How to properly handle relationships with colleagues

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It is easiest for colleagues to form interest relationships. If some small things cannot be treated correctly, gaps will easily form. In daily interactions, we might as well pay attention to several aspects to establish a harmonious relationship with colleagues.

Focus on the overall situation, make more contributions and less troubles

If you do not point out the shortcomings of your colleagues face to face on weekdays, it will be easy to criticize and criticize your colleagues when you come into contact with people from other units. Finding faults or even malicious attacks will affect the external image of colleagues. In the long run, it will also be detrimental to one's own image. When colleagues come together due to working relationships, they must have a collective consciousness, focus on the overall situation, and form a community of interests. Especially when in contact with people from outside the unit, we must form the concept of "team image", make up for more and undermine others less, and do not harm the collective interests for our own small gain.

When dealing with differences, we must agree on common ground while reserving minor differences

Due to differences in experiences, positions, etc., colleagues often have different views on the same issue, causing some disputes. It's easy to hurt your temper if you're not careful. Therefore, when you have differences of opinion with colleagues, first, do not argue excessively. Objectively, it takes a process for people to accept new ideas. Subjectively, it is often accompanied by the mentality of "saving face" and "being competitive". It is difficult for anyone to convince anyone. At this time, if you argue too much, it will easily intensify the conflict. And it affects unity; secondly, don’t blindly “value peace.” Even when it comes to matters of principle, they do not insist or argue. Instead, they go with the flow and deliberately cover up contradictions. When facing problems, especially when disagreements arise, we should strive to find common ground and strive to achieve common ground while reserving minor differences. When you really can't agree, you might as well treat it coldly and say "I can't accept your point of view, I reserve my opinion", so as to dilute the argument without losing your own position.

When dealing with promotion and utilitarianism, keep a normal mind and don't be jealous.

Many colleagues are usually in harmony, but when encountering a conflict of interests, they treat it as "profit" and refuse to give in. They may slander each other behind their backs, or they may become jealous and make sarcastic remarks. This is neither fair nor fair, and is detrimental to both yourself and others. Therefore, you must always maintain a normal mind when dealing with promotion and utilitarianism.

Keep an appropriate distance when interacting with colleagues and superiors

In a unit, if several people interact too frequently, it is easy to form a superficial clique, which can easily cause suspicion among other colleagues. Psychologically, people have the idea of ??"are they talking about other people's rights and wrongs again?" Therefore, when interacting with bosses and colleagues, keep an appropriate distance and avoid forming a clique.

When conflicts occur, be tolerant and learn to apologize.

There are often bumps and bruises between colleagues. If not handled promptly and properly, major conflicts will form. As the saying goes, it is better to dissolve enemies than to make enemies. When you have conflicts with colleagues, you must take the initiative to tolerate them, look for the reasons within yourself, and put yourself in others' shoes to avoid intensification of conflicts. If a conflict has arisen and you are indeed wrong, you should put down your dignity, learn to apologize, and move people with sincerity. Take a step back and the world is vast. If one party takes the initiative to break the deadlock, you will find that there is no big barrier between them.

Competition in modern society is becoming increasingly fierce, and companies are the battlefield of competition. There are minefields on this battlefield. But young people who have just entered the company know nothing about these minefields, and they may be injured if they are not careful.

Minefield 1: Don’t regard yourself as an expert

Colleagues in the company have various professional expertise. Even if what they learn happens to be an unpopular one, don’t regard yourself as an expert because of this. .

There is an example: In the management of a large company, the use of microcomputers is very common. Later, the unit recruited a computer professional A in order to access the local area network. A is a computer major, and he often takes the initiative to teach others how to use computers.

Although other people in the company are not professionals, they have used computers for many years and have a certain foundation. Therefore, when A always takes the initiative to help colleagues solve problems no matter how big or small, it will inevitably arouse the resentment of some colleagues. . In the end, although A was very good at business, he failed to pass the probation period.

The reason is that A unintentionally regarded himself as a capable person who can conquer the world, underestimated the abilities of others, hurt the self-esteem of others, and thus lost a good basis for public evaluation. Be careful to use your talents when others need help.

Mindfield 2: Don’t treat colleagues of the opposite sex only as colleagues

Having been working in the company for a long time, I speak very casually, so I often hurt colleagues of the opposite sex unintentionally.

It is normal to occasionally talk about light topics in the company, but you must not get carried away. For example, when having a meal with colleagues, everyone will talk about some "meat-based" jokes when they are in the mood, but some people ignore the existence of the opposite sex, making these jokes unrestrained or even obscene, which will make the opposite sex present feel disgusted. At this point, you should realize that you have hurt someone else.

