change the mode

I saw a sentence in Zhihu:? "The pattern of the strong is supported by the complaints and grievances that are swallowed up!" ?

Different models have different results. ? I heard a story on the internet: two girls who went to study in the city from the countryside were laughed at by their classmates because of their accents. ? A girl began to complain that her hometown teacher's pronunciation was not standard, her dialect was very heavy, and she didn't have a good first teacher, which attracted jokes from her classmates in the city.

? Another girl was taciturn, tried to change her pronunciation, was positive, and was admitted to an ideal university.

? At a class reunion, the girl who complained in those days had returned to her hometown to marry and became a dissatisfied wife; And that silent girl, now successful, elegant and calm, exudes self-confidence. ?

People with narrow horizons will only complain and blame others at the bottom of their lives, and will eventually be tied behind them and lead a messy life; People with a big pattern will swallow grievances, complaints, make positive changes and become winners in life. ?

In the first half of his life, Luo Zijun once lived like a disgusting abandoned wife after marriage. ?

She complained that her ex-husband Chen was unfaithful in marriage, hated Lingling's third party, and even blamed He Han for persuading her not to understand her "suffering". ? She complained bitterly, but life didn't buy it, and her tragic situation didn't change at all. ?

Later, He Han told her: If you want to win the custody of children, live a good life and take good care of your family, you must stop complaining and make changes.

? Only by changing your own pattern can life develop in a good direction.

Luo Zijun followed the advice of his good friend. Instead of spending time on meaningless resentment, she has solved one life problem after another in a down-to-earth manner. ?

The pattern has changed, and since then, her life has been as smooth as ever.

Anyone who really lives a good life knows that a grumpy mood will only drag you down, which is harmful and useless; Timely adjustment and change is the right choice. ?

Efforts can change the status quo, and the pattern determines how far you can go. ?

There are no dull seasons in life. When you encounter bitter wind and rain, don't complain negatively, but change your pattern. If you relax, it is always spring.

05

Jiang Yang said: "It is a quiet moment in the years, and chicken feathers in one place are commonplace." ?

Being able to turn the life of "a chicken feather in one place" into a "quiet life" requires us to have both a peaceful mind and a determination to change. ?

Trouble strikes, guard against arrogance and rashness; It is better to change than to complain. ?

May we all be fearless and full of wisdom when facing the "bad treatment" of life. ?

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