“On the blind date, the mother made many requests for her son.” The woman replied, “Don’t come out to harm others.” What do you think?

In ancient times, blind dates were mostly negotiated by the parents of both parties, but now blind dates are more based on the children's ideas. As long as the two children think it's okay, the parents will naturally not object too much. However, there are still people who are like children who have not grown up and always keep their parents' advice on their lips. It's not that you shouldn't listen to your parents, but it's wrong to rely too much on your family and need care from your family. There is a popular word for such people called "Mama's baby".

Although every child is a little princess and prince in the family, that is only when they are young. When you grow up, you should have your own ideas and your own independent side. It's important to listen to your mother, but you don't have to obey it blindly. Blindly following the family's arrangements and listening to the family's instructions, how is this different from a puppet? Therefore, you must have your own opinions and live independently.

In marriage, "Mama's baby" will cause people a lot of headaches. The originally planned life for the two of them will always involve parental intervention and excessive concern. No one likes others to dictate their lives, let alone prying into them in the name of caring. In a marriage, it will be relatively tiring to get along with someone who has mommy-like qualities. Similarly, the other half who has the characteristics of a mother's baby will be relatively less assertive. After all, I am used to discussing everything with my parents, so if something happens, I have to talk to my family in a hurry. After getting married, I will probably report to my parents all the recent events. Therefore, for those who have the attributes of "Mama's Baby", they should carefully consider whether they can accept his personality and living habits before getting married, and do not regret their original decision after marriage.

Today I’m going to tell a story about “Mama’s Boy”. This experience was shared with me by a reader friend. Her name is Xiaojuan, she is almost twenty-eighty-nine years old, and her family is anxious for her to go on a blind date. On a blind date, Xiaojuan met a "mama's boy" Xiao Li and his mother. Logically speaking, some families will have both parents present when they meet for the first time. However, this time Xiaojuan went to the blind date alone and only met Xiao Li’s mother. Why?

It was Xiao Li’s mother who proposed that Xiao Juan come on a blind date. Xiao Li's mother originally saw that Xiaojuan was well-educated and had a good personality, so she wanted her to get to know her son. It was also because an elder suggested it. Although Xiaojuan didn't know Xiao Li very well, she was willing to meet him first. So the two of them added their contact information and agreed to meet at a coffee shop on weekend afternoons.

Xiaojuan naturally dressed herself up early when she went on a blind date. Thinking that she was meeting people of the same age, Xiaojuan deliberately dressed in a lively and not so serious way. When they arrived at the agreed place, Xiaojuan only saw an older lady sitting there. Seeing Xiaojuan's surprised look, the lady quickly said: "I am Xiaoli's mother. He has been stuck in traffic for a while and can't get there for a while. I am very satisfied with you. Today you are on a blind date and I want to see how you talk. But I didn’t expect Xiao Li to be late and make you, a girl, wait for a long time. Please sit down first and let’s talk.”

Xiao Juan felt a little nervous after sitting down, but she didn’t expect the first time. The first blind date involves meeting the other person's parents. Didn't they agree to meet each other first? Although she was a little nervous, Xiaojuan started chatting with Xiao Li's mother. Xiao Li's mother asked about Xiaojuan's work, education, and family situation, and she was very satisfied. She became more and more pleased with Xiaojuan. However, Xiaojuan still felt uncomfortable and secretly hoped that Xiao Li could come soon.

At this time, Xiao Li's mother said to Xiao Juan: "Xiao Juan, you see that your conditions are very good, and I am very satisfied with you. Our Xiao Li is also very good. When you get married, you can work Resign and just take good care of Xiao Li at home. Xiao Li earns a lot, which is more than enough to support you. And I always worry about Xiao Li living alone, so you can take good care of my son without going to work. "Xiao Juan felt strange. , why aren’t you allowed to go to work even if you’re married? It can be said that you resign for the sake of the family, but it’s not right to resign just to serve your husband, right?

Xiao Li’s mother saw that Xiaojuan didn’t quite understand, so she quickly added: “You don’t understand. A woman is lucky if she can serve her husband and parents-in-law well at home. It’s not like other girls who go out to show off and it’s against the rules. And girls can The way out is to earn a little money and get married early. In the future, don't you have to rely on your husband to please your husband? But don't worry, Xiao Li's father and I will not make things difficult for you, as long as you take good care of our little one. Li will do it."

Xiao Juan was stunned after hearing this. Xiao Li's mother was still thinking about herself and said: "I thought you were honest and obedient, so I fell in love with you today. But no.

