What if your parents are always sarcastic, sarcastic, and hitting on you?

This is the situation in our family.

My parents are the kind who are submissive outside and show off at home. Two people can't speak or do things for the rest of their lives, and their lives will be unsatisfactory. Every day, they take out all kinds of unhappiness on me, scold them all the time for being unlucky because of me. In fact, I am now in my forties, and I gradually feel that such parents have low self-esteem because they have no talents, skills and knowledge, and they have no sense of security or self-confidence in their lives.

Now they are in their 70s and I am in my 40s. I don’t know whether they have ruined my life or I have ruined theirs. Anyway, if they are sick, I should still get the money. No matter how hard you contribute, there will be no less. Since we are a family in this life, we have no choice.

On the outside, my father is a nice old man who is easy to talk to, and my mother is a compromise person. At home, my mother is an impatient and strong person, sarcastic, sarcastic, and beating and scolding me at every turn. And my father was just a helper. When my grandparents and my mother had conflicts, he sided with my grandparents indiscriminately. When my mother beat and scolded me, he sided with my mother without hesitation.

I remember when I was a child, my mother asked me to cut potatoes for the first time. Looking at the black kitchen knife, I hesitated. My mother immediately yelled impatiently: "Hurry up! Why are you waiting so long?" ”

I picked up the knife and cut a few pieces. Suddenly the potatoes rolled and the blade cut on my finger. A piece of meat fell. I covered my finger and cried loudly. My mother While hurriedly looking for gauze to bandage me, I scolded: "If I ask you to do some work, you will have to pay me!" The father on the side teased: "The work is not done well, and you still have the nerve to cry?!" I There was a blank silence in my heart.

One year during the winter vacation, I was doing my homework, and my mother was nagging and complaining. It made me very upset, so I talked back. My mother immediately complained to my father who was standing next to me. I raised my eyes, raised my hand and threw my pencil case to the ground. At the same time, I scolded: "If you don't want to go to school, don't go to school!" I was so angry that I jumped over, crushed the pencil case and said angrily: "Don't go to school!" "Not yet!"

One evening, I was making dinner. The porridge was cooked, the steamed buns were heated, and I was washing the spinach. My mother came in and scolded me loudly: "Why are you so slow?" You're a waste of time! How long has it been since you finished the spinach? Family!"

My mother was even more angry: "Just let me know that you hate me so much? Why are you talking to me in a hurry? "?"

I felt even more painful: "You are the one who hates me. You beat me, yell at me, and make me feel uncomfortable every day. You are not acting in a hurry, you are just looking for trouble to fight!" "

The mother suddenly stopped talking. After a while, she said: "Your grandma treated me like this when I was a child. I understand that your grandma was like that because she was in a hurry. She never complained. "Can't you understand me like your grandma?"

"No, just because you don't realize it's hurt, you inherit such bad ways and intensify the pain to me. , makes me feel that life is worse than death. I am forced to resolve that I will never let this pain continue. In order to avoid having such miserable and desperate children as me, I would rather not get married in this life."

Mother! She fell silent. Since then, she has restrained herself a lot.

Through these things, I realized: My parents don’t really want to hurt me, but they don’t realize it. If you have the same problem as your parents, you should communicate with them well and let them know that they Which actions have hurt you? I think most parents will reflect on it as long as they realize that they are hurting their children. Good luck!

1. In their view, crackdown on education is a way of motivation that can stimulate children's ambition.

2. Their parents also did this when they were young. This is also a subtle influence of the original family.

3. Some family conditions are not good. Parents are busy making a living and do not have much patience with their children.

Fortunately, now we are paying more and more attention to the encouragement and education of children.

Compared with cracking down on education, praising children's specific behaviors more realistically can help improve children's self-confidence and self-identity.

Therefore, we also see that today’s children are more assertive in personality than we used to be and dare to express their opinions.

1. Sit down and have a good talk with your parents, or write a letter to tell your parents that you don’t like this approach. This will make you feel inferior and have no self-confidence.

2. When parents take this approach again, remind them immediately not to say that. Because it is not that easy to change a person's behavioral habits and thinking patterns.

3. You need to adjust your mentality and tell yourself that it's just your parents who can't express it, and it's not really that you are that bad.

4. When doing things, try to stay out of the sight of your parents to prevent them from seeing you, which can reduce their "dislike".

