A joke from my best friend ruined my relationship for seven years. Should men take a premarital test?

A joke from my best friend ruined my relationship for seven years! Wan Mei, 32, cried and said this to me.

Wan Mei said that although it was painful to lose her relationship for seven years, she didn't regret it at all. She felt that she was right. Wan Mei said that if her boyfriend loves himself very much, he will never break up because of this trivial matter and directly sever his seven-year relationship.

Wan Mei said that the thing is, she and her boyfriend are college classmates, and they entered the society together from school. They fell in love for seven years and even got married, and invitations were sent out. But I don't know, one month before marriage, their relationship came to an end because of a joke from their best friend, and they broke up directly.

Wan Mei said that she is a particularly insecure woman, so she often tests her boyfriend's loyalty in various ways. It is precisely because of the test results that she has strengthened her determination to marry him.

Because she is getting married, Wanmei held a girlfriend party one month before the wedding to discuss the wedding process and so on. That day, my best friend joked with Wan Mei: "You will get married in another month. Do you really trust to marry him? " Finally, why not give him another premarital examination? "

After listening to her best friend's words, Wanmei also felt reasonable, so she asked a friend of her best friend to test her boyfriend. The friend of her best friend's boyfriend has never seen her before, and she is particularly good-looking. In fact, Wan Mei was a little worried about this decision at first, because she was afraid that her boyfriend really couldn't stand the temptation.

In the end, Wan Mei breathed a sigh of relief, because in the face of that woman's pursuit, her boyfriend resolutely refused and indicated that she was going to get married soon, which also completely relieved Wan Mei. So Wan Mei told her boyfriend about it, saying that it was a test of girlfriends, and he really passed her test. Wan Mei thought that her boyfriend would be very happy to hear this, but in fact, the boyfriend who heard her words was silent for a while, and then broke up with Wan Mei directly. Without any explanation or reason, she was blacked out directly.

Wan Mei said that she was very angry because of this incident. Later, she went straight to the door and had a lot of quarrels with her boyfriend. But in the end, their feelings disappeared and they broke up directly. Therefore, she is in great pain. Her best friend told her, "This is a love rat. Maybe he wanted to break up long ago, just looking for reasons. " . Because when you love, there is no excuse, but there are 10 thousand reasons not to love the truth.

Because of this, Wan Mei often cries to people, and the last test before marriage ruined my feelings for seven years.

Wan Mei said that she didn't regret the last exam, because there was nothing wrong with her, but her boyfriend didn't love her so much. Wan Mei said to me more than once: If he really loves me, then he won't care, so there is nothing wrong with her.

Bian Xiao has something to say:

Maybe Wan Mei thinks she is right, but in my opinion, Wan Mei is wrong and very wrong. Because she is too selfish, she can only consider her own feelings and never consider her boyfriend's feelings.

As the saying goes, boyfriends say that there is a reason to break up with Wanmei. Because he loves Wan Mei too much, he can't accept Wan Mei's repeated doubts and temptations. Because he exchanged all his sincerity for the distrust of the other party, he felt that it was not worth it, so he chose to break up.

For this, Wanmei's boyfriend is actually very painful, because seven years of feelings are not as good as girlfriends. You think he's going to go with Wan Mei all his life?

I always say that love can't stand the test. Don't test each other's loyalty, because you will regret it no matter what the result is.

Because when you test the infidelity of the other party, you will feel sad and affect your feelings. When you test each other's loyalty, you will hurt each other and even make them lose trust in you, and feelings will inevitably go wrong.

The foundation of a happy marriage must be trust. If there is no trust, then feelings are doomed to have no result.

In reality, there are many women like Wan Mei. They are always testing men and increasing their sense of security. They always think this is the safest way, but they don't know that under their repeated tests, men's hearts are getting farther and farther away, because we can't always trust a person who doesn't trust ourselves at all.

A woman should never say, "If a man loves me, he won't care." . Because men who really don't care about women's temptation don't love you at all, they are really playing, so no matter how hard women try, they will be indifferent.

A man who really loves you, they must pay special attention to your temptation, because they really care about you, are afraid of losing you, and decide to live with you for a lifetime, so they will have such a big reaction and be angry with your doubts.

As the saying goes, "the unattainable heart is always in turmoil, and the favored one is never afraid." For women who are favored by men, I want to say a word, even if men love you again, it can't be your confidence to go to Shanghai without fear, because it is doomed to harm others and yourself. Remember, never try to test human nature, because no matter what the result, you can't afford it.