Grasp the sense of proportion and humorous eloquence skills suitable for the occasion

Teasing and humor are communication and lubricants in life, but they must not be rubbed on your feet, otherw

Grasp the sense of proportion and humorous eloquence skills suitable for the occasion

Teasing and humor are communication and lubricants in life, but they must not be rubbed on your feet, otherwise things are minor and big, and you must not be careless. Humor should be suitable for the scene, otherwise it will become a cold joke, small and hurtful. The following is what I collected for you. Welcome to learn from it.

Humor is a superb language art, if used properly, it will help you become a real master of communication. Everyone has this experience, and getting along with humorous people will feel very relaxed and happy, and the atmosphere will be harmonious. Dull meeting, laughing and laughing because of humor; Friends get together because of him; Facing the serious boss, he spoke humorously and pulled a long face; In the face of stiff subordinates, he teased to ease his nervousness. If you are involved in fierce business negotiations, a little humor will help you reach an agreement smoothly after fierce bargaining.

Maybe you are a person with a good sense of humor, but you probably don't know the consequences of inappropriate jokes or humor, and you probably don't know how to use them correctly. What you need to understand is that equality and calmness can make you humorous, cleverness and thoroughness can make you humorous, posturing can't make you humorous, and dullness can't make you humorous. A little more humor is not just for laughing, but for making the language richer and better. If you can't use humor correctly, others will treat you as a joke. Therefore, when you need to use humor or jokes to adjust the atmosphere of your situation, you must clearly know whether the audience present has a sense of humor, otherwise your humor will not be recognized at all, and even all the audience present will not respond to your humor at all. On the contrary, it will cause the other party's anger.

At a reception held by a club, people were crowded, and the scene was very big and lively. While serving wine, the waiter accidentally spilled beer on the heads of several guests in order to avoid passers-by. The waiter stunned the audience.

At this time, in order to ease the atmosphere and eliminate embarrassment, the host said humorously: "Hehe, people don't say that beer shampoo is commonly used. Our beer is very effective for hair care. " I didn't expect a guest here to fly into a rage when he came out with a word. This guest is over 40 years old, and his hair is almost half bald. Usually he is most afraid of others talking about hair. Hearing the host's remarks this time, he felt that this was the host's way of teasing himself. This is precisely because the speaker is unintentional and the listener is interested. Inappropriate humor will only make things worse and self-defeating.

Therefore, humor is a double-edged sword. If used properly, it will be icing on the cake and turn defeat into victory. But regardless of the occasion and object, humor is often bad. In modern social interaction, it is not appropriate to joke in some occasions. For example, at a serious conference table, when everyone is frowning at the company's development difficulties, joking around may cause the boss's dissatisfaction and think that you don't care about the company's development and want to get out of it. For example, in the ward, we can try our best to comfort patients, but remember not to use humor indiscriminately, especially to joke about things related to patients' diseases. This is what the ancients used to say, you can't play jokes on the lame in front of them.

In real life, humor must conform to the scene, and people, things and feelings can be skillfully combined to show the high realm of humor. If you show off blindly and be humorous at will, it is really funny and can't be turned into a cold joke. Here are two small examples of indiscriminate use of humor, which can be used as a warning for everyone.

After renting a house, a tenant felt very dissatisfied, and many places were quite different from what the landlord promised. What he can't stand especially is that the roof leaks on rainy days. One day, after the heavy rain, the rainwater leaking from the roof damaged the tenant's bookcase, and most of the books were wet. The tenant couldn't bear it and went to the landlord and said, "I can't stand it any more." This roof keeps leaking into my room. You must solve it for me at once. " The landlord knew that he was indefensible, and when he saw the angry tenant, he wanted to calm his anger first. He smiled and said, "Oh, our rent is so cheap, of course, we can only leak it. Do you still want to leak champagne? " It is conceivable that the tenant added fuel to the fire after listening to it, and immediately checked out, and there is no room for discussion.

Another story happened in a small restaurant. A guest ordered a chicken. When the dish was served, the guests found that the chicken was cooked differently than usual. It feels like it is made up of different pieces of chicken, but he is not sure. So he asked the waiter, "How do I find that one chicken leg is long and the other is short?" At this time, the waiter wanted to make a joke and said, "Sir, are you here to eat chicken or dance with chicken?" A word stirred up a thousand waves, and the guests were furious after listening. He thought it was insulting, so he went to the restaurant manager and made a scene.

