Your daughter-in-law has been married for three years and has not given birth to a baby yet. Is there anything wrong with her health?

As soon as Laba arrived, the New Year came. After Laba, the pace of the New Year is getting closer and closer to us. Preparing for the Spring Festival and family reunion is the wish of most people who work outside the home. With money and no money, going home for the New Year has long been a slogan.

Reunion with relatives, a good meal and watching the Spring Festival Gala together are our expectations for the New Year. The New Year brings us joy and sorrow.

If you can't make money, people feel ashamed to go home and can't explain to their loved ones; Still single, people feel that they can't go home, fearing that they can't cope with relatives' various ways of urging marriage and blind date arrangements.

In fact, even if you have already taken off the bill, those nosy relatives will not let you go easily. Those who are not married are required to get married, and those who have never had children are required to have a second child.

Although most people will feel unhappy when they meet such people who like to urge marriage, they will hide their unhappiness in their hearts and say a few polite words for the sake of face and the relationship between them. Few people will forget it directly.

Wang Jie's mother-in-law gave a domineering answer to the relatives who gave birth to the baby, which made her daughter-in-law so grateful that she decided to treat her as her own mother.

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Before getting married, Wang Jie and her parents were most worried that Wang Jie would encounter a sharp contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law after getting married, because she had a strong mother-in-law.

"The money earned by my father-in-law and my husband has always been managed by my mother-in-law; What happens at home, such as personnel relations, buying furniture, borrowing money or not, is the mother-in-law's decision; My mother-in-law gave my husband advice on what major to choose in college, and my husband didn't like it or agree. He told me that this was the first time he didn't listen to his mother. "

Aunt Yao, Wang Jie's mother-in-law, is uncompromising and methodical at home. When Wang Jie came to the door, she saw that the house was clean, everything was in a fixed position, there was a label under it, and the trash can was covered with plastic bags.

When Wang Jie's mother-in-law made a request, neither her husband nor her son would refute it, which made Wang Jie more and more worried.

"What if my mother-in-law is still so strong after we get married and cares about everything? I can't get through this life?"

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Fortunately, Aunt Yao is not an unreasonable mother-in-law.

Before getting married, Aunt Yao took out a sum of money and bought a house for the young couple with a down payment, so that they could live separately. On the second day of marriage, Aunt Yao took out her son's salary card and gave it to the daughter-in-law in charge of management. Wang Jie, when they meet something, they ask Aunt Yao. Aunt Yao will say to her son, "You are both married. You have to make up your own mind about your own affairs, and the couple will discuss it themselves. "

I don't live together, I have a sense of distance, and there is little contradiction with Aunt Yao's mother-in-law, but there is little friction.

"She came to see us, and when we slept in, she would say a few words; When I see a little mess at home, I will clean up and nag; When you see me throwing things casually, you will also nag. If she just said a few words, I would listen honestly; If she keeps nagging, my husband will help me solve it. "

03.

Wang Jie got married at the age of 23, and soon after graduation.

Considering their youth and the pressure of mortgage, Wang Jie and her husband reached an agreement and decided not to have children for the time being so as to concentrate on her career first.

In the three years after their marriage, the couple met a rare opportunity for promotion. They never intended to have children in order to work. In this regard, Aunt Yao also agreed: "Don't worry, just pay attention to the time. It is also good to make money first and then raise children. "

Wang Jie resentfully complained to me: "You said that my mother-in-law was in no hurry. Why are those relatives in a hurry? " I'm really full. "

A week ago, a cousin of Wang Jie's husband died unexpectedly, and Wang Jie followed her husband and mother-in-law back to her hometown to attend the funeral.

When relatives get together, they will naturally chat together. Asking the younger generation is also the favorite thing parents do.

Knowing that Wang Jie had been married for three years and had no children, other relatives talked about it one after another. Some even joked with Aunt Yao directly: "I'm not saying, Sister Yao, is it a problem for your daughter-in-law to get married for three years?" You should also eat more snacks and let the couple check it out. Don't delay the big event. "

How can Wang Can Jay bear to hear others insult himself so much? However, as a junior, it seems impolite to go straight back. Just when she was angry, Aunt Yao asked her to be her own mother: "It's none of your business?"

Wang Jie described the atmosphere to me like this: "My mother-in-law's voice was very loud, and everyone around her heard it clearly. It was quiet in an instant, and everyone else kept silent. The atmosphere is too depressing. "

Aunt Yao also said something else: "Whether my daughter-in-law can give birth or not, and whether I can have grandchildren is my family's business, and it is not for outsiders to tell me what to do. Making fun of my wife just doesn't respect me. "

People around quickly put in a good word to calm Aunt Yao's mood, and this matter slowly subsided. After that, other relatives around Wang Jie stopped asking questions.

"It is my blessing to meet such a mother-in-law who will protect her daughter-in-law in front of outsiders."

04.

I like to make jokes about other people's private affairs, under the banner of caring for others, in fact, just to satisfy my own entertainment by watching other people's jokes, which is a common fault of many people.

When they are joking, they just want to see other people's jokes, but they don't take into account the embarrassment and shame of that person when they are joking, nor do they take into account their own situation, let alone the impact such jokes will have on others. Something really went wrong. At best, they just said, "I'm kidding. Why are you so nervous and stingy? " They even think it's your problem.

It is ok to joke, but you must be measured when joking, pay attention to the occasion, and don't poke other people's scars.

If you meet someone who openly jokes but doesn't respect you at all, you must dare to go back. The more silent you are, the stronger their arrogance is; The more you hate it, the less they dare to talk to you.