Christian understanding of love and marriage

Christian understanding of love and marriage

Christian understanding of love and marriage. The trivialities of life exhaust all patience. In a relationship, two people need to manage each other. People have different views on love and marriage. Let’s take a look at Christianity’s understanding of love and marriage and learn about it together. Christian understanding of love and marriage 1

1. Marriage is mutual building

During this time, some aunts in the church are busy pulling the rope. I hope some sisters who love the Lord can The purpose of marrying a brother who loves the Lord is to better serve the church. In the days to come, there will be no hindrance to service and you will be committed to the life of the church. In fact, it is a beautiful thing for Christians to become husband and wife. It is in line with faith and they walk together of the same mind. Whether in the future religious life or in teaching children, husband and wife have the same faith, which can further promote the inheritance of family faith. In the eyes of some unbelievers, there are indeed too many beauties in a Christian marriage. There is no fighting or swearing, and both husband and wife believe in Jesus.

Of course, for unbelievers, they only see one side. In fact, Christian marriages also have many struggles and conflicts between husband and wife. Before getting married, both parties knew how to be humble, but after entering the marriage, they got to know each other and started blaming each other for some problems. Because of the constraints of faith, both parties will be appropriately modest, but when people's tempers rise, they will get angry, causing problems such as emotions, complaints, and regrets. In fact, conflicts occasionally arise between husband and wife, but if conflicts occur frequently, this is something to be wary of.

Not long ago, a sister who loved the Lord in the church got angry and had conflicts with her husband, to the point where she ran away from home. Because her family was from a rural area, she hid in the fields. It was getting late at that time, so the sister's husband and mother-in-law entrusted brothers and sisters from the church to help search for her, for fear that she would be in danger or have problems. But everyone searched for it for a long time but couldn't find it. The reason was that the sister was angry at the time, so she went to stay at another aunt's house for one night when she came back. It was not until the next day that she notified her family to take her back. Later, church colleagues encouraged the sister and counseled her husband. In the end, the two chose to forgive and accept each other.

In fact, such things often happen around us, and they also remind us that Christian marriages are not perfect, and there are also conflicts between husband and wife. But when conflicts arise, how to prevent them from escalating, resolve resentments, and forgive each other is the key step. After all, we are Christians and we need to have good examples to influence others. If we let the world laugh at our marriage, it will not only be a disgrace to our Christian identity, but it will also not glorify the name of the Lord.

Therefore, a Christian marriage is also full of edification. It does not mean that if both of them believe in Jesus, there will be no problems. In fact, in life, the daily necessities of life, such as rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, ups and downs, and the warmth and warmth of the world, will always come together. Experience it in one step. Married life is not like love life, which is packaged and reserved. Married life is about husband and wife opening up to each other, not only the external opening, but also the opening of each other's hearts.

In short, God should be involved between husband and wife, and husband and wife should also learn to play their roles well, as it is written: "As the church submits to Christ, so wives must submit to their husbands in everything. You Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for the church.” This is the edifying nature of marriage. The Bible compares the love between husband and wife to the love between the church and Christ. From this we can see that God. Looking at the importance of marriage, God desires that people can enjoy the beauty of love in marriage.

2. Marriage is the training of unity.

The key to happiness in marriage is unity. The best way to deal with conflicts is unity, because There will be contradictions if there is no unity. Sometimes it seems like a small conflict in life, but over time, cracks in the marriage will appear.

It's just like the quarrel between husband and wife. In fact, my wife and I often quarrel because we don't agree on one thing. For example, how much food is appropriate to bring to visit relatives at my parents' house? We don't agree on the rest time in the evening. Sometimes we don't agree on what to eat for lunch. Rice, etc. will lead to bickering. As my marriage progressed, I gradually became aware of some problems. Sometimes these small problems could cause big harm. I began to choose to let go of myself (of course, this is not to brag about myself) and ask my wife for her opinions and opinions. Thoughts, understand her feelings more. Slowly we made some adjustments and changes to each other, and then we began to have unified opinions, make plans together, serve together, and build and grow each other.

Unity is a lifelong matter. It is not only about the physical unity of the husband and wife, but also the spiritual unity. When two people have been together for a long time, new problems will arise. Then they should work hard to find points of contact with each other in the marriage, choose to cover up each other's shortcomings, and praise each other's strengths.

Sometimes marriage is not like what the world says, it has a shelf life, and it will deteriorate once the shelf life expires; nor is it like what the world says, marriage is the tomb of love, and there is no love after entering the marriage. . People today have a wrong understanding of marriage, that is, they believe that marriage is a bondage and that once you enter marriage, you will not be so free. This is a wrong value concept. Marriage is a beautiful blessing from God. It allows people to establish relationships with each other, understand God’s love, learn to love God, and learn to love God.