Minefield Three: Do not have physical contact with same-sex colleagues

In a company, it is normal for colleagues to have close relationships. But we sometimes encounter such a situation: in some informal situations, some colleagues will hook up with you or even touch you inadvertently. Many men hate this kind of behavior. Because these actions will give people a very ambiguous hint, which is embarrassing.

Many people hate this issue but cannot say it out loud. However, over time, people who behave in this frivolous manner will be alienated by others.

Minefield 4: Don’t just change into a suit but no tie.

Company employees must pay attention to their external image. The author once encountered such a thing: there was a person who was very good at work and very talented. Everyone spoke well of him, but he was usually informal and dressed casually. When the HR department went to investigate, many people talked about his shortcomings of not paying attention to image while talking about his strengths and achievements. Everyone's opinions were so consistent that his original small shortcoming became a big shortcoming, which affected his promotion. Therefore, it is important to maintain a clean and tidy image in the company. For this reason, you need to pay more attention to small details, such as paying attention to your tie when changing your suit, and don't focus on your parents' shortcomings in your conversation.

Leadership 5: Don’t regard yourself as the spiritual leader of others

There are often spiritual leaders among some groups of people, but as a newcomer, you should remember: Never try to take on the responsibility Similar roles.

The basis of the relationship between colleagues in the company is the working relationship. When everyone is engaged in the same kind of work or working for the same goal, there will often be some work conflicts. The root causes of such conflicts are mostly caused by differences in concepts and behaviors. This kind of difference can be seen everywhere. To resolve the conflicts caused by it, communication must be done from a work perspective. If you try to deal with these problems from the position of a spiritual leader, it will often amplify and complicate the problem, and even cause resistance among colleagues, thereby affecting the relationship between colleagues.

Minefield 6: Don’t bring your emotions to the company

Everyone has different emotions every day. If you bring these emotions to the company, you will undoubtedly reveal a lot of information to your colleagues. . These uncertain information sometimes arouse others' curiosity and speculation, and even draw others' attention to your privacy. In addition, your negative emotions will also have psychological implications for other colleagues, leading the entire company into a dull atmosphere. This atmosphere, in turn, may exacerbate your existing negative emotions.

So, before going to work, you must first release your emotional burden. If you are a supervisor or backbone, creating a good working atmosphere is the guarantee for everyone to make progress together. Of course, don't simply suppress your emotions. You might as well let them go for a while or use your spare time to find someone to talk to to buffer them.

Minefield 7: Don’t use the word “definitely not possible” lightly

In the company, the phrase “definitely not possible” is perhaps the most annoying. Because when a colleague asks you about a problem, he is asking for help or psychological support, and in his heart he hopes that this matter "can work." At this point, if you categorically deny him, you will inadvertently hurt him.

Some questions, no matter whether they are right or not, should be respected by the person asking the question. Therefore, no matter what questions your colleagues raise, you should not categorically deny them, but patiently express your views.

Minefield 8: Don’t disobey your boss’s orders

First of all, if you disobey your boss’s wishes, it must be because there is a problem at work, but confrontation may cause you to lose the opportunity to communicate with your boss. . Failure to communicate means the problem will never be satisfactorily resolved. Secondly, if you choose to confront your boss, it means that you are no longer responsible for your boss.

In many cases, if you cannot be responsible for your boss, you cannot be responsible for your department, although sometimes you are right. Your responsibility is to share your boss's responsibilities, not to be responsible to his boss for your boss.

So, you should try your best to implement your boss's decision. If you think there is a problem, don't fight, but communicate, so that the problem can be solved.

Line Area 9: Don’t join the “small circle”

In companies, various circles sometimes appear, and people in the circles are often proud of them, but this is Very dangerous. If a circle is formed, people in the circle will inevitably have a repulsive mentality towards outsiders. The first psychological reaction caused by this repulsive mentality among colleagues is resentment. No one will accept your rejection from the heart. Therefore, when you gain benefits within the circle, you also alienate more colleagues outside the circle, which will eventually create confrontation among colleagues and destroy the company's working atmosphere.

Mindfield 10: Don’t take the initiative to “care about other people’s work”

Although everyone is in the same company, each has its own scope of responsibilities. Clarity of rights and responsibilities is a requirement of many supervisors for their subordinates, but in reality many people love to "care" about other people's work involuntarily after work. Although you may be well-intentioned, while you "care" about other people's work, you often have to express your own views. This view may not be fully accepted by your colleagues, and sometimes it may affect your colleagues' thinking.

So, try not to take the initiative to "care" about other people's work. Even if you have good suggestions, you should pay attention to methods and find a way that he can accept.