My 40-year-old aunt was cheated of her feelings and money by the soft rice man, and she also degenerated into nothing. what do you think?

I hardly recognized the young Nana when I met her at the subway station. The little girl, who was lively and cheerful and liked to dress up, is now pale and empty-eyed, as if she had been stripped of her bones and muscles, and the whole person is wrong.

I asked Nana carefully what happened and whether she needed help. The little girl only said "lovelorn", and her eyes turned red, and she bowed her head and cried, which made me particularly uncomfortable.

Afterwards, I learned from a classmate. Nana just broke up with a man who has two feet on both sides a while ago. Technically, he dumped her.

Without knowing it, Nana contacted Li Sheng, the purchasing director who was engaged in purchasing in her hometown. At first, Nana felt that Li Sheng was handsome and had strong working ability, and she couldn't help admiring him.

However, after real cohabitation, Nana discovered that Li Sheng was very masculine, and she never liked Nana's countryside, went to a poor university, and spoke as cynically as possible.

Originally, Nana thought that if it was really inappropriate, she would break up. But Li Sheng sneered at Nana's pregnancy and miscarriage. She was not a good woman for a long time. It is a compliment to show that he loves Nana.

After a long time, Nana felt particularly inferior and always felt inferior. Especially after Li Sheng broke up, Nana lost confidence in her appearance, education, career and everything, and almost completely denied herself.

02

Don't think that Nana is the only one who has never seen the world. She is simple and stupid, easy to be brainwashed and controlled by her mind.

Those strong women who have traveled all over the country, married and had children, and worked hard in shopping malls for many years can't escape this bad luck.

I have an aunt in my family. In her forties, she was already a famous "little rich woman" in the county. RV, savings, tickets, son, everything.

Later, her husband died in an accident. She met a salesman who was also widowed at a business banquet.

There is nothing special about that salesman. He looks average, has average eloquence and financial strength, and is not at the same level as his aunt.

But as a result, the salesman, while spending menstruation's money, disliked menstruation's money for being unclean and improper. He is not small, especially well-deserved abandon menstruation is old. What is even more surprising is that he climbed up through his aunt's strength and accused her of being too capable and not a good woman.

We watched my aunt change from high-spirited to timid, and watched her change from queen to maid, but there was nothing we could do. Because it is not difficult to save a person from the jaws of death, I am afraid that she will be poisoned and not know it. If she refuses to accept the antidote, it will be in big trouble.

03

When I was young, I also met love rat, with a pitiful face. I wanted to capture and suppress girls with my mouth open.

Not long after graduation, I joined a small foreign company. Our company has a small local supervisor who is divorced and has a child. He especially likes to make fun of us young employees who have just entered the company.

At that time, I was shy and gentle. The divorced male supervisor sees that I don't have a boyfriend and I'm from other places. I like to brush every meal.

Say I want a chest without a chest and a butt without a butt. I don't even have a man who wants me. I might as well follow him as a stepmother.

Because in the same company, I am a newcomer. There seems to be no better way than leaving your job.

Later, at the behest of a sister, I made a fierce attack. The male supervisor never bothered me again, and even saw me take the initiative to detour.

I remember very clearly that when the male supervisor once again said that I had no chest or ass, I just closed my eyes and said loudly that he looked like a poor man, and the reason for his divorce was probably not a good person, even his wife could not handle it.

Another time, he made a fool of himself in the office, saying that he was still chatting with me about life late at night. I told him that if he had the money and ability, 654.38+00,000 yuan could stay in front of me, and then I could talk to you about strangers.

To tell the truth, as an unmarried girl at that time, saying such a heavy thing left a bad impression on my colleagues in the office. But today, even I admire myself. I am so fierce, tenacious, ignorant and fearless.

04

Now I am the mother of two children. In particular, there is a girl studying at home, which makes me even more surprised and scared. Girls are soft-hearted, easy to be bullied and even controlled by people's thoughts. Because I really can't guarantee that she will meet these demons who kill people without seeing blood in the future.

But there are a few points, I am very clear:

(1) Character is above everything else.

In addition to paying attention to the child's grades, I am more concerned about whether his or her three views are correct enough and whether his or her heart is firm enough.

The child is a blank sheet of paper. If we protect him too well, only let them see the beauty, not the ugliness, only let them hear praise and praise, and let them not know criticism, slander, abuse, insult and rumors, they will not know that the world is sinister, they will not know how to find the right solution when they encounter problems, and they will not understand which is truth and which is sweet poison.

The first step I want to do is to let them identify "poison" and not be "poisoned" easily.

(2) Fight poison with poison.

People in my hometown educate children to say, "People beat you for no reason. You would rather beat others to the hospital and I will pay for it than others beat you to the hospital to compensate us." . Although this statement is not completely correct, it is also reasonable.

Some men's selfishness and malice are obvious at a glance, but it is easy to identify. I'm afraid that some people love you and can't live without your name, but they suppress you everywhere, hurt you, make you feel particularly uncomfortable and even lose confidence in life. This is the scariest thing.

To tell the truth, you should be tough when this happens, and you should go back as he treats you. If he dares to scold you once, you have to scold him mercilessly and kill him down a peg or two.

(3) Thirty-six plans, walking is the best policy.

In fact, this is the best and most convenient way to get to know love rat. As the saying goes, no common cause, no common goal, no provocation, you can always afford to hide.

The world of love should be that when we meet you, we all become better ourselves. If the people we meet make us uncomfortable, instead of making us better, they make us worse and worse, then we must be vigilant and stay away from this toxic feeling.