How to comfort a person's emo state?

Find an object, and then let him coax like this:

1, indicating understanding and recognition, and telling each other that you have been there.

Many people will tell each other not to want emo when dating emo. How bad emo is, they should be happy soon. Of course, their original intention is good, that is, they want to make the object happy quickly, but they don't know that such comfort will make the other person even more unhappy.

Because this way is equivalent to telling the other party: "Your state at this time is wrong! You have to change it quickly! " In fact, emo people themselves know that they are in a bad state, but they just can't change it. At this time, such words of blame and comfort from outsiders will make them more anxious and more eager to get rid of emo. However, emotional problems should not be urgent, and the more urgent, the worse.

Therefore, when dealing with emo people, the first thing we have to do is to express our understanding of each other and make them feel that "although our state is not so good, it is not so bad." Then we can express to each other that we will always be with them, and don't worry that the state of emo will make us bored.

This kind of comfort will make people feel at ease and calm in emo. They will no longer be eager to get rid of the emo state, but will feel this emo state more attentively. This attitude of letting nature take its course and not opposing emotions will make the other person's emo emotions fade faster.

2. Distract the other person's attention and interrupt rumination.

Why do people often fall into some negative emotions and find it difficult to get out? This actually has a lot to do with rumination. When we are in a bad mood, we often think of negative life events in the past, which will further strengthen our bad mood and make our mood sink deeper and deeper. This phenomenon is called "thinking rumination".

Therefore, in order to alleviate the negative emotions of the object, what we need to do is to divert the attention of the other party as soon as possible, so that the other party has no time to think about the bad things that happened before. This way interrupts rumination, turning bad emotions into passive water, which will soon dissipate.

There are many ways to distract the other person. For example, give each other a small gift to remind them of the little things in your happiness and make them have no energy to think about bad things; Or take the other person to the place where ta wants to go but has never been, and replace the negative emotional experience with positive emotional experience.

3. Help the subjects to cultivate more effective emotional regulation methods.

In addition to the above methods, we also need to help the subjects cultivate more effective methods of emotional regulation. After all, we are not always around each other's emo, so we need to let each other have the ability to face the emo state alone.

For example, we can tell each other that we can take the initiative to talk to people around us when we are in emo. Talking can not only relieve our bad emotions, but also deepen the emotional connection between the two sides. For another example, we can guide each other and cultivate some hobbies at ordinary times, so that we can immerse ourselves in hobbies and cure ourselves when we are in emo.

How to coax an object emo? We can express our understanding and empathy for the object first, and then try to divert the attention of the object. When the subject's mood gets better, we can help the subject cultivate more effective ways to relieve his mood. Through these three tricks, I believe that the object no longer needs to be afraid of the emo state.