Why don’t we, those born in the 1980s, get married?

Those of us who were born in the early 1980s should be considered to be quite old now. At this age before liberation, children would be all over the place. I see that many people of the same age around me are getting married and having children, but most of them are still hesitant. Well, they twitch at the mention of marriage! First, there is the issue of mentality. In the past, getting married was not a problem at all. Once you were old enough, you could just find someone who was similar to you. At that time, everyone was poor and simple, and no one cared about loving more or less. But now humans have evolved to take themselves more and more seriously. There is nothing about their character, family background, appearance, job, education, future, or even hobbies that they do not think about. They study it repeatedly, discuss it in depth, compare it carefully, and turn over and over again. ...It complicates a simple problem right before your eyes, and magnifies the problem between two people! As a result, the more I thought about it, the more confused I became, and the marriage would not be possible! Getting married and living together is a simple matter, but we made it more complicated than building a space shuttle. Chasing the reason, I think it is that our purpose of marriage is not pure anymore, and we always want to get some other added value through marriage. For example, a house, a car, and a good life in the future. It's a bit difficult when you want to get something for a lifetime through a piece of paper. Another mental problem is the fear of marriage. Our parents earnestly said that they wanted our lifelong happiness, but as soon as they heard the word "lifelong", they immediately thought of how old and vicissitudes they would look like 50 years later, as if "lifetime" would come to an end as soon as they got married. If this Marriage really determines "life", then our lives will be miserable in the future. Secondly, it is a human problem, which is also the key. People who want to marry don’t want to marry, and we don’t want to marry those who want to marry. People are all despicable animals. Although the things they don’t get may not be as good as they are, they still keep thinking about them, flattering them and putting them at the top of their hearts as their “favorite”. Not necessarily grateful. But if you turn a blind eye to the silent devotees around you, and support you and love you, you really treat yourself as an emperor. No matter how good the conditions of the other party are, you still feel that you have been wronged, and you are always not so willing to "marry low". In the final analysis , it would be unlucky for her to fall in love with you first. There are also some people who have neither anyone they want to marry nor anyone they want to marry. They are in a small corner where love is not in the service area and has been forgotten by love. Hey... If you can still resist the pressure of being single, then it is better to be inactive than in vain. , once this kind of people become rampant, they can no longer be contained. Finally, there is the matter of money. This problem is both big and small. The saying that poor and humble couples suffer from everything is certainly justified. Money is definitely the biggest obstacle faced by many poor and humble couples. Lang Youqing was interested in concubine, and he had the manpower in place, and his mentality was like that of a Young Pioneer. They were inseparable, and they wished they could build a nest to have children immediately, but where could they find such a nest? To put it bluntly, it is a house, and to put it more plainly, it is money. If you don’t have money, you don’t have a house. Even if you rent it, you still have to pay for it, right? They say marriage is the tomb of love. You can’t even enter the tomb without a house! Then there will be no burial place! A woman's so-called sense of security and belonging is a reliable shoulder and a warm embrace when she is in love, but as soon as she gets married, she immediately changes from romanticism to realism. The embrace that was once so warm and generous is no longer as good as steel. The cement one is somewhat solid. In the past, in rural areas, weddings could be held with a tile-roofed house; later, for my parents' generation, as long as they got married, they would be allocated a house with welfare benefits from the work unit; now, with the spread of universities and the people becoming rich, we can't even achieve "living and working in peace and contentment." I'm over 20 years old after graduating from college. It's good to have a stable employer with a stable income, but no matter how good the employer is, it won't give me a free house. How to get married without a house? If your parents have some money and buy you a house and a car, then tell me, fortune teller, how many college students have borrowed money to go to school and still want to buy a house after graduation? Let’s pay off the debt in 5 and 6 years first. Of course, there must be people who start from scratch and work hard to become successful, but when they start from scratch, how can you be sure whether they will become successful? If you have such a keen eye, just wait and read more novels and TV series about men who abandon their useless wives after they become successful.

When you propose, even if your whole body is made of copper, iron, plastic, or made of straw, a woman will no longer care about her romantic feelings, but you can't fool people like this when you get married, right? Do you have the heart to let the bride wear an aluminum alloy ring and walk into your new rented house with you? But I don’t know why this big piece of stone is so valuable. It will definitely make a self-reliant young man go bankrupt with one stone! So, the great dream of getting married was ruined by a few pieces of cement and stones. Of course, there are some people who have looked away and don't care about this. When it comes to marriage for four years, they don't buy a diamond ring, take wedding photos, or hold a banquet. It saves you trouble, but how many women want to save trouble too? Anyway, most women can't do it. Wedding photos must be taken, and they must be taken well and hard!