What happens when the joke goes too far?

Jokes are the spice of life, but jokes should be measured, otherwise they will be counterproductive and self-defeating.

I remember two years ago, several of our colleagues were chatting in the company office. A female colleague happened to have a pair of glasses the day before, so she took them out for everyone to see. Does her glasses look good on her? None of our brothers wanted to spoil his fun, saying it was good. As it happens, this incident always reminds our colleague of a joke. He gushed: "An old lady walked into a leather shoes shop and tried on several pairs of shoes. When the insole boss squatted down to measure his feet, the nearsighted old lady thought that her bare head was exposed and quickly covered it with a skirt. " "Shit," cried the shopkeeper, "the fuse is broken again." We are followed by laughter. Unexpectedly, after this incident, I never saw this female colleague with glasses again, and I never said hello to Lao Chang again when I met him.

The reason is not difficult for you to understand. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. In the past, this was just a joke about myopia. However, this female colleague may think like this: "It doesn't matter if you make fun of me for wearing glasses, but it also implies that I am an old lady. Am I old? I am only 28 years old. "

Therefore, when telling jokes, we should first look at who to tell them to, and first think about whether it will cause misunderstanding. This will often seriously hurt a person's self-esteem, but it is unexpected. Enough is enough when joking. Usually it's just a joke, and you forget it after a word or two. You can't keep staring at one person. If you do this, most people can accept it. If you keep joking with someone, the average person can't stand it. Furthermore, if the joke embarrasses the other party, it loses the meaning of the joke.

Humorous but not obscene sentences can make people happy and think deeply. This kind of intelligent humor is the best in joke dialogue, which makes everyone happy without hurting others. If you can do this sincerely, you will certainly gain more people's trust, admiration and friends.