If grandma and mother quarrel together, is there any way to persuade them?

Why do you need to persuade them? This is the lifestyle they have lived with for a lifetime. It is useless for you to persuade them. Instead, you can use some appropriate methods to alleviate it.

In general, the quarrels between grandma and mother have been going on for a long time and definitely did not happen in a day or two. Why am I so confident? Because my mother and grandma are like this. If we are not together, we will be at peace, but if we are together, everything will be turned upside down. At first, I thought I should start a fight or something, but later I realized that I couldn’t get involved at all.

My mother is a typical radical and strong-willed person, while my grandma belongs to the antique school and is relatively conservative. My mother has perfectly inherited my grandma’s strong style. It's like a head-to-head confrontation, with no one giving in.

There is one thing that I remember very clearly. When I was about ten years old and in primary school, I had a cold and a fever. My mother insisted on going to Western medicine, but my grandma always insisted that Chinese medicine was better. It's so decent. Just this matter made the noise all the way to the hospital. My mother said that my grandma was stubborn and she always said that my mother was disobedient.

This state still remains when I get married and have children.

You may look at the two of them as if they can’t tolerate each other, but in fact they are both cruel and mean, and neither can let the other go. But they were all stubborn and refused to admit it, and they would fight each other when they got together.

Doesn’t it feel very annoying for you to be caught in the middle? So when the two of them quarreled, I listened carefully, watched the wind direction, and then waited for the opportunity. Because I have a team, it’s a matter of which side I’m on. After I finish taking sides, the quarrels basically stop.

But sometimes the situation is very special. For example, if the quarrel is really fierce, then take one of them to leave first, and then go to the other one. This is the importance of communication. In fact, two women being together is nothing more than trivial matters. My grandma and my mother have been arguing for decades, and they have never left the family.

Persuasion is one of the methods. Later, when I grow up, whenever she quarrels, I will take her here and there to eat delicious food. Over time, she will get better.

In fact, the most effective way is to praise the other person. For example, when I am with my grandma, I will say that my mother cares about my grandma. When I am with my mother, I will say that my grandma is good to my mother.

Anyway, no matter how they quarrel, they won’t hurt each other, they just have different opinions. So, you just need to make a contact person in the middle.