"Bride, it's just a drink. Don't spoil the fun on the big day." What do you think of the wedding?

I don't often talk about this topic, not because I have nothing to say, but because I have a bad temper when I talk about this topic. I have been a bridesmaid for four times myself, but I really haven't been disturbed, but my friend has had a similar experience. She is a distant cousin of the bride, and she was temporarily pulled over as a rescuer because she couldn't find anyone to be a bridesmaid at that time.

She was surrounded by a group of friends of the man's, and was asked to play intimate interactive games, but she refused directly. Just when the group was unhappy, her father and brother at the scene descended from heaven, and his brother rolled his sleeves, and his father gave the group a scolding. Think about it. What if she was alone? What if her father and brother weren't around? The consequences are really unimaginable.

In recent years, we have seen a decrease in marital quarrels, but sometimes, a piece of news will pop up suddenly, which will make you very angry. I remember last year, the incident of "picking the ashes" really shocked me and my family. If you have the heart to search online, those ugly pictures and ugly events will refresh your whole outlook.

Some people think that this is just a little game of getting married, just for fun. Girls should be generous, otherwise they can't afford to play. With all due respect, getting married is not a joke, but a bad offense. It is a carnival for men with poor character. More seriously, it is a crime. If you find it interesting, I can only say that you are really low-level. Treating women as toys in the game means disrespect for women's behavior, which is absolutely irrefutable.

In fact, it is not only the bridesmaids we are familiar with, but also the bride is likely to be the target in the wedding. Even if it's not bad demands and remarks, it's disgusting that those good people want to do things and don't respect people's attitude of just watching the fun. What is even more disgusting than these people is the attitude of the man's family, which is indistinguishable, ambiguous and paste-like.

I recently saw a girl sharing a story on the Internet. In fact, the story itself didn't arouse much reaction from me, but some remarks in the comments made my heart chill. After getting in touch with this girl, I compiled her story and published it with her consent.

This girl's name is Xiao Xiao (a pseudonym). She got married some time ago, and something happened at the wedding, which made her break off her marriage on the spot. The reason was a glass of wine. She posted on the internet, but the comments below were very angry. I can't stand reading a few articles, but there are some I have read that I can share with you.

Xiao Xiao was pregnant when she got married, so in the comments below, some people seized this point and began to stomp on it. "You are already a person of others, and you are still so melodramatic. You don't care about yourself and you have to be respected. It's funny." Xiao Xiao refused to get married because of a glass of wine, and some people said that she really couldn't afford to play.

"Marriage is a lively affair. People are just joking, and they didn't do anything. It's not a wedding at all. You are too tired to play. Whoever marries you is really unlucky." What happened on Xiao Xiao's wedding day? Can a glass of wine really make such a big mess? That's really something.

Xiao Xiao was pregnant when she got married, but it was not long before the wedding. She and her husband were engaged as early as six months ago, and the certificate has been obtained. This is the legal couple. The big gifts and small gifts have all passed, only one ceremony is needed, so the two of them naturally got together later. But Xiao Xiao actually paid great attention to it, but she was still accidentally pregnant.

when she knew it, she was totally ignorant. Some married friends around her were children who had been married for about six months. She never thought that if she was careful, there would still be accidents, and she would accept her fate. "At that time, I thought it might be destiny takes a hand's, so I was not too nervous or exclusive. I thought it was not the right time for this child to come, but from another angle, it was also the right time. After all, marrying her husband is a foregone conclusion, and then it comes. "

Xiao Xiao's husband's family was even more happy when they heard about it, saying that they were happy, but they were happy. Xiao Xiao's family just felt that when Xiao Xiao got married, the baby had not sat still. For the sake of her daughter, they were a little worried. Fortunately, Xiao Xiao went to have a check-up, and his body was very healthy and his fetal image was very good. As long as he didn't bump into it and suffered trauma, there was actually no problem, so the wedding was held as scheduled.

Being pregnant and getting married has little effect on Xiao Xiao. At best, she changed her wedding dress. Actually, she can't tell, but in order to take care of her pregnancy, she was not allowed to get up early, and the wedding reception time was changed a little later. On the day of the wedding, everything went smoothly. After the wedding reception, we arrived at the wedding reception and held the ceremony smoothly, but something went wrong when the bride and groom made a toast.

Xiao Xiao knows that there are some good things in her husband's family, especially that her husband has several friends, and she said early that she would make a fuss at the wedding. Xiao Xiao hates marriage troubles. She has seen them in front of her eyes in several weddings she has attended. Those guests, after drinking a little wine, completely changed themselves, as if they had let themselves go, dared to say anything and ask anything, and their dirty eyes reminded Xiao Xiao of a word, which was hypocritical.

Xiao Xiao said in advance, don't get married. At that time, Xiao Xiao's husband's family did not recognize it. They felt that on the big day, they should not make these demands to restrain the guests and let them make trouble. The fiercer the trouble, the more lively and festive the scene. Perhaps the older generation will have such an idea. Xiao Xiao thought so at that time, so she didn't think much about it, and still insisted on her own principles. No trouble is no trouble.