I remember when I was serving, an elder said that marriage is like a siege. Those who have entered want to come out, while those who have not entered want to enter. In fact, I don't agree with this view, because marriage is not a fire pit, nor a trap, nor a place for people to escape. Only after I got married did I realize the beauty of marriage established by God. It allows both husband and wife to build each other up, learn the art of communication, shield each other from wind and rain, love each other, and be humble to each other. Although there will be stumbling blocks and conflicts, they can promote each other's growth. , and finally achieve unity. Christian understanding of love and marriage 2

First of all, Christian marriage is a covenant (Mark 10:9: What God has joined together, let no man put asunder:). This covenant connects the couple to God together. God is the foundation and guarantee of marriage. Solomon vividly describes this unbreakable relationship: a three-stranded rope is not easily broken. Unlike a contract, a covenant is not based on rights and obligations, but on self-sacrificing love that never ends. (Mark 10:7: A man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two will become one flesh). Regarding the relationship between husband and wife in marriage, the husband is the head of the wife, and the wife is the bones and flesh of the husband. God established this order based on the unique nature of man and woman. Women are created with more sensitive, vulnerable, emotional and psychological characteristics than men. Therefore, she is more susceptible to emotions and more easily deceived. (1 Timothy 2:13-14 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman who was deceived and fell into sin). It does not require the wife to be lower than her husband and to obey blindly. Rather, you should obey your husband by fearing God, obeying God’s commands, and with a heart that is willing to serve, a heart that is gentle and quiet, and a heart that is grateful in everything.

The teachings of the Bible are balanced. It reminds the husband that his main duty is to love his wife. This kind of love is selfless, self-denying, and unrequited love. Jesus Christ has set an example in this regard. He loved the church and gave himself up for her. In reality, wives tend to ignore the importance of submission, and husbands tend to ignore their wives' needs for love. Wives need subtle "maintenance and care" from their husbands, a self-sacrificing love modeled after Jesus. We must fulfill her, protect her, and water her. I believe that if a husband loves his wife, his wife will obey him wholeheartedly. Commitment and self-denial are the essence of the Christian marriage covenant.

But there is a very important principle in Christian marriage: belief and unbelief cannot be equally yoked. Christians should try their best to seek union within the Lord, and Christians who want to remarry after divorce should also seek union with a Christian. God’s original intention in establishing marriage is to make it sacred and beautiful, where the husband and wife not only walk together, but also work together and work together.

If you marry a non-Christian, you will not be able to talk about the joy of walking together and sharing the same heart. This kind of union runs the risk of having your faith tested and lost after marriage. Some people say that some have brought their significant other to Christianity and believed in Jesus, but this rate is very small and the journey is difficult and bumpy; those with weak faith will suffer persecution for their faith. This is mainly to protect the Christian faith. Different beliefs lead to huge differences in many aspects such as outlook on life, use of time, values, ethics, money management, ways of thinking, etc. There are also disputes about the funeral of the dead and the ownership of the beliefs of children. This is illustrated by the loss of Christianity among children in many places. Some even follow their spouses and abandon Christianity. As the Bible says: How can two people walk together if they are not of the same mind? What fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What connection does light have with darkness?

God also considers human weaknesses. Paul, because of the hardness of his heart, 1 Corinthians 7:12-14: But to the rest I say, Not the Lord, if a brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is willing to live with him, let him not leave her wife. 13 If a wife has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not abandon him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife. And the unbelieving wife is sanctified because of her husband. (Husband’s original text is brother) Otherwise, your children will be unclean. But now they are holy.

Christians should keep their marriage holy. 1 Corinthians 6 Chapter 19: Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit? This Holy Spirit comes from God and lives in you. And you are not your own people. 20For you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. Because "no matter what sin a person commits, it is outside the body; but whoever commits sexual immorality sins against the body." Christian understanding of love and marriage 3

1. Ten principles for Christian couples to get along

1. As a man, you must have your own abilities. A man must be the head of the family and have authority over the entire family, including his wife. In addition to being able to manage the family, you must also manage yourself, know how to reflect on yourself every day, and be a good example to your family.

2. Men must combine love and authority. Both are indispensable and need to be implemented at the same time. You must not lack love and treat your wife with love.

3. A man must establish his wife and have authority over his children. This is also a man’s responsibility. Father and mother are the joint administrators of their children.

4. To make the wife dignified, even if he has done something dishonorable and wrong, he cannot mention it in front of other people, including his children.

5. A husband has the right to make his wife improve in knowledge and serve as his mentor. In the process, you need to teach your wife the word of God.

6. Men should also serve as spiritual mentors for the whole family.

7. The husband should lead the whole family in praying to God. In addition to knowing how to pray, you must also have a heart to pray.

8. Men must clearly understand that it is their responsibility to support their families.

9. As the head of the family, a man must be patient enough to tolerate all the weaknesses and bad moods of his wife.

10. The last point is extremely important, which is to apply the above nine principles carefully. The above is an introduction to the ten principles for Christian couples to get along. I hope it will be helpful to everyone.

2. The Christian’s correct view of marriage

1. A Christian’s view of marriage should first be based on faith in order to achieve the purpose of glorifying God .

2. The reason why some people have no faith in their lives is mainly because they do not regard faith as the foundation of love. Christians often need to find someone who also believes in the Lord before their married life can be happy enough.

3. If you truly believe, you will not do things that displease God. Therefore, this is also the first principle and priority and cannot be shaken.