6-month-old baby, why only recognize parents hug and others cry?

Young mother Zhao has been particularly upset recently. A 6-month-old baby always has to hold it by himself. As long as it is in the hands of others, even the grandmother of the child will cry. Although Zhao's mother takes care of her children wholeheartedly at present, her children are only close to herself, which often makes her feel overwhelmed and exhausted, and even more worried that her children will become withdrawn when they grow up.

In fact, it is normal for a baby to "recognize strangers". Parents should never think that there is something wrong with their children. Generally speaking, when most babies are 6-9 months old (some scholars think that they are 5-7 months old), they begin to have a "shy" reaction, showing fear, avoidance and even crying. Parents should not think that children will have an introverted tendency, which is just a normal phenomenon in the process of children's growth. "Knowing strangers" is a sign that children begin to establish contact with certain people.

"Recognizing strangers" is not a sudden occurrence, but a gradual process. Four-month-old babies also smile at strangers, but less than their mothers. At this time, they are not afraid of strangers. Babies of 4-5 months will even spend more time staring at strangers than acquaintances. At the age of 5-6 months, babies often have a serious expression when they meet strangers. From 6 months, the baby will feel distressed when he meets a stranger, and it will get worse day by day. It will last until 1 year old, and the emotion of "being shy with strangers" will gradually disappear.

Psychologists aslin and Hanlin found through experiments that the visual range of babies at birth is1/30-110 of ordinary adults, which is equivalent to the feeling of poor vision of adults without glasses. At the age of 6 months, the baby's vision almost reached 1.0, that is, it reached the vision level of adults.

Psychologist Bronson found through experiments that six or seven-month-old babies can already have a good perception of the combination of images they see, such as distinguishing different faces with different characteristics.

In one experiment, Rove Collier of Rutgers University trained two-month-old and six-month-old babies respectively. It was found that the 6-month-old baby had a certain memory ability.

Through the above three experimental conclusions, we can easily find that the 6-month-old baby has been able to distinguish the things around him and keep them in his own mind. Therefore, when a child is taken care of by his mother for a long time and suddenly changes caregivers, there will be "rejection psychology", followed by uncooperative behavior, usually manifested as fear, avoiding strangers and even crying. This is not only related to children's physical development, but also closely related to children's "attachment psychology". (The "attachment psychology" will be introduced in detail later, and interested friends can continue to pay attention. )

Compared with the problem of "fear of life", many parents think that "fear of life" is a good thing and an easy-going and docile performance, but in fact, the problem of "fear of life" may be more serious than "fear of life".

As we said above, children "recognize strangers" because of the perfect development of physiological mechanism and the need of emotional development. If the child "does not recognize strangers", it means that there is something wrong with the child.

Emotionally, it is mainly manifested as "attachment disorder", that is, abnormal attachment relationship, which will be discussed in detail in subsequent articles. I won't go into details here. We mainly look at physiological problems. If a child still "can't recognize strangers" at a certain age, it is likely that he is autistic or mentally retarded. Autistic children can't know the world normally and can't accurately distinguish between parents and strangers, so there is no such thing as "being afraid of life". For children with low intelligence level, because of the slow brain development, there will be a phenomenon of being late or even not "recognizing strangers". If parents are sure that they have taken care of their children wholeheartedly and ensured the time to get along with them, then if the children are not "shy" at the age of 8 months, they need to seek the help of doctors to confirm whether the children are autistic or mentally retarded.

Since it is so important to recognize strangers, parents need to pay attention to their children's emotional development at this stage. Then, how should parents deal with the phenomenon that children are "afraid of life"?

Cultivate children's attachment. Before the age of 2, babies will be very dependent on people who take care of themselves. Children at this stage will be more willing to trust those who provide them with food and clothing, which not only refers to food care, but also provides warmth and safety for children. Therefore, for newborns, parents should establish an irreplaceable trust relationship with their children, which makes it easier to guide them in the later stage.

Provide a safe place for the baby. As we said before, the 6-month-old baby has learned to "recognize strangers". Then, if the environment and people are familiar to children, children's fears can be appropriately alleviated. Therefore, if parents want to guide their children to "be strangers", it is best to choose a familiar and safe environment for their children, such as nursery and mother's arms. At the same time, strangers who come into contact with children should often appear in front of children and interact with them. Once the child has formed a memory of this person, the strangeness will be eliminated.

After taking the baby out for more than 6 months, the baby has begun to know the whole world. At this time, parents can take time to take their children out for a walk, broaden their horizons and let them contact more people and things. And the "fear of being unfamiliar" mentality will gradually disappear with the expansion of their horizons.