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Who should pay for the interview in the coffee shop?

Female HR interviews MBA graduates from prestigious schools. After the interview, HR sends a message to Weibo. Candidates should not pay the bill in a hurry. Boys also complain about improper HR arrangements. Cudgel believes that the interview in the coffee shop is really not formal enough, and who pays the bill is the basic rule. However, it is natural for boys to be more active and elegant in the workplace. Many netizens think that boys have no manners, which reflects many white-collar workers' basic understanding of workplace etiquette.

An interview in Weibo in the past two days has caused a lot of discussion. Cudgel noticed that some parameters in the event may be misleading, so the elements of the event were improved and restored as follows:

1, time: working day;

2. Location: A coffee shop;

3. Person: Party A is from the Human Resources Department of the recruiting unit, and Party B is the candidate;

4. Event: Party A interviewed Party B, and then complained in Weibo that Party B was not sensible and was not in a hurry to pay the bill; Party B also complained on Weibo that the interview place arranged by Party A was improper (and revealed that he ordered cheap lemonade, which may be free, but the other party ordered a cup of coffee for twenty or thirty dollars), and it was unreasonable to pay the bill himself.

As you know, in the original incident, Party A was a girl and Party B was a boy. Cudgel observed that many people were deflected to the discussion of "gentlemanly manners" because of the gender of the parties involved in the dispute over this incident. Party B graduated from a famous male MBA school, and even a blogger (female) said, "I can't even afford an MBA. How about buying me a cup of coffee when I interview you? "

Cudgel shook his head while watching. This incident and the discussion about it reflect the basic understanding of workplace etiquette of some white-collar workers in first-and second-tier cities in China.

As you know, the same thing has gone through, the parameters have changed, and the nature has changed. For example, for this event, the variable parameters are:

1. Time can be changed from working hours on weekdays to non-working hours on weekdays or even non-working days;

2. The location has changed from a coffee shop in a public place to a more formal workplace or a more private teahouse.

3. If Party B is still a candidate, Party A can become a headhunter, and the two sexes can have different permutations and combinations. If you add the personal charm of looks, temperament and speech, there will be more permutations and combinations;

4. Meeting can be the first round of interview, the nth round of gossip, or even the first blind date.

For the workplace etiquette reflected in this incident, Cudgel thinks:

1, things at work should be discussed during working hours and workplace;

2. Job interviews, especially when the two sides meet for the first time, should not be arranged in public places;

3. If you have interviewed many times before, in other words, the two sides who meet are not complete strangers, it is acceptable to meet in public;

4. According to the principle that the guest is the host, the examinee is the guest and the interviewer is the host, the latter will determine the time and place of the interview;

The interviewer suggested meeting in the coffee shop. Any country's workplace etiquette, if not the default, will think that the interviewer will pay the bill, which has nothing to do with the gender of both parties. What's more, the inviter can say "I'll buy you a cup of coffee and we'll talk" in advance;

6. In this case, if the interviewer is a girl and the applicant is a boy, it is very appropriate for the boy to help open the door, pull the chair and hang up the coat after meeting, and show gentlemanly manners in time (but in case the other person is a feminist, you may be self-defeating);

7. No matter whether the interview process is pleasant or not, whether the result is satisfactory or not, and whether you are in a mood or not, don't put your work in Weibo. This is privacy, and call yourself stupid or not.

Cudgel received special training in workplace etiquette early in his career. It seems that there are not many companies offering this kind of training now. For a person with a good family education like Zajia, a lot of workplace etiquette is nothing more than summing up the common sense and behavior norms of parents and family members, and involves some international etiquette. Mainly considering working in multinational companies, colleagues have different backgrounds, beliefs and taboos. In addition, working with more senior colleagues, I also learned a lot of workplace etiquette from them, many of which are tiny details.

For example, go to the customer's office for a meeting:

1, arrive early;

2. Choose the position where the customer will see you as soon as he enters the door, and stand for a while;

Don't sit down yet, please sit down when the host comes in.

4. It's best to sit in front of the light so that customers can see your face clearly;

5. If the projector is not enough for business presentation and it is necessary to use conference room facilities such as whiteboard, please get the customer's consent first.

Cudgel's tutor once gave Cudgel a lesson. The topic is "How to establish your absolute authority on the topic discussed that day in the client's meeting room in ten minutes". The first is "impeccable workplace etiquette".

After working for so many years, cudgel thinks the rudest workplace behavior is probably like this:

1, late;

2. When shaking hands, the eyes are free and only give four fingers, which is soft and weak;

3. The mobile phone is not silent during the meeting, and some even answer the phone from time to time;

4. Interrupt others for no reason and don't apologize.

Fortunately, in recent years, with the deepening of my family's qualifications, I have rarely dealt with professionals of this level. In case of meeting, I have enough confidence to show that there is no pressure. If I don't do this business, I will laugh at the other party as a terrapin.

Many years ago, Cudgel took two colleagues to see a client. They sat around the house, staggered during the meeting, without a straight shape. During the break, Cudgel dragged the couple to an empty corner and denounced this rude behavior. The two men argued, "Didn't you see it? There is a girl sitting on the other side of the customer's seat. She has a big chest and a few buttons on her shirt. She kept rocking and smiling at us. Pretending not to see it really doesn't work! "

Cudgel said, "I've seen it for a long time. I sat quietly on the water. In fact, the abdomen secretly stored a mouthful of true qi. In case her bullet comes out, I can easily avoid it with the efforts of the iron bridge. "

He took a sip of his cigarette and said simply, "This is the difference between a master and a low hand."

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