The embarrassment of forty years old

At the age of 40, it is said that one is not confused, but in fact it is embarrassing. Especially the group in the early 1980s were extremely embarrassed.

This generation is a generation that has been completely calculated.

When I was born, I encountered family planning. Even if I had brothers and sisters, they would do it secretly, or they would be punished to the point of bankruptcy, or they would be kicked out of their homes.

As I approach the age of 40, I have encountered the policy of liberalizing the second child again, and now it has liberalized the policy of third child. Don't give birth, it seems that I want to give birth again. Give birth, but I’m afraid I can’t afford it.

When people of this generation were in primary school, there was no money to go to college.

When I was in college, there was no money to go to elementary school.

In this generation, when they are under working age, their jobs are assigned.

When I reached the age of working, I couldn’t find a decent job over and over again.

This generation has encountered non-agricultural residents who have to spend money to get into the city, and they have also seen non-agricultural residents who cannot go back even if they spend money.

This generation, when they first started working, were treated like their grandchildren.

After getting involved, you can’t even say harsh words to employees who have just joined the work.

For people of this generation, when they are not leaders, it is great to be a leader. They have food and drink, and they envy the dead.

After becoming a leader, it is really difficult to be a leader. I dare not eat or drink, which is very frustrating.

People of this generation will be scorned if they try to be teachers.

The people above make irresponsible remarks and automatically turn on the acceptance mode.

People of this generation say they will never grow old and die too early.

People of this generation are too timid to say yes or no.

This generation is not only aggrieved, but also embarrassed. The so-called no confusion is just for psychological comfort.

There are two-faced leaders at the top, colleagues who are Loach around them, and boss-like subordinates below.

If this is the case, it will naturally escalate the frustration and double the embarrassment.

In the words of a friend, from today on, live only for yourself.

I understand him and what he means.

Even if you are a two-faced person, if you are honest and do not deceive me, then treat me with sincerity. Duplicity leads to tit-for-tat confrontation.

No matter how slippery you are, you will do what you should do, and I will do what I should do. Anyone who infringes on three of my territories will be punished, both near and far.

As big as you are, I will do whatever I ask you to do. If you don’t want to do it, I will leave you there first. It is difficult to pack a person, but it is easy to refrigerate one.

At the age of forty, you need to know what you should do, what you can and cannot do.

At the age of forty, you need to know what you want and don’t want, you need to know what is true and what is false, and you need to know how to ignore right and wrong.

Anyone who is good to me is a good person. No matter how bad he is, he is still a good person to me.

Anyone who is bad to me is a bad person. No matter how good he is, he is still a bad person to me.

No matter what your original intention is, what I care about is the results, especially the results related to me.

No matter how beautiful the words are, they cannot change the cruelty of the result.

At the age of forty, you can’t just listen to what people say, but also watch what people do.

Someone who advises you to get more rest thirty times is no match for someone who hands you a pillow.

When you are forty years old, you need to know who is a friend and who is an enemy, who is an enemy who can be transformed into a friend, and who is an enemy disguised as a friend.

When you are forty years old, you still need to know who you are, whether you are really powerful, or whether the platform is powerful, or the people behind it are more powerful.

At the age of forty, you must be able to release your grievances and resolve the embarrassment around you.

I am not aggrieved, it is others who are aggrieved.

I am not embarrassed, it is others who are embarrassed.

To put it more arbitrarily, it is everyone else except yourself.

Many people who seem to care about you may just come to inquire about information, or who is doing it.

Many people who seem to be just harassing you may be here to cause trouble, or are waiting to see your jokes.

It’s not that I insist on thinking about society in such a dark way, it’s just that I’m too embarrassed at this age.

The person above is afraid that you will threaten him. The people below are always ready to make a move.

Human nature is complex and must be guarded against. Be yourself, there is no other way.

As for right or wrong, it is not the most important thing. The most important thing is to have your own personality and characteristics, and to form a personal style.

If you have your principles of life and doing things, it will be enough to calm the grievances and resolve the embarrassment.

That means you are really no longer confused.