How to make others respect you?

Maybe you are knowledgeable, maybe you are eloquent, maybe you are gentle, but just having these things doesn't necessarily make you a popular person. In interpersonal communication, how others like or hate you is determined by your social level, taste and way of dealing with people. It can also determine the success or failure of your career. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, pay attention to cultivate and restrain personal character and accomplishment from the following aspects, and you can effectively win the favor of others and avoid being annoying.

Be modest and self-disciplined, don't be competitive.

Men and women who have just entered the society are young, energetic, quick to accept new knowledge and ideas, and full of pioneering and innovative spirit, which is a rare talent advantage. However, if this advantage is mistaken for chasing fame and fortune, grandstanding and relying on talents, it will easily lead to the misunderstanding of arrogance and competitiveness. In social situations, no matter how rich your knowledge and eloquence are, you should always strictly restrain yourself with humility. In this way, your personal prestige and image will not be affected, but you will get a good relationship.

The breeze is drizzling, don't hurt people.

In real life, people who are annoying because of bad words, sharp language or "knife mouth and tofu heart" abound. As the saying goes, "a mistake in one sentence can open a thousand mouths to ridicule." Warm and generous, people dare not speak, the other party will have a spicy reaction; Chen Yi is obscure and clumsy, and the other party will have a bitter reaction; Complain blindly and beg for mercy everywhere, and the other party will have a shabby reaction; It's fun to stab someone in the back, and the more you hurt, the faster you think the other person will have a painful reaction.

In order to avoid hurting people, think twice before you speak, don't be outspoken, be gentle and drizzly, and don't innuendo. Before you speak, at least consider this question: does he want to listen to you? If you want to listen, just say it. If you don't want to listen, you might as well shut up. At the same time, be good at empathy. If your "golden advice" is told to you by the other party, are you happy or unhappy? In this way, we will gradually get rid of this unpopular problem.

Be reasonable and forgive others, don't be tit for tat.

Young people are hot-blooded and easily excited when things happen, especially when they think they are right. This way of life is very unpopular. Because no one is perfect and no one is a saint, how can we do things without making mistakes? Everyone is in a bad mood sometimes. If you feel uncomfortable or even disgusted with what the other person said, you might as well turn a deaf ear. If you think the other person's behavior is not pleasing to the eye, you might as well turn a blind eye. Why should we be too serious, haggle over every ounce, pursue hard, and must respond sharply? Respect others, don't be "bureaucratic"

The so-called "bureaucracy" means that some people only allow others to respect themselves, but not others. If you inadvertently form this bad habit when interacting with others, you will be disgusted by everyone. Respecting others is not only a person's code of conduct, but also a person's reputation and image in interpersonal communication. No matter what you do and don't respect others, your image in people's minds will be greatly reduced at first, not to mention being full of bureaucracy and boring.

Behave yourself and don't pry into private affairs.

People who have just stepped into society feel fresh about everything, so they are willing to get to the bottom of it. I didn't know that people in society are very complicated, and there are many things that people don't want others to know in order to protect their own safety. Therefore, generally speaking, don't ask about other people's private lives except those who are very close or familiar. Sometimes, in order to express your concern, you have to ask others for permission and wait for others to tell you. If the other person is willing to tell you something, you should never spread the "private matter" you know as news.

Make yourself a popular person.

In life, we get along with others and meet different people and things every day. Some people are proud of the spring breeze, while others slip of the tongue in communication ... In this case, you should realize whether you are a popular person at this moment. I think the key is to understand the weakness of human nature: 1. Are you genuinely interested in others? If you are really interested in others, you can make more friends in two months than a person who just wants others to be interested in him for more than two years. 2. Whether you can remember other people's names, remember other people's names and call them out easily is actually equivalent to giving others a clever and effective compliment. 3. Can you be a good listener? A person who talks to you is more interested in his own needs and problems than yours. 4. Do you let others save face? In fact, you may forget who you hurt, but the person you hurt will never forget you, and he will never remember your merits. 5. Do you always smile? Laughter is the most beautiful language. Language is used for communication, and communication is multifaceted. As long as you smile forever, you will always be greeted with a smile. In short, be honest with others in life, stand in each other's position and think of each other, and slowly, you will become a very popular person.