Humor has a premise, you should know yourself, know your identity, and find out whether you are a humorous person and whether you can use it flexibly. If you don't understand this, no matter what occasion, if you just tell some jokes or humor that you think are very interesting, it will not have a good result. If your humor is not in harmony with the situation and occasion at that time, then people around you may despise your self-righteous humor or jokes, which will often arouse others' disgust and even be regarded as an insult to yourself and be opposed.

Identity is very important for humor, and people with high status are easy to be humorous, because they can be relaxed and humorous by virtue of their own identity. However, people with low status are not easy to be humorous when facing people with high status. People with low status should often use self-mockery to humor, which is better than other forms.

Humor is to be measured. How?

1. Humorous content should be elegant. The content of humor depends on the humorist's ideological interest and cultural accomplishment.

Only humor with healthy content and elegant style can give people enlightenment and spiritual enjoyment, and it is also conducive to the successful shaping of their own beautiful image. Humor is vulgar or indecent, sometimes it can make people laugh, but later it will be boring.

2. No irony, no ridicule

No imitation, no sarcasm, no going? Make fun of other people's behaviors and remarks. Endless humor will lose its charm. Humorous language should be very concise, don't nag and chatter, don't tease and be humorous, otherwise it will gain the reputation of "clown" and damage the image.

3. Correct attitude, humor and friendliness.

Pretending, revealing people's privacy, hiding the knife in the smile, pointing fingers at mulberry, far-fetched, vague, vulgar, glib, etc. It is a taboo to tell humorous jokes. The process of humor is the process of communicating with each other and conveying feelings. You can't use humor to ridicule others and vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction. This kind of joke cannot be called humor. Others will think that you don't respect others enough and won't want to continue to associate with you in the future.

4. Humor depends on occasion

We should also seize the opportunity. In daily life, there are many occasions where we can tell humorous jokes, such as enjoying the cool in midsummer, waiting by boat, walking under the moon, taking a nap after school, chatting before and after drinking, and so on. However, it is not appropriate to tell humorous jokes on serious occasions, solemn meetings or funerals. At the wedding reception, you can say some humorous and enlightening anecdotes about the bride and groom's love, but don't take the bride and groom's appearance and age. Or publicize sensitive issues such as privacy as jokes, which is unpleasant. Once you find that humor can't make everyone happy or bring others into a happy atmosphere, you should stop.

Before a congressional meeting, US President Ronald Reagan said, "Ladies and gentlemen, please pay attention. In five minutes, we will bomb the Soviet Union." When a word came out, everyone was in an uproar. Obviously, Reagan played a ridiculous joke at an inappropriate occasion and time. To this end, the former Soviet Union made a strong demand on the United States.

Pay attention to humor, not everyone can tell humorous jokes.

We should distinguish between different genders, identities, positions, experiences, cultural attainments and personalities. Generally speaking, in acquaintances, fellow villagers, classmates? Say something humorous between relatives, old colleagues and old subordinates, even if the joke is overdone. However, if you are a superior, a celebrity, an elder, a stranger, a woman, especially a young girl, a depressed or withdrawn person, or a person who is dissatisfied with work or career, it is generally not appropriate to make jokes casually, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

Everyone around us has different tolerance for humor because of their different identities, personalities and moods. Generally speaking, the younger generation should not joke with the older generation; Don't joke with superiors at lower levels; Men shouldn't joke with women. When joking between peers, we should pay attention to each other's emotional information and personality characteristics. If the other person is outgoing, tolerant and humorous, it doesn't hurt at all; If the other person is introverted and likes to read between the lines, silence will be cautious. Although the other person is usually cheerful, if you happen to encounter unpleasant or sad things, you can't be humorous with him casually. On the other hand, the other person is introverted, but it is a happy event. Playing a joke with him at this time will suddenly highlight the humorous atmosphere.

It can be seen that it is very important to master a sense of humor. Joking an appropriate joke easily and humorously can relax the nerves, enliven the atmosphere and create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere suitable for communication, so humorous people are often welcomed and loved by people. However, once the joke is bad and humorous, the effect will be greatly reduced.

So, what you should pay attention to now is to have a correct estimate of yourself and the people you are facing? We should learn to use humor correctly as a spiritual regulator, adjust measures to local conditions, and let humor really play its due role so as not to lead to misunderstanding or unhappiness of others.

Humor is not a spoof, not a simple joke. Humor should be witty and considerate, but also a little bit free and easy. Only those who master humor flexibly can add color to the language and improve their attractiveness and demeanor. However, if you don't fit the scene, you only learn the fur of humor, but you can't grasp the essence of humor. The result will become a cold joke that no one will pay attention to, and even lose your wife and soldiers.