5. Try to achieve some results, so that when parents say this again, they can confidently refute them.

6. Strive to become independent as soon as possible, get out of their sight, and live independently.

In fact, when most parents get older, they will gradually change and treat their children with caution. However, this kind of education method will be "herited", and if you are not careful, you will live more and more like your parents.

I hope my answer can help you.

It is the first time for many of them to be parents, so they are not familiar with it. It is normal to make mistakes. Just like us as children, we don’t know how to satisfy the excellence in the eyes of our parents. Children who always fail to meet the standards may also be helpless in the eyes of their parents. This is my first time, please forgive me.

What should you do if your parents are always sarcastic, sarcastic, and attacking?

Both aspects. Under normal circumstances, parents love their children, but they just don't know how to express their love. They use sarcasm and sarcasm to stimulate their children's enterprising spirit, hoping to inspire them to resist and prove that they are not who their parents say they are. In fact, for some children, although this method is hurtful, it is really useful. However, most of these children are stubborn. They will not communicate with their parents and will just do it in a dull manner. And the parents only saw the usefulness, and then they kept strengthening it until they hurt each other's feelings. Another part of the children will also resist. The way of resisting is, if you say I can't do it, then I won't show it to you. As a result, the parents will become more disappointed and speak harshly, and the children will become more confused and at a loss. It seems that the results are not good. For children, parents are the external environment. All they can do is communicate effectively and tell them that sarcasm and sarcasm make you very painful. In comparison, you will want to be encouraged and praised more. Any shortcomings will be made up for by their encouragement. You will try your best not to disappoint them, but your parents must understand that you are an independent individual and cannot meet all their expectations. There will always be disappointments, but you must have worked hard in life, so please believe in yourself. Then guide them to read relevant books.

The above mentioned are all things that can be done by the external environment. In fact, it is very difficult to change this part. Others are always out of control, and the best change is yourself. You have to be resistant to stress. This is just because parents will face more negation in society in the future. If every negation weighs on their hearts, they will become depressed every minute. Just take your parents' sarcasm as your own whetstone. As long as you don't give up in this world, no one can decide your life. People's abilities can be developed. If you can't do it now, it doesn't mean you won't do it in the future. Use your excellence to make it. Best answer. Change yourself, adapt to the environment, and survive better.

Finally, love yourself, love yourself, love yourself. Only by loving yourself first can you have the ability to love others. No matter who denies it, don’t give up easily.

Parents want their son to become a dragon and forget their daughter to become a phoenix. You can talk to your parents and don’t always hit you with sarcasm and sarcasm. The most important thing between people is communication. My child is in the second grade. I like to procrastinate when doing homework. Sometimes I will say sarcastic words to him when I am angry, but later I will regret it and feel that I should not treat him like this no matter how angry I am when my child makes me angry. Otherwise, I will feel useless in the future. If you are afraid that he will have random thoughts, you will talk to him.

So I suggest that you take the initiative to talk to an adult about your thoughts so that the adult can understand how you feel in your heart. Only then can the adult know what language to use in the future to express it without causing harm to you [smile] I hope this can help you

Growing up, I never received a word of praise from my parents. This is probably a common problem among the older generation of parents.

As a generation who grew up under the daily suppressive education of parents, I can’t help but feel a little sad when I see this. When we were children, we always didn’t understand it, and when we grow up, we don’t really agree with it. Fortunately, , so our next generation, we learn.

1. Have an increasingly strong heart: Parents, you can’t be tough, turn your grief and anger into motivation, and work hard to become a better person.

2. Learn the art of language: Nowadays, some jokes on Douyin are very good. Whether we are facing the wind and rain outside, or the "hurt" of our loved ones "against our will", we can remain calm Feng Qing "fighted" back.

3. Try to communicate: If you are an adult, you can find an opportunity to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents, talk about what your parents said at certain moments, your inner thoughts at that time, and express your needs. , I think they will understand too.

4. Write at the end: When you have graduated, when you are embarking on a distant future, when your parents can’t see you a few times a year, when your parents’ thinking can no longer keep up with your so-called new things. affairs, then you will find that your parents have slowly changed, and those sarcasm, sarcasm, and blows have all turned into caution and expectation. Therefore, you should cherish the time you can spend together. After all, they are getting older.

For the friend who asked this question, I think you should be an adult who has not been in society for a long time. You want to do something, but you always encounter pressure from your parents.

This feeling is very uncomfortable, your self-confidence will be destroyed, and you are helpless.

