Can "let him be three feet" really solve neighborhood disputes?

"Why not let him three feet!" This story When I was a child, when the neighbors in the village had disputes, I often heard the person in charge say this sentence and the story origin of this sentence. Also advise: "people who often suffer losses" and so on to persuade people to take a step back. In fact, many times, "letting him be three feet" between neighbors can usually solve the problem. After all, for most people, it is the attitude of "respect me one foot, I respect others one foot".

This sentence is simple to say. In fact, in the face of interests, the essence of the human heart will be highlighted, and few people can be so open-minded According to the story handed down, Prime Minister Zhang Ying said to his people: "A letter from a thousand miles is only separated by a wall. Why not let him be three feet!" It can be seen that the prime minister's generosity really answers the old saying: "The prime minister can punt in his stomach", and ordinary people can't do this kind of "choice". When we look at this problem from the perspective of Zhang Ying, the benefits of the "three-foot wall" are not worth mentioning, and we can use a frivolous sentence to justify it. If this "three-foot wall" is the whole interest of the family, it is another matter.

It's easier to take a step back than to do it! For example, in the rural areas in the past, for example, in the 1980s and 1990s, rural people lived on land, with many children, and the homestead in the village was tense, and fights and lawsuits often occurred because of such "land" disputes. Because the land at that time was the lifeblood of the people, some people like to occupy more, isn't it for the benefit? Now in the countryside, there are very few incidents because of this contradiction. Why? Or because there are many ways to make money, it is not worth the loss to take more cheap things from neighbors. Without good popularity in the village, the road to making money is narrow. To put it bluntly, there are fewer conflicts of interest and contradictions between neighbors.

For example, last year, there were two left-behind elderly people in our village who started to work because they ordered a little food. Great, the children from both sides have come back to solve the problem. Young people are high-profile and don't want to write about vegetable fields. They can find the old people on both sides to get even. When they miss the benefits of their "work", they can eat vegetables for ten years. The two old people thought about it, and they were competitive, but they got into trouble for their children. The gain is outweighed by the loss. When the two families had dinner together, they chatted happily. Why can't there be all kinds of "three feet of land"? So you see, "let him be three feet" can definitely solve the problem, but it is difficult for someone to give up the benefits of this "three feet of land", if it is a "land of gold".