Chatting skills of mature men

1, emergency, speak slowly. In case of emergency, if you can calm down and think, and then calmly make things clear, you will leave a stable and impulsive impression on the listener, thus increasing others' trust in you. 2, small things, humorously said. In particular, some kind reminders, said in a joke, will not make listeners feel stiff, they will not only accept your reminders, but also enhance their intimacy. 3. If you are not sure, speak cautiously. For those things you are not sure about, if you don't say it, others will think you are hypocritical; If you can say it strictly, people will think you are a trustworthy person. Don't talk nonsense about things that didn't happen. People hate people who make much ado about nothing. If you never speculate or talk nonsense, others will think you are mature, educated and conscientious. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do. As the saying goes, "Without Jin Gangzuan, there would be no porcelain". If you don't easily promise what you can't do, it will make the listener feel that you are a person who "keeps his word" and is willing to believe you. 6. You can't say hurtful words. Don't use words to hurt others, especially between close people. Don't say anything that hurts others. This will make them feel that you are a kind person and help to maintain and enhance their feelings. 7, sad things, don't say it when you see people. When people are sad, they all have the desire to talk, but if you talk to others, it will easily make the listener feel too stressed, suspicious and alienated. At the same time, it will give people the impression that they don't think about others and want to pass on the pain to others. 8. Be careful about other people's business. Everyone needs a safe distance, and not commenting and spreading other people's affairs easily will make people feel safe in communication. 9. Do your own thing and listen to what others say. Listening to outsiders' opinions on your own affairs can give people a modest impression; Second, people will think you are a reasonable person. 10, listen more and talk less about respect. Older people often don't like young people to comment too much on their own affairs. If young people talk too much, they will think that you are not a respectful, modest and studious person. 1 1. Tell me about couples. Between husband and wife, what they are most afraid of when they encounter something is to blame each other, and to discuss with each other will play the role of "affection" and enhance the feelings of husband and wife. 12, about children, enlighten and say. Especially adolescent children are very rebellious. Taking a gentle and firm attitude to enlighten them can not only make children feel good about you, but also make them willing to be friends with you, and can also play a role in persuasion. Chatting Skills of Mature Men 2 Chatting Taboos 1. The dominant consciousness of negative emotions. Humorous boys can turn negative emotions into positive emotions in a few words, which will make girls feel very attractive. Knowing how to improvise is also a sign of high emotional intelligence. But there are a lot of boys who are always bursting with negative emotions when there are not many things, and girls are not so good. He complained first, but he was angry. Such a boy will directly make girls feel unable to get along. Second, I only care about my own expression and don't realize the attitude of others. We say that in love, boys should learn to show their charm, such as shaping an excellent circle of friends. However, some boys have turned showing their charm into pretending to be B in the eyes of girls. There is no problem in shaping the circle of friends, but you must never praise yourself every time you chat, because others say that you are awesome and stronger than you say that you are awesome. Third, always be better than others in words. Men are capable but not ostentatious, and can get along with people around them modestly, which is a sign of high emotional intelligence. Love is not an argument. Don't win an argument and lose love. For example, I know what I said is wrong, but I don't want to listen to other people's opinions, argue irrationally and insist that I am right. Everyone will think that such people are unreasonable, not to mention the girls you get along with! Fourth, I don't like empathy and don't care about other people's feelings. When going out for a date, meeting, chatting or playing together, girls are already quiet or unhappy. But you can't see it at all, and you are still talking, no matter whether others like it or not. So when dating together, we must pay more attention to each other's expressions and emotions. 5. Improve yourself by belittling others. Some boys like to exaggerate. They don't do well, but they always find fault with others. This kind of performance is often an act of inferiority. Because of our inner inferiority, we will suppress others in this way to set off our own Excellence, but this annoys girls the most. Sixth, I don't understand the subtext of girls. In blind date or love, girls have a lot of subtext we need to know. For example, girls say: it's so cold. She is testing whether you care about her. Maybe she just wants you to get close. You can smile and say, shall I undress you or give you a hug? Girls promise to go to private space with you alone, so you might as well be bold, otherwise girls will think you are too timid. "Do you want to be an animal, or are you worse than an animal?" There should be quotes here. Seven, emotional instability. If a boy is emotionally unstable, it will make girls feel insecure, helpless and naive. Therefore, emotional stability is a necessity for a mature man, and it is also a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. In short, as a man, we should improve our emotional intelligence. When chasing girls or falling in love, you should be confident, responsible and learn to control your emotions. You should have the spirit and tolerance that men should have, and become a man that girls can't resist.