Why do many people say that "a good man has no good wife"?

Presumably heroes don't have good wives. Everyone has heard of the saying that Lai Han married Hua Zhi, and many people think there is some truth. However, the origin of this sentence cannot be verified, and most of them are folk sayings circulating in various places, with similar versions and the same meaning. At present, many people ask whether this sentence is reasonable. Generally speaking, this sentence is a bit biased, but it also reflects the social reality to some extent. Now let's analyze it.

A good man has no good wife, and the sentence that Lai Han marries a flower branch is more often a bit sour if he can't eat grapes, and the export is slowly vinegar. Ming metabolism's "lost topic" says that idiots prefer to ride good horses, and smart wives often sleep with my husband. There are many unfair things in the world, and it is impossible to make it a day. This poem is similar to this sentence, and both express dissatisfaction with society to a certain extent, so personally, the person who said this sentence first must be an unhappy person. However, although this sentence is a bit extreme, it also has a correct place. To see the correctness of this sentence, we must first jump out of the assertion that we are heroes, and then we can see the truth of the matter.

People tend to be biased towards themselves in cognition, so many times they feel that their actions are right and that they are the best in some aspects. So basically, men have a kind of knowledge that they think they are a good man and should attract the attention of the opposite sex, while girls despise themselves, either blindly, too realistic and too vain, so a man who thinks he is a hero will take it to heart if he can't find a good wife.

From the social point of view, a recognized good man must meet the basic social moral standards. This standard is not suitable for individuals, so girls often say that you are a good person, but we are not suitable. Lai Han, a hero evaluated in social values, is considered from economic conditions, knowledge education, personality hobbies and so on. These things can ensure that they make more contributions to a family or have more power to society, but for girls, if such people can't meet their own needs, then this hero is useless. The difference between social concept and personal concept has caused the contradiction of the matter itself.

Heroes who conform to social values will pay special attention to many aspects in order to maintain their image, dare not act spontaneously, and pursue girls mostly conservatively. Laihan people themselves are not recognized by social values. After experiencing too much contempt, their personal psychological quality will be stronger. In order to pursue the girl you like, you often do whatever it takes, you can boldly express your feelings regardless of your face, and you can use unconventional means to tie and fight. In women's psychology, the latter is often considered more useful, so in the competition of love, heroes are often at a disadvantage.

Men, for various reasons, don't express their inner feelings too much, so it's ok to find a similar girl. They are more rational, care about whether their wives can give them more help, and are not so impulsive in feelings, so they think too much, so most men don't have beautiful wives, but there are also some love rat who can hug each other around. Heroes don't have good wives, and Lai Han marries Hua Zhi, which is a manifestation of this phenomenon, but you don't need to care too much. Many things let nature take its course. It is good to have someone who loves you, so don't expect it.