Although I don’t know what kind of predicament you are in now, but if you want not to be controlled by this situation, you must make changes.

1. Changes in thinking

First of all, your thinking should not be affected by your parents' blows. You should turn the blows into motivation.

2. Change of direction

Comprehensively analyze where you think the right time, location, people and people are heading.

3. Repositioning of goals

Do what you are good at according to your own advantages, learn and cultivate deeply.

The only thing left is to insist on being yourself.

When everyone is moving in the direction of their own choice, and your family cannot see when the results will be achieved, your family members are anxious for you, and they cannot hold back their anger and want you to let go. ,restart.

However, only you know where you have reached. My persistence is rewarded. Even if there is no reward, at least I have tried my best once.

Parents are always sarcastic and sarcastic to attack you, because they hope that their children will succeed, and more importantly, they hope to maintain their own face. If you succeed, he will feel that his face will be bright. If you are good in all aspects, No, he feels that his face is not shining and he can't stand it, so he takes out his anger on you and hits you with sarcasm and sarcasm. Undoubtedly, this educational method is definitely incorrect. So what do you do?

If your parents are sarcastic and sarcastic to you, you can talk to them. You say: Ten fingers stretched out have different lengths. Not everyone can become a dragon or a phoenix. If you do this, you can only hurt me. My self-esteem has hit my self-confidence, leaving me in pain and trouble. I have no intention of studying and working, which is not conducive to my success. What's more, as parents, have you been successful? Other people’s parents have tens of billions of assets, do you have them? So I hope you won’t sarcastically attack me again in the future. Don’t worry, I will work hard. I can’t guarantee whether you will succeed, but I won’t regret it if I try hard.

So you have to get out of these pains and worries, just pretend they don’t say it, go in with the left ear and go out with the right ear. The best way is to turn these sarcastic and sarcastic words that hit you into motivation to spur you on, and remind yourself at all times that you must work hard and work hard to continuously improve yourself and move yourself closer to success.

Maybe my answer is not right, but I still want to answer it.

My parents are very tolerant of me and mostly praise me. They probably think that girls who criticize too much from an early age will become more timid, so I hear very little criticism.

When I become a parent, my God, what can I do with a son who knows nothing about the world and feels great about himself every day? All my husband and I can do is sarcasm, sarcasm, and attack.

Just after the exam, he told us that he performed very well this time and was in the top five without getting full marks. Then my husband and I were overjoyed. Less than three days after we were happy, we heard about the rankings. From third to fifth to tenth, almost every time I know a classmate's score, his ranking moves down one place, which makes people crazy.

Every night at eight o'clock, we were told that our homework was almost done and that we could go to bed early today. However, we were still writing at eleven o'clock, still writing at twelve o'clock, and knocked on the door at twelve-thirty in the middle of the night to ask for our parents' signature. Check in!

Whenever you praise a little, your little tail will be raised high immediately, and you will feel that you are a heroic little prince in the world. It is so easy to be complacent. How can a parent dare to praise? It is true that he will be suppressed every minute. . While suppressing, I was worried that my attack was not harsh enough, so I let go and flew into the sky.

My son is thick-skinned and strong-hearted. He has been suppressed by us many times, and his ability to argue for himself has improved rapidly. Usually the suppression and denial have just begun, and his self-defense saliva is already flying all over the sky. Quickly stop. We old parents drowned.

So the current dialogue is often:

Parents: You are too...

Son: What's wrong with me, now! ￥@%%%&%&……

Parental ban.

The son wanted to argue again, but the old parents had surrendered and kept silent.

I think my son will not be sad because of our sarcasm, sarcasm, and suppression. Firstly, he is not a sensitive person and is very nervous. Secondly, he can feel our love, so We didn't really hurt him.

In fact, no parent is willing to combat sarcasm and ridicule their children. They do this mainly because they want their children to succeed.

There is an old saying in China that you cannot become a talent without training. Everyone has a different attitude towards these practices of their parents.

I also listen carefully to the way my parents educate me, and some are a little irritable.

So, depending on what kind of parents educate each person, some people’s lives will also follow the way their parents educate them.

For other people, the more their parents try to ridicule and suppress her, or make fun of her, the more positive she will become. She feels that if her parents say this, if I don’t work hard, I’m really sorry. them.

Of course, some people feel that when their parents criticize or scold them, the pressure they bear may not be so good. Of course, the most important thing is to see how the individual thinks.