How to overcome the fear of going to work?

Many college students who are about to graduate face this confusion: The current employment situation is so bad, what should I do if I can’t find a job if my major is not good? I am introverted and not good at communication. What should I do? The salary is so low, what should I do if I can't support myself?

This leads to fear of work, fear of social interaction, etc.

In fact, people who have been in the ivory tower for a long time and are used to living a life of peace and quiet will find themselves unable to adapt if they suddenly have to join the fierce competition in society.

But we don’t need to be too afraid. To overcome your fear of going to work, try the following aspects:

First, think about whether you have social phobia?

The main manifestation of social phobia is the fear of communicating with others, worrying that one can not handle the relationship with other people, and then wanting to close oneself and minimize contact with other people.

If you have this mentality, I recommend you watch the movie "The King's Speech", which tells the story of a king who stuttered and finally overcame his psychological barriers through psychological training and became an excellent speaker. story.

This story has two implications.

Chief, it is important to seek professional help. They have their own set of theories and methods. You can try to get in touch with them and listen to the advice of professionals. This will be much more effective than other people's cynicism.

Secondly, you must clearly understand that this is your own psychological barrier, consciously and proactively overcome it, give yourself positive guidance, consciously restrain yourself when you don’t want to communicate with others, and let yourself blend in with the crowd. You can talk to the people around you and slowly find confidence from them.

This situation is rare after all, and mainly occurs among young people who stay at home for a long time after graduation and grow old.

But a small number does not mean that it does not exist. If you really have this kind of mentality, you must inform your relatives in time and actively seek professional help. You should also try to go out and overcome your own demons.

Second, think about whether the fear is caused by your lack of understanding of society.

Many college students or young people who have just entered the society are afraid of employment. They think that enterprises are scourges and public examinations are protected by officials. They have no power and no way to compete with others in society.

Most of this idea comes from the plots of certain novels or misinformation from TV series and the media. Enterprises must be for profit, and the people they recruit must be able to create profits for them. This is the need for enterprise development. , is also the inevitable result of social development. Instead of blaming others, it is better to work hard to cultivate your own skills and make yourself valuable so that others will be willing to pay you.

As a senior who has taken public examinations for many years, it may have been possible to conduct civil service examinations in secret, but after the 18th National Congress of the Communist Party of China, it can be said that it is basically impossible.

First of all, for the written test, the test papers are sealed in advance and unsealed on the spot. They have been kept by the human resources and social security department before. Do you think how much connections do you need to know the questions in advance?

Secondly, interviews are conducted by selecting examiners from different places, usually 7. The examiners and examination rooms are randomly selected after the examination starts. Even if someone has a great ability and knows the examiners in the examination room, he has to bribe the divisional levels of different departments at the same time. For the above 7 examiners, think about the possibilities for yourself.

Again, now that the self-media is so developed, once someone reports it, the media can find news wherever they want. A group of people who have worked hard for decades to become leaders are collectively dismissed. If you are the leader, you will do it. Quit?

Therefore, there is never absolute fairness in society, only relative justice. Just like people do not have absolute freedom.

What you can do is to go out boldly and don’t listen to other people’s criticism of the company. You haven’t seen him fishing for three days and drying the net for two days; don’t listen to other people’s exposure of civil servants’ inside stories. Part of it is his personal obscenity. In today's society, opportunities and pressures coexist. If you don't step out, you will never know how powerful you are.

Although companies are all for-profit and have relatively strict employee assessment mechanisms, they are also based on a relatively fair approach.

Many companies are very humane and provide better welfare benefits to their employees than civil servants.

Have you ever heard of Alibaba’s employee meals? Located at the Alibaba Group headquarters in Hangzhou, the restaurant is open 24 hours free of charge. It has a variety of self-service drinks, fruits, and desserts, which is comparable to a five-star buffet.

There was a joke before: An Alibaba employee was discussing business with a partner. During lunch time, he wanted to invite the partner to a famous restaurant in Hangzhou. Unexpectedly, the partner refused and made it clear that he must eat in the Alibaba employee restaurant. Have a meal.

So, companies are not a scourge. As long as you have enough ability, you can also choose to work in a company that is relatively humane and has excellent benefits.

The premise is that you have the ability to enter this kind of company!

Third, don’t use fear as an excuse for laziness.

This may be a bit hurtful, but if you look carefully, there are many examples around us.

Nowadays, many old people spend their days playing computer games at home, watching live broadcasts and checking WeChat, but they just refuse to go out to work. Either use the excuse to take the postgraduate entrance examination or take the civil service examination, or simply say that the real economy is not easy to do and study at home for a few years.

I have always opposed naked exams, no matter what they are tested on. On the one hand, taking exams naked will put you under a lot of pressure; on the other hand, taking exams naked often has the worst review results.

No matter what, if you really want to take the exam, it is understandable to stay at home and wait for the exam. What you are most afraid of is that you use the exam as an excuse to waste your youth. There are games under the review book!

I would like to add here that I am not discriminating against playing games. I admire and envy many people who make money by playing games. What I am saying here is that they purely play games aimlessly and waste their youth.

No matter what kind of excuses you make, they are all lies to yourself and others after all. Life is always your own, and you always have to walk your own road.

Fourth, never waste your youth, otherwise you will regret it later.

When I was in my twenties, I lamented that the time was infinitely good. I was still young and could have fun for a few years. It was not until I was twenty-eight or nine that I suddenly realized that I had accomplished nothing, had no job, no one to get married, and no one to have a baby. Having a baby, buying a house, and buying a car all kinds of pressures came one after another, and I woke up from my sleep, feeling that my good time was wasted.

Many years ago, I was superstitious about the saying: While you are young, work hard and society will tolerate you.