What is a person with INTJ personality like?

Since the senior year, Cai Chuhe 1 6 has passed the personality test every 1 year, and every time it is INTJ.

IN fact, there are many introductions about INTJ on the Internet (It is said that IN is the favorite type of psychological test), and other respondents' answers are quite complete, but even after reading these, I personally feel confused about INTJ's personality type, and always feel that their discussion lacks the assistance of some real cases.

As a pure INTJ person, I will use my own language and personal experience to talk about my understanding of INTJ.

INTJ is called "architect". Thanks to IN, they are independent and have a perfect and pure inner world. For example, even without any electronic products and entertainment tools, they can roam in their own thoughts all day.

The existence of TJ makes them natural "master planners". Even if they eat at noon, they can quickly and automatically plan Plan A, Plan B and even various emergency plans in their minds. In my university, relying on the ability of careful planning, I became the student leader of two volunteer activities with 500 people.

Perhaps in the eyes of many people, INTJ is mysterious and elegant. On the one hand, their proportion in the crowd is very small (about 0.8%). On the other hand, the characteristics of "introversion+thinking" make it very easy for them to learn abstract concepts. Most INTJ people are "other people's teachers" (sorry to lower the level of INTJ).

The typical INTJ is mark zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook. Of course, INTJ is also a frequent visitor in animation, such as Sasuke in Naruto and Aiko Haiyuan in Detective Conan.

Perhaps seeing this, many people will yearn for INTJ: "Rare, independent, and a master of learning, life will be smooth sailing." Indeed, taking my own experience as an example, I grew up with little trouble in my studies and grew up with praise. I am also fortunate to have won more than 30 university-level honors in the university.

However, is INTJ really that perfect? Actually, it's not. As mentioned just now, INTJ is an "architect". They have been trying to shape people and things in the real world into what they want. It looks beautiful, doesn't it

Unfortunately, most INTJ people are naturally strict perfectionists, which leads them to be very picky about people and things in the real world. When they or others can't meet their own requirements, INTJ will mercilessly attack themselves and the people around them because of the imperfect emotional function.

Therefore, many INTJ are born with social defects (of course, most of them have lonely childhood, which leads to their poor social skills), and their maverick behavior and critical attitude towards people are easily isolated. I have a deep understanding of this. From the childhood when my two best friends transferred to other schools until I graduated from college 1 year, I basically didn't have a friendship for more than 1 month.

Social defects lead to their lack of interpersonal support. If parents and teachers don't understand, they will be completely isolated.

The most terrible thing is that many INTJ not only like to criticize others, but also like to attack themselves. Sometimes I feel that I am living in the "strict family education" in my mind. Every time I do something that doesn't reach 100, a voice will automatically pop up in my head and tell me, "What's wrong with you?" ? Don't even have the courage? "

If I were any other personality, I might not care about my inner self-slander, but as a pure perfectionist, INTJ would take "the road ahead is always painful and tortuous" as its creed. Therefore, even if I have made countless achievements, INTJ's happiness in life is often extremely low, and INTJ is also a type that is very prone to mental illness. ...

I don't know if you are the same as I used to be. The question you think most about every day is "am I normal?" When I was a sophomore, I often had headaches and chest tightness because of all kinds of strange negative thoughts in my heart.

Universities are addicted to the pessimistic philosophy of Osamu Dazai, Schopenhauer and others (in retrospect, their pessimism breeds endless love), and from time to time they talk about nihilism such as "life is empty and life is meaningless".

Therefore, immature INTJ will hate himself and even want to give up his life. Fortunately, INTJ's academic performance was acceptable, and the help of psychology books, relatives, teachers and classmates helped me out of the shadows. Of course, it took nearly 10 years.

If you are INTJ, I hope you don't despair after reading this article. After all, we are just a little different from others, not a mental problem. In fact, it is not difficult for INTJ to get out of the haze. As long as we realize some facts, INTJ can live a happier life:

Although the world may envy and hate INTJ, I hope you don't hate yourself, learn more about INTJ, and look at other INTJ stories, and you will find that you are not alone.

I have come into contact with no less than four intjs in my life. In fact, from the perspective of onlookers, they are just "introverted and sensitive ordinary children."

Emotion and Emotion is a difficult and important course for INTJ. In too many cases, INTJ will suppress his emotions for fear of injury and misfortune, but there is no way to suppress his emotions, just like a pressure cooker. If you suppress too much, your emotions will explode. ...

Many INTJ hold a highly negative attitude towards "emotions" because they are caught in a vicious circle of "suppressing emotions → erupting → further suppressing → erupting". In fact, the world is not as full of thorns as we thought. In fact, in the eyes of others, many INTJ are "hard-working, smart and lovely" people (more than 30 people in my life have made similar statements to me), which is actually the case.

It may be a little difficult at first, that's all right. If you have difficulty in expressing yourself orally or in person, you can write like me, and you don't have to publish it. Just write it yourself.

In fact, INTJ has unparalleled advantages in self-awareness. As long as they look on coldly, many pains and doubts will be broken.

Many INTJ people are very sensitive. One of the important reasons why they are not smooth in interpersonal communication is that they like to make negative guesses about others. In my most sensitive period, I even inferred from other people's eyes that "he was going to kill me".

In fact, I hope you can understand that many times we think that "others are demanding and malicious to us" is actually "demanding and malicious to ourselves"

I always thought my parents wanted me to "study hard at all costs" In fact, my parents told me 10 many times that "the biggest wish is that I can live happily." The so-called "study hard at all costs" is just an excuse to torture yourself.

This is actually the most important thing, but it is also the most difficult to do. The biggest shortcoming of INTJ is that it is "too harsh on itself and others", which leads to very low happiness in life and problems in interpersonal communication.

Although these two issues are very important, the most fundamental thing is to be tolerant of yourself. There is a good saying: "The way you treat others is actually the way you treat yourself."

If you want to be tolerant of yourself, it is nothing more than "knowing yourself and accepting yourself".

Since my junior year, I have spent at least 1 hour every week reading books or articles on psychology, from behavioral psychology to positive psychology, from Adler to Whitmore. Sometimes these psychological books are like light to me, dispelling the darkness in my heart little by little.

I've tried a lot of counseling, but I can't help it. INTJ is a natural skeptic. If you want to be saved, you must save yourself.

Now I know a little about many things. Whenever there are fluctuations or negative effects in my heart, there will always be a voice jumping out of my heart and telling myself, "This is the XX effect. There is no need to do this. Please believe in yourself."

Finally, I want to end with a sentence I heard in a psychology group at Peking University:

Thinking gives us pain, but in the end it will give us happiness.