Why is it said that "men and women are not close to each other" can be flexible under special circumstances?

"Men and women don't give and receive" used to mean that men and women can't give and receive things with their own hands and touch each other. This is one of Confucian ethics. In history, the most famous argument about the adaptation of "men and women are not close" is the argument between Chun and Mencius. A man named Chun Qin Yu asked Mencius, "Since men and women give and receive, what should my sister-in-law do if she falls into the water and drowns?" Mencius replied that watching my sister-in-law drown is a jackal.

This shows that even Mencius, a representative of Confucianism, thinks that "men and women don't kiss" can be flexible under special circumstances, and it is normal etiquette for men and women to kiss. Sister-in-law fell into the water to save her, which is a stopgap measure and needs both. If you just rigidly follow a rule, you will end up with the same joke as carving a boat for a sword.

The reason why "men and women don't give and receive" can be flexible under special circumstances is because we all have our own moral standards in our hearts, which can judge when we should abide by our duties and when we should be flexible. All this is based on moral importance. Just like the debate between Chunyu Kun and Mencius, saving the eldest sister-in-law's life is obviously far greater than feudal etiquette.

In modern society, "men and women don't kiss" is no longer a feudal rule that binds us. However, there are still many laws and regulations that can be adapted under special circumstances. For example, the famous BMW man was killed, and special circumstances should be treated specially. In the end, it was found that the parties were justified in self-defense and acquitted. In our modern society, it is often the combination of legal standards and moral standards that can convince people. This is the real strict judgment.