Later, my husband's family was reluctant to explain the situation euphemistically to their relatives, and their relatives and friends agreed. But on the wedding day, the situation is far from as easy as it is said. There are always some people who are willing to do things, and their ears are stuffed with donkey hair. Xiao Xiao, her husband and parents-in-law, proposed a toast to her husband's friend's table. Originally, Xiao Xiao replaced wine with tea and was about to drink when three or two people stopped her.

"Bride, you are not sincere in this toast. If you are sincere, you have to drink something real. You guys have been waiting for a long time for this glass of wine." The two next to him also joined in: "Yes, yes, sister-in-law, what you did is not authentic. Our brothers drink white, so you just have a drink."

Xiao Xiao is actually a little unhappy. In fact, these men probably know about her pregnancy. After all, the two families didn't hide it, but how can she be happy when she knows that she is pregnant and wants to let her drink? However, due to the scene, he said euphemistically, "Wine or tea is the most important thing. I drink tea and water, but it doesn't mean that my mind is not enough. You don't mean that your mind is enough when you drink. Who is more thoughtful and who is not?"

Just give me a break. I can't drink. I'm allergic to drinking. The bride has a red rash all over her face. Who wants to see it? " But the other party still insisted: "I just want to see it. I haven't seen a bride with a rash all over her face. How fresh!" Sister-in-law, don't make excuses. It's just a glass of wine. Drink it generously, not for you to drink a toast. Bride, it's just a drink. Don't spoil everyone's fun on the big day. "

The people next to her burst into laughter, and Xiao Xiao's ears were buzzing with shock. She was about to have an attack. These jokes were not funny at all in her eyes, and they were shameless. But she still has to pretend to be superficial, smile and keep a decent face, and win face for her husband's family. Xiaoxiao was motionless. She was ready to kill herself and not drink. No one could pour wine into her mouth, but at this time, her parents-in-law spoke.

"Xiao Xiao, why don't you just drink it? It's just a cup. It's okay." "Xiaoxiao, after all, it's a red-letter day, you see ..." Even Xiaoxiao's husband spoke: "Xiaoxiao ... just give me a little face and lick it."

Xiao Xiao is completely angry. She should say, "Good!" I really picked up the glass, or used a glass to pour a large glass for myself. The busybody next to me was still applauding: "Sister-in-law is really a heroine among women, so refreshing." But Xiao Xiao picked up the glass, threw it in the face of the busybody directly, and then announced: "Aunt won't marry!" "

She really won't marry, even if her husband's family tries to persuade and apologize later, it won't help. Return the bride price and sue for divorce. Her attitude is very firm. "Your family doesn't respect me or value me. I'm still pregnant. You don't help me. Instead, for the sake of face, you want me to drink. I really have nothing to say. I can only say that I see through you. It's even more painful for your family to get married."

Xiao Xiao's parents, though old-fashioned, love their daughter more, and don't join others in persuading her: "As long as you think it over and don't regret it, your parents will support you." Xiao Xiao later divorced, and the children naturally couldn't stay. Many people didn't understand Xiao Xiao's behavior and didn't think those jokes at the wedding should be taken seriously.

Those good people, they always have a theory of moral kidnapping. Just like those Xiao Xiao met, they wanted to propose a toast with Xiao Xiao, who was pregnant. Xiao Xiao refused, so they threatened them with the reason of not disappointing the good day.

As Xiao Xiao responded, this is simply "a thief catches a thief". Obviously, it's these people with bad intentions who are really disappointed, but instead they blame the innocent parties, just to make some simple, inexperienced girls feel guilty and be at their mercy. But what about the man's house? Instead, the man's family felt that they were indefensible, and really thought and acted according to these people's ideas, to persuade Xiao Xiao, for the overall situation and for the sake of the scene.

to put it mildly, they are soft-hearted and face-saving, but they are "accomplices" if they don't say well. Further, as Xiao Xiao said, she saw that her husband's family didn't respect and value her, so even if she was pregnant, even if she was married, she wouldn't marry. Some people may think that Xiao Xiao has gone too far, which will have a very bad influence on her, and she will regret it later. I would like to praise Xiao Xiao. I don't think she has gone too far. What she did was not rash, but for herself.

I'm pregnant, even if I don't think about her, I should think about my baby. But the man's family only cares about looking good, asking her to be patient and asking her to meet each other's requirements. Who in a normal family would do that? I have heard similar stories. My mother-in-law accidentally poured the wrong wine at the wedding scene, which was tasted by her pregnant daughter-in-law and severely scolded by her father-in-law and husband. This is the normal performance.

If Xiao Xiao really marries such a family, she may wait for more grievances from her in the future, and stop the loss in time. What's wrong? It is inevitable that there will be losses, which will also minimize the harm, and the inevitable harm can only be inevitable. I would think that when such a thing happens, people's focus is always on the woman. Shouldn't the man and good relatives and friends be more worthy of attention?

It's not like the girl suddenly lost her mind and stopped marrying. When something happened that she couldn't stand, she had to choose the next policy. Are women really free? I think when public opinion will stop demanding women so harshly may be the real freedom.