Look at this face, with so much makeup and immodest clothes, how can you let others know that you are a good girl? Girls should dress cleanly and plainly. Wearing something so eye-catching would look inappropriate. "

Xiaojuan really couldn't stand listening anymore. She felt that Xiaoli's mother was too old-fashioned, so she quickly said: "Auntie, I understand everything you said. Why hasn't Xiao Li come yet? Today I made an appointment with him alone, but I didn't expect you to come too. Can you ask where Xiao Li is? "

"He won't come either. I think you have good conditions, but you need to learn how to be a good wife," Xiao Li's mother said with a smile, "My son came to see me on a blind date. There's no difference, whatever I like is fine. After all, Xiao Li is the only son of Lao Li's family, so he is naturally precious. Judging from your appearance, you are very lucky. You will definitely be able to have a son in the future so that Xiao Li can continue the family line. "Xiaojuan felt that it was really unacceptable, so she quickly found an excuse and left.

That night, Xiaojuan called Xiao Li: "Xiao Li, didn't you say you came to meet today? ? Why is your mother here? Xiao Li replied matter-of-factly: "It must be my mother who goes there." As long as my mother likes it, I will listen to my mother. "Xiaojuan simply couldn't understand Xiaoli's thoughts. Isn't this too dependent on family members? At this time, Xiaoli's mother suddenly spoke on the other end of the phone: "Xiaojuan? Don't worry about what Xiao Li thinks of you, he will definitely be willing to marry you. Look at what a great chat we had today. ”

“Auntie, I know we had a great time chatting today. But my blind date is Xiao Li, not you. After all, Xiao Li and I should be allowed to meet. "Xiao Li's mother quickly interrupted Xiaojuan at this time: "There is nothing to meet. I have the final say who my son wants to marry. I raised Xiao Li from childhood to adulthood. Don’t I know what kind of girl he likes? Besides, you are so virtuous, kind, well-behaved and sensible. You look like you are a woman, so you will definitely be a good wife. You are so similar to me when I was young. You were both so obedient. You will definitely be able to take good care of Xiao Li in the future! "

The more Xiaojuan listened, the more angry she became. She couldn't help but retaliate: "Auntie, I am nothing like you. You are imprisoned by feudal ideas, but I am not. I was very surprised when I saw you today. Who wants the mother to negotiate a blind date? I am willing to come because Auntie you like me very much. I didn't expect you to make so many requests today. Times have changed now, and it is no longer the same old thing. Since you think your type is good, then you might as well get married. Why are you looking for a daughter-in-law? "

When Xiao Li's mother heard this, she choked on the girl's words and stuttered. She hesitated on the phone and couldn't say anything, so she quickly hung up the phone. It turned out that Xiao Li was a A complete "Mama's Boy", Xiao Li's mother is too strong, and if she thinks it's good, then it's good. That's why there is this farce of the mother taking the place of her son on a blind date, but Xiao Juan herself can't accept it. Fortunately, this blind date experience made her wary and she will be able to avoid "mama's boys" in future blind dates.

Although Xiaojuan's experience sounds very exaggerated, there are indeed many things in life. Less "mom's babies". They are often very gentle and approachable on the surface, but on the inside they always need to rely on their parents and always need others to take care of them. As the name suggests, they are mother's sweet babies, but they are still afraid of being touched. , if you put it in your hands, you will be afraid of turning into giant babies.

Before getting married, you must think about whether you can accept someone who has a tendency to be a "mom's baby". His character will always be affected by the other person's family. Of course, it is recommended that families not be overly concerned or concerned about the development of their children. Xiaojuan encountered a more serious "Mama's baby", but there are also some invisible ones. Maybe these invisible "mother's babies" will not be noticed, but in the long run, they will have a bad impact on the children's lives.

In the long run, parents can control their children for a while, but they cannot control their children for the rest of their lives. . If parents always help worry and plan everything, then the children will not get exercise and it will be difficult for them to grow up. The most serious problem of "Mama's Baby" is not the excessive care of the parents, but the inability to be independent caused by excessive care. . How can people who cannot be independent live in society and start a family?

So I would like to advise you, if you always care about your children too much, please let them go. But they may be reliable colleagues and responsible partners in the eyes of others. They will always need to be independent, so please don't interfere too much in their lives.

Of course, if your significant other is a "mom's baby," then please consider whether the other half can be the partner you hope for. Sometimes changing the other person may require the joint efforts of the other person's family. If the other family thinks this is simply concern and love, then please think again. Don't let a married life that should be independent become a "mom's baby" called caring, but actually a life under remote control. Marriage is the birth of a new family, not a subsidiary family to the original family. Please make your married life a life of self-control.