Wife, what should I do if I don't help your brother pay back the money he owes for playing cards?

"I want a divorce, the pressure on my shoulders is too great. I can't bear it. " A few days ago, awei said this sentence to me with a tired face.

Awei said that he had not slept well for a week, because his wife quarreled with him every day, clamoring for a divorce and so on. The reason for divorce is very simple, because awei didn't help her brother-in-law pay back the money, so his wife has been clamoring for a divorce.

Awei said that half a month ago, his wife told him that his brother owed 200,000 yuan for playing cards, and those people wanted money to go to her parents' house. You threatened, and the other party was released. If her brother doesn't pay back the money on time, then he will pay the price that he will regret for the rest of his life. At that time, he won't know.

It is precisely because of these words that awei's wife was frightened, so she directly asked awei for money. Of course, for this matter, awei directly refused, because he helped his brother-in-law pay a lot of money in recent years. Either everyone fights or he gambles on debts, so he swears that he will never care about his brother-in-law again. Even if his wife threatens him to divorce again, he will not be afraid and divorce directly.

Awei said that in fact, he had long known that his wife was a brother-in-law demon, that is, the woman who was called the prodigal son. But he tolerated again and again, and he didn't choose to divorce, because his wife gave birth to a pair of children, and he loved him. What the brother-in-law caused at that time was not a big deal, so he could help.

But this time my brother-in-law owes 200,000, not 1 10,000, 20,000. Awei said that he can really collect enough money, but after he takes out the money, life will be very difficult, because his children are still young, have to go to school and even buy a house in the future, so he can't take out the money for them.

Awei has always told his wife that it is a society ruled by law. If the other party dares to do these things, his brother-in-law will be beaten or threatened at most, which is good for him, because only in this way can he remember for a long time and let him know what he can and can't do. As an adult, he must be responsible for his actions. You can't help him all the time, otherwise he will get into big trouble sooner or later, and even destroy our family directly.

Awei emphasized to his wife, "Wife, I won't help your brother pay back the 200,000 he owed for playing cards. He will find a way to repay it himself, otherwise he will never grow up and even ruin our family. Our children are still young, so you should think more about them. " . Awei thought that after he said these words, his wife would be speechless, but she suddenly got angry and said, "If you don't help, you will get a divorce, and the property will be divided into half. I am the only brother. If I don't help him, who will? " .

It was his wife's words that completely chilled awei, and then he had the idea of divorce. Awei asked me how he should handle this marriage. If you divorce, will it hurt your child?

Bian Xiao has something to say:

Although they all say "harmony is different", I think it is better to divorce awei, because this woman will not only ruin awei's life, but even the life of the child, so for the sake of the child, awei had to divorce and then stay away from his wife. Then give the child a stable living environment, because his wife's brother is a time bomb, which will directly destroy the family at any time.

In addition, the skills of divorce will not harm children, only the unfortunate family environment and contradictions will bring more harm to children, so for the awei family, divorce is only good for children, not bad.

Therefore, it is correct for Xiao Wei not to help his brother-in-law, because he and his brother-in-law are not related by blood and have no obligation to help him at all. Awei's help is mutual affection, and it is also his duty not to help. No matter what he does, he won't make mistakes. This is his own choice.

Maybe when I see this, some people will say it's fake, because how can there be such a stupid woman in the world, and how can there be a woman who sacrifices her family to make a family? But in reality, there are many such women. Some of them have lived in a family that values boys over girls since childhood and have been instilled by their parents since childhood. Some of them don't know how to measure it at all, so they will do these things, which is what all people think is a fool's thing.

In life, I often warn the women around me that even if you love your family again, you should pay attention to your discretion and put family first after marriage. Otherwise, you are doomed to harm others and yourself.

In my opinion, awei's lazy brother-in-law was indulged by his sister. So every time awei's wife helps her brother, she hurts him, especially gambling. Help is connivance, making the other person unscrupulous and even making terrible mistakes. So if she really wants to help her brother, then not helping is the best decision.

As an adult, awei's brother-in-law must be punished for his mistake, otherwise, he will never be alert, never get better, and even hurt his relatives, so he can't help.

I told awei that the divorce of marriage is destined to bring only harm and pain to men. Only by staying away from her can the family be happy.