Let people not hate your methods! 1. looks not annoying. If you are not good-looking, let yourself be talented; If you have no talent, always smile.

2. temperament is the key. If you can't learn fashion, you'd rather be simple.

3. When shaking hands with people, you can shake hands for a while. Sincerity is a kind of wealth.

It is not necessary to use "I" as the subject.

5. Don't borrow money from friends.

6. Don't "force" guests to look at your family photo album.

7. When fighting with others, please sit next to the driver first.

8. Insist on saying nice things about others behind their backs, and don't worry that these nice things won't reach the ears of the parties.

9. When someone speaks ill of someone in front of you, you just smile.

10. Drive your own car and don't stop to say hello to your colleagues who ride bicycles. People will think you are showing off.

1 1. Visit your colleague when he is ill. Sit naturally in his hospital bed and wash your hands carefully when you get home.

12. Don't let everyone know the past.

13. Respect people who don't like you.

14. Things are not people; Or be ruthless about things and have feelings for people; Or do first and do second.

15. Self-criticism always makes people believe, but self-praise is not.

16. Nothing can improve your bowling performance like a bystander. So, don't be stingy with your cheers.

17. Don't take others' kindness for granted. You know, gratitude.

18. The "myna" on the banyan tree is talking, just talking but not listening, and the result is a mess. Learn to listen.

19. Respect the master and cleaning aunt in the reception room.

20. Remember to start with "we" when you speak.

2 1. Give a hand to everyone who sings on the stage.

22. Sometimes you should know perfectly well that your diamond ring is expensive! Sometimes, even if you want to ask, you can't ask, for example, how old are you?

23. If you talk too much, you lose. There are many people, so you talk less.

24. change the unspoken "no" into "it will take time", "I'll try my best", "I'm not sure" and "I'll call you when I decide" ...

25. Don't expect everyone to like you. It's impossible. Making most people like you is a sign of success.

26. Of course, you should like yourself.

27. If you are performing or giving a speech, if only one person is listening, you should continue with your heart, even if no one is cheering, because this is the road and cradle of your success. You should not watch others succeed, but hope you succeed. Report to the authorities

Supplemented by the respondent on September 29, 200918:12.

First, we should attach importance to the friendship between comrades. Philosopher Bacon said, "Friendship doubles happiness and halves pain", and "People without sincere friends are really lonely". Being with friends makes people feel happy and unrestrained, thus reducing psychological pressure. Remember: the deep friendship between friends is more precious and beautiful than any gold, silver and jewelry. Second, we must distinguish between good and evil. Actively participate in the good things that can be done in life and try to support the things that cannot be done; In the face of evil, we must stand up and dare to face up and fight. Third, we must believe that human nature is good. Don't always judge others from the bad side. No one is born bad. Fourth, we should tell the truth and do practical things. Telling the truth and doing practical things will make people feel relaxed and happy, while cheating and believing in superstition will easily make people nervous and become the enemy of mental health. Fifth, be cautious about "independence." Doing something wrong when you are alone is often much more stressful than doing something wrong in public, so be careful when you are alone and don't run amok. Sixth, don't be jealous of others. Jealousy can easily alienate others and make you lose your psychological balance. In fact, rather than envy others' achievements, it is better to fight for it yourself. Seventh, lose your temper less. Frequent tantrums will not only intensify contradictions, affect interpersonal relationships, but also cause endless harm to the body due to emotional instability. Don't say that people are right or wrong. Say that people are right and wrong, and friends and colleagues turn against each other. In the worst case, people will die, which will add unnecessary pain to others and themselves. Nine, open your heart. People who are open and honest with others can gain the trust and understanding of others, be welcomed by others and live a relaxed and happy life. Ten must take into account the distance. If you want to solve problems and do things, you must not ignore the immediate future. People who are eager for quick success and quick success will have greater psychological pressure when cleaning up the mess.